messP
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- 2y
Shame OCD
Is anyone in a relationship, an extremely happy one and loyal one. But you see a person and you find them attractive and you feel guilty? You feel like you’re cheating and it’s consuming your mind.
Givingitmyall Givingitmyall
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 2y
I used to struggle with that exact thing a lot. It was one of the reasons I started therapy. I would feel extremely guilty if I though about anyone besides my husband. I try to look at it like this; having romantic or sexual thoughts about other people is just a sign of a healthy mind and hormones. I know it’s super hard to separate the thoughts from actions. I know it’s just my OCD when that happens because I’ve gotten over that and my brain finds something else to shame myself for.
worrier 24worrier 24
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It’s not so to find other men attractive. Although before my bad ocd episode first started I would get thoughts like why are you dressing nice when you’re going out without your boyfriend or making sure I don’t look at other men. if any man messages me I’d have to tell my partner to prove I didn’t message them back. whenever I look back on my life I think I’ve always had ocd tendencies. This isn’t a main theme of mine but it does sometimes come up. Remember ocd is a liar you don’t have to prove yourself.
messPmessP
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- 2y
I’m so sorry to hear that… Did the therapy help with that :( and is that normal that we think like that?
messPmessP
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- 2y
So you’re saying these thoughts are normal to have? Even though you’re happy in your marriage
worrier 24worrier 24
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- 2y
@pamg199 Yes absolutely they are normal. Stressing about them isn’t though try concentrate on the positive aspects of your relationship. I know it’s difficult as ocd will try ruin everything. Don’t let it
messPmessP
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@worrier 24 That was really helpful!! Thank you so much. Sorry for asking, but your therapist, did you find them here?
worrier 24worrier 24
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- 2y
@pamg199 I’m on a waiting list on the nhs I had a pre session consultation over the phone and she said it sounds a lot like I have ocd :/ waiting for cbt therapy I have spend a lot of time researching ocd over the years to try figure it out myself but ocd is so cruel sometimes it can get bad to the point where you isolate yourself but we can all get through this 🙏 intrusive thoughts are the hardest part for me 😔
messPmessP
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- 2y
What’s NHS? I completely understand what you’re feeling, have you tried medication? I’m on Paroxetine and it actually helps a little!!
worrier 24worrier 24
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- 2y
@pamg199 In the UK we can get free health care called the NHS where many treatments are covered my taxpayers
worrier 24worrier 24
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- 2y
@pamg199 I take propranolol & sertraline. The sertraline did help when I first started taking it but still have some really bad days
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