Intrusive feelings?

I’m curious, what are intrusive feelings? I’m wondering if my situation resonates. If it does, cool. If it doesn’t, cool lmao. Here’s where my mind is at: Yesterday my bf had texted me late in the day that his schedule got moved around randomly so we wouldn’t be able to meet the next day like we had planned (today). I was disappointed which I allow myself to feel how it comes but I started getting intrusive thoughts how he doesn’t value our relationship, he’s purposely avoiding me, we aren’t compatible, etc. I know better than to let these thoughts navigate how I engage with my bf so while simultaneously feeling the anger these thoughts baited me to feel I begin to calmly do my erp. I text him back saying everything is okay and we should find another time we can meet. Sweet, we rearranged our plans and pushed it to this upcoming Saturday. I’m still doing the erp for said intrusive thoughts stated above and even after we discussed how we will meet on Saturday instead…I have this overwhelming feeling that something is wrong. Like I need to address something. I can’t put my finger on it nor do I want to ruminate on why or how this feeling has been lingering after we already addressed the plan changes. But I just get a feeling when I think of him and/or our relationship that there’s something wrong or just not right that needs to be addressed. I’ve been doing the erp for it today and have been feeling all the uncomfortableness of uncertainty 🤍 Open to hearing about whether or not it resonates but nonetheless it’s just another thing I’m using erp to treat. It’s like 11 pm as I’m writing so sweet dreams, good afternoon, or good morning when you read this, ty 🤍🐇 xx

JediMJ

Date posted: 7w

Just a thought, but you may also be dealing with a brain that struggles with change. That could add to feeling unsettled. My brain very much wants plans to stay the same and dealing with unexpected changes is hard for me. Having that awareness has helped me—I know that panicky feeling is more about my brain readjusting to changed circumstances than anything else. Things happen. Plans change. I’ve had to explain to my brain that this is normal and we’re capable of adjusting and we don’t need to assign extra meaning. Maybe that’s not you, but in case that resonates, I thought I’d share. Hope you wake up feeling better about the situation. 🙂

Anonymous

Date posted: 7w

I resonates with me. But only sometimes... I was always kind of person who lived very disorganized life without stable structure, not prepared to anything and had to improvize a lot of things. But recently sometimes I got so tired of many things that random and often minor changes compared to my expectations was big for me.

Anonymous

Date posted: 7w

Yes I am familiar with that feeling. I think it may be the very great progress to discover that naked feeling and expose onself to it. The anxious feeling that something is wrong, that I have to fix it. It is great to just sit with it. There is love in that. Ok I myself struggle with it, running in circles, trying to fix and avoid, totally lost in meaning. But... It still happeness sometimes, sometimes I can let loose and connect with it like this, sometimes I don't yet the reality of this and me being there with myself is behind all of the buzz anyway.

Mags2002

Date posted: 22w

Intrusive feelings: someone insights?

I would love to have some insight in this in general I deal with thoughts but for me it is the feelings that make ocd this difficult The feeling of disgust for my partner, the feeling of wanting the content of the thoughts , the feeling that this is the real me , the feeling that i am lying to myself and my partner, the loss of attraction,... Because when i write it like that ,that that these are feelings, it seems very much that i am just in drnial and i am bi but i cant love men anymore, or that i am not attracted to my bf and so on

🧡🍁🎃

Date posted: 20w

Feelings

Hey everyone, I wanted to come on here today to just share this post because I’ve been struggling with this recently. I just wanna know if this is a common thing in relationship OCD. So last Friday me and my boyfriend had a conversation that was important, and my emotions were high and I got a little emotional about something he said and we had a long talk about it, the conversation went great and afterwards everything was okay. On Saturday I was so excited to see him after work and I was overflowing with feelings of happiness and excitement. Sunday was great and we stayed on FaceTime just enjoying the day together after he went home that morning, and then came Monday. I remember getting a thought like this, “What if I’m losing feelings for him and I’m just leading him on?” And even this thought, “I don’t really feel anything towards him right now, does that mean I fell out of love with him?” And then the anxiety came, I could literally feel myself breaking out in cold sweats and I could feel the pain in my chest after these thoughts crossed my mind. But what bothers me so much about this is on Saturday and Sunday I felt so content and happy with him and I was so happy and I didn’t have any anxiety whatsoever, and then Monday came, and I had those thoughts and I feel almost numb and I can’t feel anything else except the feelings of worry and fear and my anxiety has been at a all-time high and I keep feeling this pain of guilt and hurt in my chest and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced the same. Because personally one thing I hate is that one day I can be so happy and energetic and then the next day I can feel numb and feel absolutely nothing towards my boyfriend. I’m not sure if this can correlate with my menstrual cycle as well, but I’ve heard that that can also make your relationship OCD worse and cause you to feel differently about your partner. Just wanting to see if anyone has dealt with the same!

Roseptlss

Date posted: 20w

Persistent Intrusive thoughts about past actions

Hi Everyone! I hope whoever is reading this is having a good day so far :) So for years now I’ve had very bad intrusive thoughts about things that I have done or embarrassing things that I’ve said or have happened and it’s mortifying and debilitating on a daily basis. Specifically these thoughts are mainly things that have occurred from 2018-2020 and some are more simple just as a stupid joke I made or being way too loud on calls while my family was trying to sleep and others being way more complex such as past relationships and how I’ve hurt some of the people I care the most about and when I have acted on intrusive thoughts and these thoughts will appear with no triggers at all I’ll just wake up and already have something I did just nagging me. I don’t want to live like this anymore and I’ve tried working through it with self compassion but sometimes the things I said or did back then it’s very hard to forgive myself for and I’ll reminisce on it for hours on hours, gaslight myself into believing that’s not how it happened and try to change the memory itself, or just suppress it entirely. I know those habits aren’t healthy and truly I want to get better but I don’t know how to overcome some of these thoughts. I have talked to my fiancé about this a few times and even today we talked about it and he fully supports me and is helping me work through it. I might also contact my sister too, I don’t talk to her overly too much but ever since I was little she’s thought I’ve had ocd and was one of the people who made me consider that I might have it (I’m still undiagnosed but I’ll try to when I have the money and time) and I know she could maybe provide some insight. Another thing that is troublesome about the situation is my other family members specifically my mom aren’t the most helpful and can trigger thoughts. To put it in perspective on how her thought process is and some background info she is an ER nurse and has been for 30 years due to this she believes she knows mainly everything there is about mental health and she gets extremely upset when I don’t take her advice or set boundaries. She’ll force me to talk to her about my problems and when I don’t want to she’ll pin me in a corner where I’m forced to and last summer I had a really bad episode and was really overstimulated and I just finished taking a shower and due to the water on me, my hair being wet (my hair is naturally curly and it takes forever to dry and it’s very draining taking care of even with a keratin treatment) and all the intrusive thoughts I was having and she forced me to talk to her and I did open up for the first time about my thoughts and brought up how sometimes I have thoughts of hurting my animals and it makes me physically sick. Her response to this was threatening to call the cops on me saying it was a behavioral thing and I was doing it for attention. I have never hurt any of my animals but later that day my cat came into my room and a few minutes later she comes up just gives me the death stare and after a few seconds just asks me “are you going to go kill snickers?” In the most condescending tone and she’s always like this daily where she’ll force advice onto me or get upset and yell and then reinforce thoughts I’m having. I just want to know first how to stop the thoughts from so frequently and how to heal in an environmental where it keeps reopening wounds despite trying to place boundaries? I’m sorry this is really long I usually do go really in detail about things and it’s just how I’ve always been. If anyone has any questions feel free to ask and I’ll answer them to the best of my ability. I really appreciate the time you took to read this and thank you for your help! 🥰

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