Guilt
Does anyone know how to deal with guilt for something you did as a kid that you feel is disgusting and worry that it could have hurt someone you loved.
Yeah I feel that way, it's taken so much from me for over a year now. I can't forgive myself, I feel like what I did was pretty bad. But I constantly remind myself I was a kid and should just forget it but my mind doesn't let me do that. Idk how to just forget it and move on, I'm constantly paranoid about it
Arguing with your mind by saying you've been a kid back in the time is compulsive. This is why thoughts keep coming back. Thank your thoughts for reminding you and invite them to stay longer and practice that. I know it sounds weird in the beginning but it's practice.
@Pluriel Does that work? The last thing I want is for them to stay longer
It's a process. I've dealing with guilt and other mental fallout from stupid things I did as a kid and that's really all I can say. When it comes up to bother me I just remember that I can't figure out what happened back then and I can't keep bringing those events into the present. I focus on my ERP and sit with the anxiety as I go about my day until it passes. And I just trust the process. I can't hope to have a certain outcome. That's the hardest part. I guess just remember that your current self doesn't owe that guilt anything
When I was in kindergarten, an older kid at my babysitter’s house was sexually inappropriate with me. I felt horrible guilt about what had happened for a long time. It caused me to start having severe panic attacks at age seven. I constantly felt like I was carrying around a dirty secret. I couldn’t eat. The best way I can describe the guilt was the physical feeling that my stomach was heavy. I very recently, at the age of 18, had my first consensual sexual experience. Afterwards, I laid in bed next to the guy and silently endured a panic attack. I was afraid of feeling the guilt again. Like horribly afraid. I couldn’t calm myself down or logic it out in my head. This was after cancelling on this guy twice for fear of having sex and then feeling the guilt. I should capitalize that. The Guilt is more fitting. Guilt is something I cannot stand in the slightest, and the only way I could make myself stop panicking about this situation was to almost immediately tell my mom. Why? I’m an adult. I’m on the pill. It’s my personal life. She doesn’t need to know. But I was so afraid of The Guilt, and that was the only way to be sure I wouldn’t have to deal with it. Now I’m fine. But I’m afraid of not being able to enjoy certain aspects of my life because I’m so afraid of The Guilt returning.
is someone threw the same thing as me ? i feel so bad about things i’ve done while i was a pre/early teen, as sexual experimentation. It was Gross things that i’ll never do it again, i’m disgusted by it now. But i have so much guilt on me, i feel like i don’t deserve happiness after that. I know i was young and discovering sexuality but it don’t gives me enough relief. Thank guys, tell me how you feel about this.
I did something specific when I was 13-14 that I found now really really disgusting (I'm almost 18 now), I feel so ashamed about myself. (i didn't hurt anyone, it's just really not something you should do) i can't get it out of my head I really wanna tell someone but I'm afraid people will think I'm weird and disgusting I feel so guilty, I don't know what to do... I wanna feel normal. This memory triggers my thoughts about children a lot because I feel like a perv (again, didn't hurt any child it's just really weird) Help Lol
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