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This!!
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I like Ali Greymonds approach to this. She says: "If and when it turns out to be true then I'll deal with it, but right now I choose not to believe it." I really like her way of dealing with it, cause giving reassurance is not good, but believiing OCD isn't good too, so the best thing is to be somewhere in the middle.
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You guys are completely right.
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Ali Greymond literally saved my life when I wanted to commit suicide because I thought I cheated on my boyfriend. And for my OCD specifically which is a false memory OCD the things she says really are logical. How can you just forget something happened and then suddenly remember it years after? She is just trying to teach people how to recognize OCD thoughts. If you did something you just know it and sometimes it is really very obvious it is just OCD. I agree with lauren86, I know you're trying to help but if somebody here told me something like that at the very beggining of my OCD it would unfortunately pushed me to do the worst thing possible, and that is suicide so be very careful with challenging peoples OCD. Also almost all of professional therapists and OCD speacialist are saying OCD is a liar. I actually had on the screensaver of my phone a photo one OCD specialist posted and it said: OCD HAS NEVER TOLD YOU THE TRUTH. So it isn't just Ali that is saying that, professionals are saying that too.
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Thank you all for understanding this ♡♡♡ sorry if this sounded insultant or something like that. Let's keep helping each other
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The problem is not theme. Is never the theme. The problem is we tend to obsses about it. That is what patients like us have to know.
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I know you say that because of some of my posts. You also probably flagged them. That is OK. It is just natural - OCD will feel complete aversion to it. I don't have bad intentions. I am the first person to offer words of comfort and support when they are truly needed. However, as someone who has dealt with almost all OCD themes, especially HOCD, I can tell when it's the OCD speaking and not the person. The comfort approach to OCD will only keep perpetuating the cycle for ever. I know it's soothing but is very unhealthy. Ali Greymond is not a therapist. It was only when a behavioral specialist showed me how to challenge the OCD with these questions that it finally removed its grip from me. Agreeing with the OCD is the ultimate blow you can give to it. Now, I do agree that it is a more advanced technique; however, I cannot know who is new and who isn't. I wish someone had showed me the proper approach from the beginning instead of "comforting me" endlessly. It would have saved me a lot of years of pain.
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And to me the sentence: "If it turns out to be true..." wasn't very comforting. It still challenged me to accept the unceartinty so it isn't that really that comforting at all.
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