- Username
- js94
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Sounds like an avoidance compulsion.
For me it is tbh. But it sort of worked out well in a way because I really was so dependent on porn before.
@MJocd A break from porn can be good for mental health if it's a habit which is making you feel icky or dependent. It's more no-fap which seems to clearly be a compulsion.
@Scoggy I stopped watching porn due to avoidance, I had a (irrational) fear of coming across something innapropate/illegal. I stopped going on any adult website, the good part was I unintentionally did nofap which I wanted to do for so long as I felt dependent on porn, but the bad part is that it fed my OCD monster. I am much better now, I read erotica now as ERP to get comfortable and put irrational fears to bed but they still pop up sometimes when I'm reading stuff aswell. Moral OCD is a bit of a bitch :/
I can understand if you choose to not look at porn, because the porn industry is socially problematic in a lot of ways. But please, reconsider doing NoFap. Masturbation is a completely healthy and normal thing to be engaging in, as much as you want. This seems more like avoidance of sexuality which is bad for both your OCD (if your themes are sexual) and your feelings of sexual shame. Don't buy into the hype around NoFap. You're a human being entitled to being sexual in private. Not masturbating will not solve anything. If it does, it will only be temporary. I say this as someone who believes all of that stuff years ago.
I agree with this. I do think there is too much of a hype around it. However, in my honest opinion, Porn can be unethical, so stopping the fueling of the porn industry is okay but not mastrubating for extended periods of times is a bit unnecessary imo. Stopping porn is good in my opinion, you start forming more natural, healthier views of sex. Especially if you've been introduced to porn at a younger stage (like most of us are in this generation), you can get used to seeing rougher, fake porn which changes our idea of natural intimacy.
@MJocd Couldn't agree more!
@NickC Yh I get your points, porn the problem not the masterbation
@MJocd Completely agree.. Its an avoidance thing which fuels ocd
@MJocd Im trying no flap and I'm really nervous. I really want to masturbate but I know it's bad for myself, it has been 3 days since I don't watch porn and I really need some help so I can get distracted from it
@anxiousocder That depends on the person, if your doing nofap to avoid porn then that is avoidance but if your doing it to decrease anxiety Then try it, I’m over a week and it’s really helped, don’t Liston to anyone opinion on nofap because it really depends dw kn the person
Yh might as well try and see if it works for yourself
I mean I sort of did no fap, like i stopped visual porn completely and it changed my life in a good way. I feel better spiritually, I feel more clarity, I even lost 30 lbs. I wasn't mastrubating much either, I didnt feel a need too. I wasnt dependent on the feeling. But lately I've been mastrubating more and I also do read erotica, but sometimes my OCD attaches to things authors write in their stories and I'm like "that's abit of a weird thing to say, is that inappropriate? " and then I hyperfocus on it and ruminate over it. But all in all my life changed for the better when I stopped going on pornsites (which I did literally every night at one point).
I got to 3 weeks of no fap and you do feel more confident but it gets so hard. Suppose to last 90 for full reboot
@10lewis10 I mean I'm a girl, but I used to watch porn daily for years, I had a dependency on it. But I've been 2 years porn free :) I'll never watch it again tbh but my moral OCD stops me aswell.
For me it’s not avoidance because I feel like porn is half the problem. It’s make you insecure and instead of going out and meet people you rather stay home and wank to porn which afterwards depresses me and gets more wrong and dirty porn is fake
Anyone here for SOOCD on NoFap??
Anyone who struggle with porn and masturbation? Can we talk, I need help :(
Anyone have any tips for quitting watching porn? Realized how bad and fucked up it is, and with OCD its just an unnecesarry habit
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