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Okay so I am scared I get jealous easily in any way. I am jealous of this girl that used to like my bf... we were good friends but she was very touchy with him and after that I stopped talking to her. Then after a year she still always used to find ways to talk to my bf whenever he was around every time and I don’t like that. So now she’s gotten super fit and pretty and I feel so jealous for some reason. Like why? I don’t like it. I don’t like her but I don’t want to be jealous of her I have an amazing life. My HOCD has acted up with this telling me I’m jealous because I like her and I hate that too
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I have really bad jealousy ocd. It’s actually the most severe theme I struggle with. I’m here if you need to talk!! ??
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Thank you so much !! I used to have really bad jealousy in my relationship but I never considered it ocd. That’s good to know
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Same here but it’s like retrospective jealousy
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I am also scared I’m jealous of my bf and it scares me. Like how smart he is and how good his family is. That’s one of my big fears being jealous of him instead of feeling proud and happy
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Omg, I understand all this. I also get jealous of my boyfriend for having such a perfect life, he’s super smart, he doesn’t have any trauma and has a great job and I get really jealous and mad about it at times instead of proud and happy. I also understand the jealousy of your ex friend and I get jealous of all of my bfs friends gfs... like if he thinks they have hotter gfs than him and once I was like “maybe I have a crush on one of them and that’s why” but then I would obsess about her body type compared to mine and I don’t want my bf liking her. Etc. but the best thing to do here is figure out your core fear. Are u mostly afraid of your bf liking her/ and that you’ll lose him (like what’s the worst case scenario of the fear) and use it as an ERP script on loop tap. , or are you mostly worried about the HOCD more than the other jealousy parts. What’s the main concern from this and face the fear and distress of it head on with ERP
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jealousy in what way tho ¿
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I commented on this thread!!
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Yes tell me
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