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- 6y
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- 6y
This puts a huge burden on people who are already struggling. As someone with a number of physical chronic illnesses in addition to OCD, I hear this line of thinking all the time. The reality is that you never know where someone else is coming from. Something that works for you may make them worse, they may not have the money or energy to seek out extra resources, they may be overwhelmed already with trying to provide for themselves/their family, or they may just not be in a place where they can do x, y, or z. While I think I hear what you’re saying, the way it’s been phrased here sounds like you’re blaming people for not getting better when, in reality, it’s always more complicated than that (and ultimately that blame feeds illness). And honestly, none of us owe it to society to be well. Stuff happens. Sometimes people can’t be well, and they shouldn’t be blamed for that. Please be thoughtful in choosing expression for this idea.
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- 6y
I've been on about 5 different anti anziety/depression meds. They all either did nothing or gave me bad guys. They're different for everyone though.
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- 6y
I'm sorry as well and same to you
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- 6y
I am responsible for what I say, not how you perceive it. Likewise, you don't know what I have overcome to be here today. Also, I'll point out that I never said I have done all these things and it's the magic solution to being better. They're examples of steps everyone should define and take for themselves to better their physical health because, ultimately, in doing so, you're bettering your mental health too. No one knows better than I how hard it is to get up and do anything when you just want to die because of depression. I just think it's important for people to be mindful and to cultivate a culture of openness, not offense.
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- 6y
Maybe it would help for me to step back from some of what I said and just say this: when you say above that if someone isn’t willing to explore every avenue for their own healing, they shouldn’t expect anyone else to, that was hurtful to me. I felt blamed for the fact that I’m not getting better. Exploring every avenue has, at times, actually made me worse. But more than that, I am deeply tired. I need to not be the only one advocating for myself, because I can’t do that anymore. I’m currently not able to look into everything that might help, but I still need to know that there are others who believe I am worthy of healing and can advocate for me when I can’t. And you’re right that I don’t know your story. I’m just asking you to remember that not everyone’s story is like yours and, for some of us, this kind of sweeping statement causes pain.
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- 6y
Here's the point of what I was saying that you were hurt by: no one is going to love or care for you more than you do for yourself. If you don't care enough about yourself and your well-being to get out there and ask those difficult questions and demand answers from those empowered to give them, no hero is going to come along and do that for you,no healthcare professional, no friend, parent, mentor,life coach, or all-around guru is going to do for you what you aren't willing to do for yourself. Let's employ critical thinking before being hurt and offended by stuff that shouldn't even matter to you.
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- 6y
Thanks for clarifying and expounding on your original point.
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- 6y
Sorry man, I've just been met with so much opposition today I immediately felt cornered and attacked just for trying to spread awareness. Not saying I'm perfect, but I meant no harm whatsoever
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- 6y
I’m so sorry that it’s been a hard day, and I’m sorry for not giving you the benefit of the doubt in my first response. Hope things get better.
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- 20w
I don’t know if it’s worth it to keep going. I have so many diagnoses, so little support, and constant struggles with finding the right medication. My immune system is weak, I have multiple deficiencies, and I’m dealing with so many physical health problems on top of severe OCD. It’s just too much. On top of everything, my family treats me so not okay. Every single day is a fight just to keep going—to wake up, to eat, to take care of myself even a little. I’ve lost over ten pounds in the last two weeks from how depressed I’ve been. And instead of support, all I get is blame. My family constantly throws my struggles in my face, calling me selfish, as if I’m choosing this. I am trying so hard to push past all of this. But after five long months of severe OCD, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, and everything else making life unbearable, I am exhausted. And to be called lazy? Selfish? *Worthless*? How am I supposed to keep going when the people around me refuse to see how hard I’m trying? I don’t want this anymore. None of this suffering feels worth it. What am I fighting for just to be treated this way by my own family? To be yelled at for the look on my face, when my face reflects nothing but the stress, panic, and despair I’m drowning in? Am I still supposed to smile for them? This isn’t fair. No one should have to live like this. I don’t deserve to be treated this way, I’m really trying to keep going, but I just want everything to end.
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- 16w
This is kind of a weird question, but I recently increased my SSRI dosage and have experienced tremendous relief. It has quieted my intrusive thoughts so much and my compulsions are no longer as all-consuming. However, I don’t want to be on this high of a dosage forever and know that medication alone shouldn’t be my only fix. I’m seeing a new psychiatrist on Wednesday and am wondering if the recent decrease in frequency of my symptoms will be a bar to my getting ocd treatment? In other words, if in this present moment I’m doing better, but up until a few days ago my compulsions were taking up pretty much every moment of my waking day, will I still be classified as having ocd? I start getting worried when I feel better that I don’t actually have ocd and just use it as a defense mechanism to avoid consequences of my actions/I’m secretly a terrible person
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- Date posted
- 15w
This is just a vent. Feels nice to just be honest about who I am and my deficiencies. Mental health advocates are always like "you deserve to live no matter what" and I'm like "bet lol" I am not a good person whose presence has any positive impact on the world. I'm not evil, just useless without having the excuse of depression or whatever (it's anxiety based but again who gives a shit). If I were to go away, I wouldn't be missed because I contribute nothing of note. If we did not live in the US where you can get by without being socially accepted as long as you have loving parents, I would either be dead or would have stepped up and might actually be a valuable member of society (like between being dead and pushing through my anxiety I would probably choose the latter lol). Interpersonally, I have no redeeming qualities. No I'm not one of those people who says that shit and then lists all the ways they're actually decent but just have low self-esteem, I'm genuinely useless. I'm unreliable when it comes to group projects and my job, usually doing the bare minimum or less than that. When it comes to my work in general, I tend to drop the ball, often waiting till the last minute to get started on it, turning it in late, or simply not turning it in at all. I make promises about the things I will do and then don't do them. I also lack initiative and just follow orders. Socially, I don't have any friends and don't make an effort to try to gain any - I tend to act distant in social interactions and don't join in when people are having group conversations. I'm a talented artist, but the only work I've ever shown others in the last few years has been shoddy, amateurish, and completely unreflective of my abilities, and I've never been complimented for it lol. How do I feel about all this? Pretty freaking bad, yet I make no effort to change. I'm afraid of most things so I avoid them, screwing up my own life and negatively affecting other people's as well. Despite all this, I have this desire to be accepted by someone else as I am. The fact that I accept myself shows that it's possible, I guess (you could argue that I don't have a choice but I definitely chose to be okay with myself after years of self-loathing). I have a shit-ton of flaws and nothing to really offset them - I mean I'm self-aware but I think self-awareness is completely useless if you don't do anything about what you've observed in yourself, and less self-aware people are able to take more risks - and I just have this fantasy of someone showing up and looking at all that I am and being like "you have contributed literally nothing to society and you have no redeeming qualities but I accept you as you are and love you, for no reason other than I just do." But based on the comics I've read this can only happen if you're childhood friends who've known each other for a long time lol. No reason someone's gonna want to be friends with some random person who leaves a poor first impression and doesn't do anything to further the relationship. The plus side of this is that I have a /lot/ of room for growth, lots of things to change that could make me a better person. The negative side is that it is still just as hard to not be avoidant af as it was yesterday
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