- Username
- Brooklyn33
- Date posted
- 5y ago
- Username
- notfortalknotfortalk
- Date posted
- 5y ago
This!!
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I like Ali Greymonds approach to this. She says: "If and when it turns out to be true then I'll deal with it, but right now I choose not to believe it." I really like her way of dealing with it, cause giving reassurance is not good, but believiing OCD isn't good too, so the best thing is to be somewhere in the middle.
- Username
- FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You guys are completely right.
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ali Greymond literally saved my life when I wanted to commit suicide because I thought I cheated on my boyfriend. And for my OCD specifically which is a false memory OCD the things she says really are logical. How can you just forget something happened and then suddenly remember it years after? She is just trying to teach people how to recognize OCD thoughts. If you did something you just know it and sometimes it is really very obvious it is just OCD. I agree with lauren86, I know you're trying to help but if somebody here told me something like that at the very beggining of my OCD it would unfortunately pushed me to do the worst thing possible, and that is suicide so be very careful with challenging peoples OCD. Also almost all of professional therapists and OCD speacialist are saying OCD is a liar. I actually had on the screensaver of my phone a photo one OCD specialist posted and it said: OCD HAS NEVER TOLD YOU THE TRUTH. So it isn't just Ali that is saying that, professionals are saying that too.
- Username
- Brooklyn33Brooklyn33
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thank you all for understanding this ♡♡♡ sorry if this sounded insultant or something like that. Let's keep helping each other
- Username
- Brooklyn33Brooklyn33
- Date posted
- 5y ago
The problem is not theme. Is never the theme. The problem is we tend to obsses about it. That is what patients like us have to know.
- Username
- FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I know you say that because of some of my posts. You also probably flagged them. That is OK. It is just natural - OCD will feel complete aversion to it. I don't have bad intentions. I am the first person to offer words of comfort and support when they are truly needed. However, as someone who has dealt with almost all OCD themes, especially HOCD, I can tell when it's the OCD speaking and not the person. The comfort approach to OCD will only keep perpetuating the cycle for ever. I know it's soothing but is very unhealthy. Ali Greymond is not a therapist. It was only when a behavioral specialist showed me how to challenge the OCD with these questions that it finally removed its grip from me. Agreeing with the OCD is the ultimate blow you can give to it. Now, I do agree that it is a more advanced technique; however, I cannot know who is new and who isn't. I wish someone had showed me the proper approach from the beginning instead of "comforting me" endlessly. It would have saved me a lot of years of pain.
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
And to me the sentence: "If it turns out to be true..." wasn't very comforting. It still challenged me to accept the unceartinty so it isn't that really that comforting at all.
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- Username
- cerulean
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Is it possible to seek reassurance from oneself? Because sometimes I try to combat my obsessive thoughts by telling myself, "this is just my OCD. There's no need to be anxious or upset over this unwanted thought. My OCD is telling me things that aren't true." Or if I have an intrusive thought, I'll tell myself, "this is just an intrusive thought, it doesn't reflect who I am as a person. Just because I'm having an intrusive thought about doing something awful doesn't mean I actually want to do that thing. It's just an intrusive thought, it doesn't say anything about my character or desires." Is it okay to do this, or is this another form of reassurance-seeking? I guess basically my question is, is it okay to comfort oneself and remind oneself of the truth, or is this a form of compulsion in itself? I'm just trying to figure out how to respond to my intrusive thoughts and obsessions in a healthy way.
- Username
- Tqh
- Date posted
- 5y ago
The amount of posts seeking for reassurance is ridiculous, people, if you see posts like that, please please don’t answer their questions, I know that you’re just trying to help, but you’re doing more harm than good by feeding the ocd monster. Notice how people wanting to be reassured are always coming back with the same question a few hours, or days later, so it doesn’t work and it won’t help you get better!
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I'd like to ask for your advice about how to react to people with SOOCD when they're saying really extreme things? Don't get me wrong, I know that SOOCD and internalized homophibia are very different things, I'm only talking about the few cases where the two seem to coexist together? I'm always open to changing my perspective, I'm just trying to find the right thing to do, because I want to help people and don't want to make them more stressed when they already are, but how can I hold my tongue when they're saying they'd rather be dead than gay? Or talking about it with such disgust as if it's some perversion. I'm bi and lucky to live in a kind environment but other people aren't so lucky, some people actually commit suicide because they aren't accepted, so how am I supposed to react to this kind of thing? I'm keeping an open mind and not trying to attack anyone, just wondering where we draw the line?
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