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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Oh honey, this is just ocd. I’ve had these thoughts when being intimate with my husband. A main part of my pocd is false memories so I’ve constantly had feelings of checking or trying to ruminate during sex as well. Which made me feel worse. Please don’t despair. One time I read something on a forum that really comforted me. It said that whatever many people are aroused by in their minds, is not something they would ever carry out. Not saying you were aroused by that thought intentionally but you might have felt like it because you were in that sexual moment when the thought came along. To give perspective, some women have a fantasy of being raped at one point or another. Would they ever do such a thing or want it to actually happen to them? Of course not. Basically, thoughts and actions are separate. The difference is that we have ocd and we attach way too much meaning to our thoughts. However It is our actions around us that define us. Acceptance does not mean that we have to accept we enjoy the thoughts, because that would be very hard to accept because it is against our morals and values. Accepting means accepting that the thoughts can come and go as these please, because they are simple thoughts. Nothing else. Anything can come into our mind while we are enjoying sex. I hope this helps some. If this is affecting you so much (not eating, sleeping) try to reach out to a therapist if you haven’t already. Next time it troubles you, practice just letting the thought come and saying ok well it doesn’t mean anything it’s just a thought We are here for you
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- 6y
Oh never mind just reread that you said you are seeing a therapist. Excellent. Pedophiles enjoy their thoughts they don’t obsess and worry over them and especially stop eating or sleeping because of them. It is most definitely pocd
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- 6y
Your not ! It’s hard and I’ve been there and still at times there with you. They are thoughts that send us on wild journeys. I hate them feel sick distressed and lonely, but the more we play with the thoughts the worse they get, it will get better and you will have ups and downs along the way, as do I ! It’s an horrendous topic but it is what it is and we can get through this
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- 6y
Thank you for your response. I am just so afraid that something like this happens again, now it feels even harder to accept the thoughts because OCD is telling me this situation is proof that I actually enjoy them. I just don’t know how to stop thinking about it and I feel like I will never be over this, forever anxious about getting wrong feelings thoughts and emotions, acting wrong. Don’t want to do sexual stuff with myself/boyfriend any longer, I am so scared of this happening again or something else :(
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- 6y
Everything your describing is in your head, your not acting on your thoughts/ feelings. Hang in there it will get better.
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- 25w
I feel like one of the worst things about ocd are the disturbing images or the ‘little movies’ that replay in your head over and over again. I have the worst sexual images with one of my family members that actually so bad that I can’t even look in the mirror. And it’s even worse that I have a lovely boyfriend and I’m so disgusted of myself that I feel like I don’t deserve him and I feel like I can’t be with him because of these thoughts, even he is the most precious thing in my life. These sexual images are so horrible and what makes it even worse that in these pictures I always see myself as someone who enjoys it. I know how to deal with this anymore. My mind is trying to convince me that that I actually like these images and thoughts and this is the hardest part, that I’m doubting myself. These images pop up in my head so naturally that I always question myself if I actually don’t like it why it comes so naturally or how can my brain picture things like this if I don’t like it. It’s getting worse day by day. It’s in my head 24/7, can’t concentrate on anything else, I can’t eat because I’m constantly throwing up. And my mom has to sleep with me every night because I’m so disturbed by my own mind. My parents know that there’s something wrong with me, they think I’m depressed but sadly It’s not something I can talk openly about with them. I’m seeing a therapist next week but I’m genuinely scared to open up about these thoughts that I’m having.
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- 22w
(20f) I have been dealing with severe OCD symptoms for as long as I can remember. I recently got diagnosed about a year ago, and even though I know that these thoughts are probably my ocd, I still cant shake them. Growing up I was always very sexually curious. I was sheltered from a lot of things, as I went to a private school and things like sexuality and sex were never talked about. I remember doing some weird sexual things growing up (never affecting another person), looking up taboo sexual things, etc. I always seemed to become aroused no matter what the situation was, even if I just saw someone getting changed. I have no recollection of being SA'd, so i'm wondering where this all came from? Was I just curious and wanted to experiment and try different things? Or am I really a pervert, pedophile, etc. I have all these thoughts racing through my head and it's killing me. Everything I did as a kid I look back on and am disgusted, as those don't align with my views at all today. I never thought growing up thinking these things were wrong, or actually realize what they were until I got older. I'd like to think it was just my curiosity, but i'm not sure. What if i'm in denial and actually do like these things? I just need to know if theres something wrong w me, I cant keep going on like this. Could really use some advice.
- Date posted
- 16w
I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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