- Username
- Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 12w ago
- Username
- ScuderiaAlphaScuderiaAlpha
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
If you watch Dr McGrath’s NOCD webinars on YouTube there’s a great little speech he does in response to a question where he says “I quite frankly call BS on “it feels like” because I don’t care what it feels like I care about what it actually IS”. Go look it up it’s good stuff what he says and it rings true. I can “feel like” the train that I’m sitting on right now as I write this response to your post is about to derail and go off the tracks and crash in a big heap. Does that mean it’s actually true? I mean “it feels like” that could certainly be true. But no it does not mean that it is actually true. Just because something “feels like it” doesn’t make it true. This is one of OCDs best tricks to keep you trapped in compulsions and ultimately stay stuck.
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 12w ago
I’m so sorry it took me so long to respond 😭. But the thoughts that ocd can give to a person can definitely feel real at times, I know because I used to have lots of intense thoughts about my sexuality, whether it’s my brain telling me that “I’m just to worried to come out” or that “don’t you just want to try a guy” or way worse thoughts. But beachgirl I can only tell you one thing. And it’s that the thoughts are only as real as you make them. They can’t harm you, they can’t change you, and they definitely can’t change your sexuality. And for people that’s one of the hardest parts about dealing with OCD because, All of us already knew that, but our brain is just causing doubt about it. Over time I kind of just gave up. I quit trying to fight the thoughts and waste my energy on them because it wasn’t worth it. The thing about OCD is that it wants you to fight it, or prove it wrong so our brains can have a solid answer. But it doesn’t work that way. You have to sit with the anxiety. And once you do, you kinda realize that it’s not as intense as your brain is saying it is. I looked through some of your other posts and it seems like you’re constantly fighting with it, now it may seem like that’s the good thing to do, but it’s not. You fighting OCD is what OCD wants you to do because it gets attention from it. It’s like an annoying friend who needs attention by bothering you, but when you don’t play along with them, they leave you alone. Also beachgirl something that’s helped me a lot is knowing that you aren’t alone in this. Everyone at some point in their life deals with intrusive thoughts and they can vary for lots of different reasons. (My bad this post is so long 😭)
- Username
- Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@DannyDD It’s ok!! Thank you tho I needed to hear this!!
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@Beachgirl2024 No problem glad I could help 🙏🏿
- Username
- SpecklesSpeckles
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
It just feels real I'm sure.
- Username
- DannyDDDannyDD
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@Speckles What thoughts are you having? And what does the feeling feel like?
- Username
- SpecklesSpeckles
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@DannyDD I'm just saying that the thoughts can feel so real and they aren't. It's not true most of the time
- Username
- Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@DannyDD Like me making out/dating a girl and girls private parts! But once it starts i make it go away/it goes away on its own
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- Username
- Beachgirl2024
- Date posted
- 22w ago
I don’t understand
I was so confident that I was straight 3 weeks ago and now all of a sudden it feels like I have become a lesbian! That doesn’t make any sense 😭
- Username
- King silly
- Date posted
- 18w ago
About to give up.
I keep feeling like I would find these things attractive and I keep catching myself thinking about it and agreeing with it and being like “yeah I would, oooh” and I’m like what the hell just happened??? Why does that happen?? I was so sure I wouldn’t do that but now I’m afraid All I know is I never be aware that they’re a kid till it’s too late, but at the same time I feel like I am aware that it is
- Username
- King silly
- Date posted
- 16w ago
I feel like a bad person and that it’s all over..
When I was half asleep today, trying to wake up, my brain kept asking me if I thought this picture of my friend was attractive, I kept replying with “ maybe, I don’t know, I really can’t tell” .. or… “ I feel like I do” “ maybe I do” “ I feel like I might” ,, and then I’m like wait she’s 13 in these pictures, I’m not sure if I was aware of it, but still, it doesn’t matter, I’m still saying it and I’m like “why am I saying this??” I generally don’t know how I feel anymore, I don’t wanna be a bad person, I just don’t understand why I think this is play to say, or feel?? Maybe because my brain is trying to justify it? It tries to justify everything wrong, so makes it feel like it so it makes it harder… I feel like a genuine bad person, because I don’t know how I feel about it, I really don’t know, I’m scared does it mean I’m a bad person? Because I don’t know how I feel about it. I asked myself if I’m genuinely attracted. And I don’t know anymore. Because I don’t know how I feel about it anymore, I feel like my brain is playing a part in it because it tries to tell me that it’s not wrong. Yes it is wrong though but it’s like no it’s not wrong, It makes me really scared. I generally feel like I’m attracted to her and that I have nothing against it and I don’t know what to do anymore., some people may argue that it’s not wrong, but I believe it’s wrong. So I have no idea why I fucking said that. I genuinely think it’s over. I don’t know if I actually am anymore. I asked myself do I actually feel attraction, because i used to go to a conclusion and say no I don’t. And actually feel that way. But now I don’t feel anything but like pain. Because I don’t want to be. At the same time I feel like I just lied and I do want to feel attraction. I just wanna explain how I feel but I can’t. All I know and what I can explain, is that when my brain was asking me these things I said “ I feel like I might maybe I do I can’t tell “ and why did I say that to a 13-year-old? Why? And why am I still saying it even after realizing that maybe I shouldn’t be saying it. I’m 16 for goodness sake. I don’t wanna think about these things. My brain is making me feel like I do and I do and I’m like I’m so confused.
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