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I'm a little familiar with the feeling you're describing, and I have a theory that a lot of this despair comes from the way we treat ourselves. It's not our fault, of course - it's a situation we contribute to without realizing it. We are unbelievably hard on ourselves relative to the way we treat others - we refuse to let ourselves celebrate little victories and successes because we become fixated on our failures. If I had to give my unprofessional advice, I would suggest that the first thing you do is forgive yourself. You are human - you are not a machine. You are not perfect - no one is, and if someone seems perfect, then that means you're not seeing them in their worst moments. You have a debilitating disorder, and you are in survival mode right now. That is okay. Accepting where you are, in this moment, is the first step. Secondly, change your habits, beginning right now. Speak to someone about what you're dealing with - give yourself permission to ask for help. Get off your phone, and especially stay off of social media for a bit - it can worsen anxiety and depression. Decide to do one thing every day, or half a thing. Take a shower, go for a walk, do an assignment. When you've finished what you're working on, give yourself permission to feel pride - after all, every task completed, no matter how minute, is an act of progress. Fair warning - you will not feel anything at first. Give it time. Third, you are going to make more mistakes, and you will experience more failures - don't let these destroy you. Progress is not linear, and a single setback won't undo all of your hard work. Keep fighting and moving forward, and living will become easier with time.
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Wonderful advice!
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I relate completely, our situations are almost identical, in fact. I can't say for certain how things will end up, but as long as you have a good support system, you will not fail! Things will turn around for you, and everyone else in similar situations, I'm sure of it! You are not alone, if that takes your worry away a little bit!
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I think we’re strongest when we feel weak but keep going! You’re much much stronger than you think! You can become and do anything you want in life. Believe in yourself! Try reading about conscious manifestation and reprogramming your subconscious mind. Abraham Hicks says, Your beliefs are just thoughts you’ve been thinking over and over again until you believe them to be true. Highly recommend Abraham Hicks videos on YouTube, EFT Tapping videos on YouTube, repeating affirmations like I love myself, I believe in myself, I accept myself unconditionally etc. These things have really really helped me get through depressions and helped me love and accept myself more.
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I completely understand that feeling! I'm much older but I've always felt like I'm wasting my life and just going through the motions. Have you considered medication? For me, it's the only thing that helps me focus and actually accomplish things (even just basic tasks).
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Have you spoken to your parents or a counselor at school about how you feel? This may sound like a totally dorky answer, but if you have OCD, depression, or a learning difference that can be addressed, speak up for yourself even if it’s scary. I suffered through high school and college in a way similar to what you were describing and if I could go back, I would advocate for my needs like crazy until they were met.
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This is how I feel aswell, Im freaking turning 23 soon and instead of working on my skills and life, Im doing exactly what you said in your post. Everything is falling apart for me, it feels like Im starting from scratch again. I feel so far behind my friends, theyre all close to getting jobs and becoming settled in life and here I am laying in my bed all day with these mental ilnessses. Idk how I will ever recover
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I haven't been officially diagnosed with OCD but when I learned more about it, I never related to anything more. A little back story: when I was younger, there were a couple of youth suicides in my area and the schools felt the need to have someone come in and talk about suicide. Well the person they had come in did a horrible job teaching it and basically made it seem like the smallest negative emotion or feeling or change in behavior made you suicidal. This ended up scaring me so much that I got horrid anxiety. Fast forward to now, Everytime I feel anxiety and panic, I fear I'm going to kill myself. Everytime I feel down and depressed, I fear I'll end it all. I'm scared to be around anything sharp because the "What if" I hurt myself comes into my mind. There are always intrusive thoughts at almost every point of the day. And it's not only for me. Everytime I hear someone being negative, I fear they will be suicidal. I know in my heart that none of this is true but it's terrifying me that it's stuck around so much that it makes me scared that maybe it is true. I've had a lot of death in my family in the past year and a half and a lot of other family drama that I'd never had before that is now also bringing up existential intrusive thoughts. And I'd never questioned anything about life before but now I get the "why is life like this?" and "does anything we do matter?" and I hate it. I don't want to think like that. I just want to go through life being able to handle things normally again. It terrifies me even right now going "what if you give up?"
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I feel like there’s no way out of this. everyday i’m anxious and depressed from these thoughts. i feel like i have to constantly question if it’s OCD or not. the panic attacks are insane and i freak out. and a compulsion i have is looking eveything up on the internet when im stressing to know that it’s just my OCD and im not in danger. but looking things up add on to my thoughts and i start thinking “what if” actual suidcal people think. do others with this theme whenever they do something like if im taking a picture it’ll be like “yeah you look happy people will wonder what happened when your gone” LIKE i DO NOT want to end my life. or even as simple as cleaning my room, “yup keep it clean so when your family goes through your stuff” then i panic and can’t even do anything. those thoughts distress me so bad. i’ll sit there and think how good my life is or when im having a good day my thoughts will be like “NOPEEE what if your just saying that to convince yourself” it never shuts up and genuinely makes me think i have SI or something. i hope this reaches the right people just to know im not alone. Even when i do get better in the back of my mind it’s always “people who want to are the same a day before too” im genuinely scared and im scared one day im going to just snap and do it because its “too much” do i need to go to a mental hospital! i feel insane.
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Hi, I’m new here!! I’m praying I don’t get judged for this. But, back in late May of 2022 ( literally right before I graduated high school), I added this one random girl from my school on Snapchat. She posted something about a graduation party , so I swiped up on her story basically saying how I can’t believe we’re almost graduated. She replied and we had a really short and simple conversation. The next day ( i believe) , we started talking a lot , and I just so happened to see her at the highschool when we were grabbing our graduation outfits and doing the rehearsal. When I saw her irl, I kinda got turned off ( I heard she was kinda crazy) , and on top of that , she was a little ugly irl. I remember seeing her Snapchat bio , and she was close friends with my female cousin ( a year younger than me) , who I happened to experiment sexually with when I was 10-11 years old. I remember going to work later that day and having sort of a lightbulb flick thought ( it wasn’t a good thought though) , what if my cousin told her about what happened when we were younger? So I started to kind of panic and immediately distanced myself from that girl. I also experimented sexually with one of my female friends when I was 10-11 , and from that day onwards, I’ve been pretty much living in paranoia and a little bit of guilt about someone finding out and my life being ruined . On top of that, It’s gotten worse to now sometimes I wonder if a girl I added off of quick add ( Snapchat) is underage even if they told me they were 18+ or had 18 and above in their bio, and I get so much guilt and anxiety about that. I even had a quick thought last February on what if I did something inappropriate with my younger cousin when I was 15-16 but I just can’t exactly remember when it happened , and it still eats me alive when I think about it, because I don’t know if it happened or not. I’m sorry for the long vent, I just wish I felt normal again. No matter how much I try to do things that old me used to do, life always feels “ off”. I always kept the top part about when I was younger a secret up until early (ish ) 2024, then I vented to one of my best friends and he told me that that’s a normal thing to do at a young age. Since then, I have told multiple friends and they all say they did similar stuff, but my brain just can’t accept that. Please help me, I quite literally overthink everything nowadays. 2021 was the last full year that I felt normal ( coincidentally, the best year of my life so far) . It’s not just about sexual related things either, sometimes I’ll wonder if I messed up something at work or hit a car while driving/hit someone and drove off. I just wanna live my life how I was supposed to live it after highschool ( carefree and happy) before whatever it is ( I think it’s ocd) hit me unexpectedly. Thanks to anyone who read this , I just needed to pour it out regardless of how negative I felt typing this, I hope someone can relate , because I feel so alone in my head at times.
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