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- 6y
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- 6y
This puts a huge burden on people who are already struggling. As someone with a number of physical chronic illnesses in addition to OCD, I hear this line of thinking all the time. The reality is that you never know where someone else is coming from. Something that works for you may make them worse, they may not have the money or energy to seek out extra resources, they may be overwhelmed already with trying to provide for themselves/their family, or they may just not be in a place where they can do x, y, or z. While I think I hear what you’re saying, the way it’s been phrased here sounds like you’re blaming people for not getting better when, in reality, it’s always more complicated than that (and ultimately that blame feeds illness). And honestly, none of us owe it to society to be well. Stuff happens. Sometimes people can’t be well, and they shouldn’t be blamed for that. Please be thoughtful in choosing expression for this idea.
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- 6y
I've been on about 5 different anti anziety/depression meds. They all either did nothing or gave me bad guys. They're different for everyone though.
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- 6y
I'm sorry as well and same to you
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- 6y
I am responsible for what I say, not how you perceive it. Likewise, you don't know what I have overcome to be here today. Also, I'll point out that I never said I have done all these things and it's the magic solution to being better. They're examples of steps everyone should define and take for themselves to better their physical health because, ultimately, in doing so, you're bettering your mental health too. No one knows better than I how hard it is to get up and do anything when you just want to die because of depression. I just think it's important for people to be mindful and to cultivate a culture of openness, not offense.
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- 6y
Maybe it would help for me to step back from some of what I said and just say this: when you say above that if someone isn’t willing to explore every avenue for their own healing, they shouldn’t expect anyone else to, that was hurtful to me. I felt blamed for the fact that I’m not getting better. Exploring every avenue has, at times, actually made me worse. But more than that, I am deeply tired. I need to not be the only one advocating for myself, because I can’t do that anymore. I’m currently not able to look into everything that might help, but I still need to know that there are others who believe I am worthy of healing and can advocate for me when I can’t. And you’re right that I don’t know your story. I’m just asking you to remember that not everyone’s story is like yours and, for some of us, this kind of sweeping statement causes pain.
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- 6y
Here's the point of what I was saying that you were hurt by: no one is going to love or care for you more than you do for yourself. If you don't care enough about yourself and your well-being to get out there and ask those difficult questions and demand answers from those empowered to give them, no hero is going to come along and do that for you,no healthcare professional, no friend, parent, mentor,life coach, or all-around guru is going to do for you what you aren't willing to do for yourself. Let's employ critical thinking before being hurt and offended by stuff that shouldn't even matter to you.
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- 6y
Thanks for clarifying and expounding on your original point.
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- 6y
Sorry man, I've just been met with so much opposition today I immediately felt cornered and attacked just for trying to spread awareness. Not saying I'm perfect, but I meant no harm whatsoever
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- 6y
I’m so sorry that it’s been a hard day, and I’m sorry for not giving you the benefit of the doubt in my first response. Hope things get better.
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- 23w
I just feel like therapy isn’t working… like I get to talk about myself and understand myself… but I’m already incredibly self aware. My therapist thought I was like 5 years older than I am… and she gives me such basic strategies that do absolutely nothing for me. And a psychiatrist prescribed me with Zoloft… but I don’t know if T want to take medication. I’m scared of side effects… and I’m scared of getting better… I’m scared of letting my guard down. I know it will make me less cautious which makes me less likely to push myself to perfection like I currently do, which I can’t have happen. Every time I talk to my mom about it, she’s always like “Let’s talk about this some other time, I’m busy with other things”, and then never remembers. But in the rare moments we do talk about it, she treats it like I’m signing up to be a drug addict. I also feel very guilty for spending so much of my parents’ money- therapy… medication… etc… and also the idea of my being unlovable is so deeply engraved in my brain… I genuinely, truly believe it. No therapy or medication can fix it. I can’t change my mind. My therapist tells me my misophonia is not a “deal-breaker” and that someone would be lucky to have me as a partner… but then why hasn’t anyone ever liked me? My own FAMILY can’t stand me. How do I believe something I know isn’t true? That’s even harder to accept than me being unlovable. I can’t see someone loving me. And it is so incredibly exhausting to seek love,e I know I cannot have. My sister says, “It will get better with age…” It has only ever gotten worse. To the point I don’t want to get better. It has reached the severity where I feel more safe and successful with anxiety. My past 3 birthdays have been me wishing for therapy. And now I have therpay- and medication, the potential key… and I refuse? Am I too deep in? I cant get out, it’s too late. How did absolutely no one notice how much I had and have been hurting? Why did no one listen to my cries or worries? I feel really depressed and hopeless right now. It takes so much effort to get up every day… I’m so tired.
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- 21w
i want to get this out of the way; i’m not suicidal. i’m a 17 y/o guy whose been living with OCD for what i assume is most of my life despite only getting the diagnoses last year. i’ve been hustling on despite my mental health really consuming my life to moments in time where i question my sanity and self control. it’s the lack of control that really kills me with this disorder. each day i wake up, it’s the same persistent reminders; it’s the same meaningless conversations replaying; it’s the same small rituals that just barely let me breathe before the thoughts return. nothing i do is gonna stop that unbearable monogamy where i have to sit back and let my eyes be peeled open; i don’t know how to live with that. no pill has worked on me, and any response i give the thoughts just make them worse. right now i’m trying to just sit through it and not care. don’t let it effect me emotionally; try not to feel the discomfort. then it starts to manifest into physical pain where i feel the bones of my chest have this pressure—like staples entering them at the rhythm of a heart beat. i’m getting though this, but i’m not enjoying my life when doing so. i don’t know if i have a future where it isn’t just this repeating through the process of each day. i don’t want to spend the rest of my life avoiding the one thing i’m supposed to have control over. i also don’t want to drown my days in self medicating or get addicted doing so—like i already am. i don’t see the way to make this life of mine work, especially given how much i don’t have to do deal with at my age. of course that will come to. look, i’m not at risk; i really don’t want in anyway to die despite being basically hopeless. i’m numb to the pain of it, i don’t feel anything in my desire to escape these cycles, i just need an out. i’m not seeing a way to move forward. i’m willing to hear anything.
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- 15w
I had OCD earlier in life, but it came and gone. For the last 4.5 it's been one thing after another, though. Today I felt especially grossed out by my POCD and I feellike I'm losing last hope that I had. I hate to sound awfully dramatic, but I want to clarify things a little bit and ask for advice. So I've been taking antidepressants up until some point, had a break and then started taking them again. In the beginning of this month, I finally finished that second course. This time it lasted 1.5 years. It's important to note that for the last half year I was pretty proactive in finding solutions to my ocd, finding new methods and reading articles. It probably did help, but mostly in short-term. Today I felt like my symptoms (it's mainly groinal response) were scaringly prominent and it made me really depressed. Do I have to start all over? It never got good enough in the first place, so I'm not even sure if it's possible to cure. I admit I might've not been pushing myself enough to do the scariest possible things, but that doesn't mean I didn't do ERP. Now, to the venting part. I'm not sure if anything really helped: if I'm relaxed it's probably just a matter of good mood. I'm anxious when going outside. I feel like I don't deserve friends because of my "dirty" secret -- I feel incredibly ashamed for groinal sensations. There were times when I'm sure it wasn't a phantom feeling, but a real one I caused. But I can't undo anything, so it has to stay with me. My family really loves me, so of course killing myself was never an option. But I still hate myself. I'm too tired to keep on fighting with OCD and bearing the burden of those very shameful events is too hard. What do I do? Maybe I'm just not adapted to living without antidepressants, so I'm being too emotional and all I should do is continue doing ERP. But my point is that I'm too exhausted. Thank you for reading. I see many here have a similar problem, I hope you're staying strong. I'd love to help you all, but I'm afraid that right now I'm not suit for giving out good life advice
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