- Username
- Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 8w ago
- Username
- ScuderiaAlphaScuderiaAlpha
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 8w ago
If you watch Dr McGrath’s NOCD webinars on YouTube there’s a great little speech he does in response to a question where he says “I quite frankly call BS on “it feels like” because I don’t care what it feels like I care about what it actually IS”. Go look it up it’s good stuff what he says and it rings true. I can “feel like” the train that I’m sitting on right now as I write this response to your post is about to derail and go off the tracks and crash in a big heap. Does that mean it’s actually true? I mean “it feels like” that could certainly be true. But no it does not mean that it is actually true. Just because something “feels like it” doesn’t make it true. This is one of OCDs best tricks to keep you trapped in compulsions and ultimately stay stuck.
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 8w ago
I’m so sorry it took me so long to respond 😭. But the thoughts that ocd can give to a person can definitely feel real at times, I know because I used to have lots of intense thoughts about my sexuality, whether it’s my brain telling me that “I’m just to worried to come out” or that “don’t you just want to try a guy” or way worse thoughts. But beachgirl I can only tell you one thing. And it’s that the thoughts are only as real as you make them. They can’t harm you, they can’t change you, and they definitely can’t change your sexuality. And for people that’s one of the hardest parts about dealing with OCD because, All of us already knew that, but our brain is just causing doubt about it. Over time I kind of just gave up. I quit trying to fight the thoughts and waste my energy on them because it wasn’t worth it. The thing about OCD is that it wants you to fight it, or prove it wrong so our brains can have a solid answer. But it doesn’t work that way. You have to sit with the anxiety. And once you do, you kinda realize that it’s not as intense as your brain is saying it is. I looked through some of your other posts and it seems like you’re constantly fighting with it, now it may seem like that’s the good thing to do, but it’s not. You fighting OCD is what OCD wants you to do because it gets attention from it. It’s like an annoying friend who needs attention by bothering you, but when you don’t play along with them, they leave you alone. Also beachgirl something that’s helped me a lot is knowing that you aren’t alone in this. Everyone at some point in their life deals with intrusive thoughts and they can vary for lots of different reasons. (My bad this post is so long 😭)
- Username
- Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 8w ago
@DannyDD It’s ok!! Thank you tho I needed to hear this!!
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 8w ago
@Beachgirl2024 No problem glad I could help 🙏🏿
- Username
- SpecklesSpeckles
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 8w ago
It just feels real I'm sure.
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 8w ago
@Speckles What thoughts are you having? And what does the feeling feel like?
- Username
- SpecklesSpeckles
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 8w ago
@DannyDD I'm just saying that the thoughts can feel so real and they aren't. It's not true most of the time
- Username
- Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 8w ago
@DannyDD Like me making out/dating a girl and girls private parts! But once it starts i make it go away/it goes away on its own
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- Username
- iwillbealright
- Date posted
- 5y ago
The thoughts are oh so bad again. I even can get turned on by the thought of being sexual with a girl but I really don’t want it. ( I’m a girl ). At least I don’t think I do. I looked up questioning sexuality and it said THIS MAY TRIGGER YOU— it said that if you fear it, it may be because you want it because “sexual attraction can be scary”. I don’t want to be with a girl but I feel like lately that’s all I can think about. I can’t even get turned on or get off ( sorry TMI maybe ) to the opposite sex but I can so easily with the same sex even though I don’t really want to. This is so scary I’m not sure what to do.
- Username
- idont241
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s like I get anxiety towards any girl now. This feeling of First, thinking they are pretty Then, getting these series of emotions I can’t describe but there’s a hole in my stomach Last, Anxiety. A lot of anxiety. Feels like I want to *date* them These “attractions” feel so real. Like in actually gay. It’s like nothing can convince I am not anymore. It feels too real. And when I see hot guys, i Can just acknowledge they are hot now. Nothing else. I really just want to cry. It feels as if I was always like this. But for some reason it feels like I lost a part of myself. Like I lost my interest in guys. . I’ll never be with a woman, but I don’t think I’ll ever even be with a guy. The only thing I feel is anxiety. They feel too real for ocd to be behind this all, for this to just not be... real.
- Username
- katia
- Date posted
- 5y ago
My thoughts are telling me to act on them and to attach feelings to the thoughts when I do it feel so real with feelings like when I see a girl I have to say she beautiful and I don’t get scared but I be having feelings when I say she’s cute as if I rlly mean it fr I hate this help me feel like I’m rlly gay fuckkkkk
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