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- js94
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- FathomableFathomable
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Sounds like an avoidance compulsion.
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- MJocdMJocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
For me it is tbh. But it sort of worked out well in a way because I really was so dependent on porn before.
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- FathomableFathomable
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@MJocd A break from porn can be good for mental health if it's a habit which is making you feel icky or dependent. It's more no-fap which seems to clearly be a compulsion.
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- MJocdMJocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@Scoggy I stopped watching porn due to avoidance, I had a (irrational) fear of coming across something innapropate/illegal. I stopped going on any adult website, the good part was I unintentionally did nofap which I wanted to do for so long as I felt dependent on porn, but the bad part is that it fed my OCD monster. I am much better now, I read erotica now as ERP to get comfortable and put irrational fears to bed but they still pop up sometimes when I'm reading stuff aswell. Moral OCD is a bit of a bitch :/
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- NickerinoNickerino
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I can understand if you choose to not look at porn, because the porn industry is socially problematic in a lot of ways. But please, reconsider doing NoFap. Masturbation is a completely healthy and normal thing to be engaging in, as much as you want. This seems more like avoidance of sexuality which is bad for both your OCD (if your themes are sexual) and your feelings of sexual shame. Don't buy into the hype around NoFap. You're a human being entitled to being sexual in private. Not masturbating will not solve anything. If it does, it will only be temporary. I say this as someone who believes all of that stuff years ago.
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- MJocdMJocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I agree with this. I do think there is too much of a hype around it. However, in my honest opinion, Porn can be unethical, so stopping the fueling of the porn industry is okay but not mastrubating for extended periods of times is a bit unnecessary imo. Stopping porn is good in my opinion, you start forming more natural, healthier views of sex. Especially if you've been introduced to porn at a younger stage (like most of us are in this generation), you can get used to seeing rougher, fake porn which changes our idea of natural intimacy.
- Username
- NickerinoNickerino
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@MJocd Couldn't agree more!
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- 10lewis1010lewis10
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@NickC Yh I get your points, porn the problem not the masterbation
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- anxiousocderanxiousocder
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@MJocd Completely agree.. Its an avoidance thing which fuels ocd
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- BB8spheroBB8sphero
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@MJocd Im trying no flap and I'm really nervous. I really want to masturbate but I know it's bad for myself, it has been 3 days since I don't watch porn and I really need some help so I can get distracted from it
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- 10lewis1010lewis10
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@anxiousocder That depends on the person, if your doing nofap to avoid porn then that is avoidance but if your doing it to decrease anxiety Then try it, I’m over a week and it’s really helped, don’t Liston to anyone opinion on nofap because it really depends dw kn the person
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- 10lewis1010lewis10
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yh might as well try and see if it works for yourself
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- MJocdMJocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I mean I sort of did no fap, like i stopped visual porn completely and it changed my life in a good way. I feel better spiritually, I feel more clarity, I even lost 30 lbs. I wasn't mastrubating much either, I didnt feel a need too. I wasnt dependent on the feeling. But lately I've been mastrubating more and I also do read erotica, but sometimes my OCD attaches to things authors write in their stories and I'm like "that's abit of a weird thing to say, is that inappropriate? " and then I hyperfocus on it and ruminate over it. But all in all my life changed for the better when I stopped going on pornsites (which I did literally every night at one point).
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- 10lewis1010lewis10
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I got to 3 weeks of no fap and you do feel more confident but it gets so hard. Suppose to last 90 for full reboot
- Username
- MJocdMJocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@10lewis10 I mean I'm a girl, but I used to watch porn daily for years, I had a dependency on it. But I've been 2 years porn free :) I'll never watch it again tbh but my moral OCD stops me aswell.
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- 10lewis1010lewis10
- Date posted
- 4y ago
For me it’s not avoidance because I feel like porn is half the problem. It’s make you insecure and instead of going out and meet people you rather stay home and wank to porn which afterwards depresses me and gets more wrong and dirty porn is fake
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- advocate109
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Kebap18
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Just venting
Today I just feel like I'm at my worst trying to beat the compulsions. It just really hurts, after I have made progress I still get this episodes where I start believing all the intrusive thoughts. It feels like I am carrying a mountain of nothingness, just problem solving without a problem, rumination all the time. I'm trying my best to stop the compulsion, but today I relapsed. I'll come back to do ERP when I'm feeling better. On top of all that I'm really fighting my porn addiction, it's a lot of weight, but I'm doing good so far.
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- BigGyro09
- Date posted
- 2y ago
The p word
18+ only Aside from anxiety and intrusive thoughts, which to be honest I'm not as bothered by them like I used to be, there's something else that bothers me just as much, if not more than those things combined. That bothersome thing is pornography. It's been a bother in my life ever since I first discovered it when I was very young. It's always been messing with me. It's like this dirty secret that I engage with and I honestly don't know why I still do to this day. It doesn't help me. I feel bad about it every single time. It amplifies my anxiety and the other day it hurt a friend I deeply care about. The thing is, I've talked about this previously on here, so I just appear like a broken record. At this point, I'm addicted to it I don't want to be, but I am. This is something that takes advantage of your mind. Even if you say no, your mind won't. Worst yet, it appears everywhere in many forms. I feel so dirty. Everytime I end up relapsing I just feel horrible. Horrible due to the fact that this is associating with who I am, even though I don't think it aligns with my morals nor my goals. Not even close. I also feel like this stumped my social development in my adolescence. I understand that teenagers get all wonky with hormones and it isn't like I had a roadmap with going through high school, but pornography definitely made things more difficult. A lot of risky actions were made, bad decisions, and regretful imagery that to this day still messes with me from time to time. I thank God for the days I'm not being distracted and disturbed by those kind of thoughts 24/7. Today, I still think that's bothering me. Another thing that makes me sick is how easily extreme and zany videos can be even when you're not looking for those kind of things. I can Google one thing and it will either give me the opposite or something completely different. Unfortunately, this can include very disturbing things that I wish I wouldn't have seen. This is the only thing I feel so much shame for and I just want it to die. I don't want to deal with it anymore. Yesterday's relapse was one of the worst ones in a long time. I just don't want to keep dealing with this stuff anymore. I wish it were as easy as picking it up, and throwing it out, but the urges and the thoughts and the visualizations come back.
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