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- froggy123
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yes I've been there. It does feel like people are either lying or just don't understand. It really is OCD. Guilt is such a horrible emotion that it feels like it just HAS to come from somewhere in real life. I used to believe that so much that I just assumed I had forgotten or not been aware of awful things I must've done, and overemphasised tiny mistakes into huge systematic deliberate things which they just weren't. Now that I have much less guilt due to working on it, it's people's incorrect impressions about me which they have from me talking about myself so negatively and delusionally which worry me instead and I have to work on putting those things right somewhat. I have a couple of suggestions: guilt can be linked to toxic shame, which is worth researching, and over-responsibility, aka moral scrupulosity, which is also worth researching.
Thank you for taking the time to comment means a lot :)
@maddy79 No problem. Real event OCD is a real bitch, it tends to paralyze us from doing anything we associate with moving forwards. It's really important to get professional treatment if you can.
Ok for example, tomorrow if your enemy comes up to you and says negative things, we will of course not believe it because our enemy never wishes the best for you. Just like that ocd is your enemy. An enemy makes your friends your enemy. Just like that ocd is your enemy. OCD hates everyone. It’s everyone’s enemy. OCD sends all these doubts. We can’t listen to our enemy right. OCD is our enemy, the things it says to us, it gives us depression and anxiety. So you decide now.
Thank you for taking your time to comment. You’re right and it means a lot
@maddy79 :) happy to help
this is EXACTLY what I’m dealing with. it’s so torturous.
I have guilt over something I did in the past. and I obsess about it until no end recently and the fact that I can’t change it gives me panic... i obsess about suicide in turn. It’s so horrible. I used to mentally review the scenario but now I’m just obsessing about the fact that I can’t change it and it makes me feel so guilty and that there’s no way around it. it’s like that impending doom feeling
Yes exactly:( wishing you lots of healing. The only thing that helps me is not doing compulsions like reviewing or googling
I strongly relate to this. I dwell excessively on moments from my past to the point where the people involved are in my dreams. It affects so many aspects of my daily life. I’m also trying to cut back on asking for reassurance that I’ve grown and I’m not the same person I was, but it gets very hard to refrain from that sometimes.
It sucks to have that feeling of guilt
@maddy79 It does. I try to combat it now, it’s not as bad as it used to be!
@Amelia C You combat the guilt? How?
Does anyone have any advice on how to do ERP for this? I am unsure what my compulsions are for the guilty feeling I have.
I don’t even know what my compulsions are really lol I feel like oven been sitting in the anxiety and panic but haven’t really felt better yano
I feel that. If you catch yourself starting to mentally review again definitely try not to fall into that trap. At the end of the day we are human. We do things we aren’t proud of. And that doesn’t define our entire lives. Ocd can make a mountain out of a mole hill
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Exactly. just so hard to see anything clearly.
I relate so much. So hard to get past it because you’re worried you really did something wrong and it says more about who you are. It’s awful
Question, does anyone else experience real life event ocd? Like they have a lot of guilt about events that happened in the past and can’t seem to move on from it. It is related to my suicide ocd and I wish I could just move on from the past but I have so much guilt for it even though everyone is telling me to move on! I read that this could be considered real life event ocd but am just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
Does anyone else suffer from ‘Real life events’ OCD? I constantly worry about things I did as a teenager (from ages 15-19) I wasn’t a very nice person and think I was quite a toxic girlfriend in my first relationship. I’m always terrified that people are going to find out and that I’m going to lose my job or something awful. I also think that a lot of people would be so shocked if they knew some of the things that I’d done, and that they would think so much less of me. I feel a constant need to confess or apologise, and wish more than anything that I could erase that whole chapter of my life. Previously in counselling, we looked at ‘black and white thinking’, and I managed to rationalise that everyone makes mistakes and nothing I did was that bad, but I have this horrible feeling that one day this will all catch up with me. Is this just genuine guilt and remorse or is this a symptom of OCD? Thanks in advance.
Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
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