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This puts a huge burden on people who are already struggling. As someone with a number of physical chronic illnesses in addition to OCD, I hear this line of thinking all the time. The reality is that you never know where someone else is coming from. Something that works for you may make them worse, they may not have the money or energy to seek out extra resources, they may be overwhelmed already with trying to provide for themselves/their family, or they may just not be in a place where they can do x, y, or z. While I think I hear what you’re saying, the way it’s been phrased here sounds like you’re blaming people for not getting better when, in reality, it’s always more complicated than that (and ultimately that blame feeds illness). And honestly, none of us owe it to society to be well. Stuff happens. Sometimes people can’t be well, and they shouldn’t be blamed for that. Please be thoughtful in choosing expression for this idea.
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I've been on about 5 different anti anziety/depression meds. They all either did nothing or gave me bad guys. They're different for everyone though.
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I'm sorry as well and same to you
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I am responsible for what I say, not how you perceive it. Likewise, you don't know what I have overcome to be here today. Also, I'll point out that I never said I have done all these things and it's the magic solution to being better. They're examples of steps everyone should define and take for themselves to better their physical health because, ultimately, in doing so, you're bettering your mental health too. No one knows better than I how hard it is to get up and do anything when you just want to die because of depression. I just think it's important for people to be mindful and to cultivate a culture of openness, not offense.
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Maybe it would help for me to step back from some of what I said and just say this: when you say above that if someone isn’t willing to explore every avenue for their own healing, they shouldn’t expect anyone else to, that was hurtful to me. I felt blamed for the fact that I’m not getting better. Exploring every avenue has, at times, actually made me worse. But more than that, I am deeply tired. I need to not be the only one advocating for myself, because I can’t do that anymore. I’m currently not able to look into everything that might help, but I still need to know that there are others who believe I am worthy of healing and can advocate for me when I can’t. And you’re right that I don’t know your story. I’m just asking you to remember that not everyone’s story is like yours and, for some of us, this kind of sweeping statement causes pain.
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Here's the point of what I was saying that you were hurt by: no one is going to love or care for you more than you do for yourself. If you don't care enough about yourself and your well-being to get out there and ask those difficult questions and demand answers from those empowered to give them, no hero is going to come along and do that for you,no healthcare professional, no friend, parent, mentor,life coach, or all-around guru is going to do for you what you aren't willing to do for yourself. Let's employ critical thinking before being hurt and offended by stuff that shouldn't even matter to you.
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Thanks for clarifying and expounding on your original point.
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Sorry man, I've just been met with so much opposition today I immediately felt cornered and attacked just for trying to spread awareness. Not saying I'm perfect, but I meant no harm whatsoever
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I’m so sorry that it’s been a hard day, and I’m sorry for not giving you the benefit of the doubt in my first response. Hope things get better.
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I can't stop thinking about ending my life. I feel like I'm not even living, I'm just surviving. Everyone is capable of being a person and functioning and I'm just stuck here avoiding everything. My psychiatrist said my ocd is severe and it will all take time and I'll start erp and I'm already on medication but I just feel so depressed and like I won't be able to handle erp and it's already too late for me. I feel inhuman, it's debilitating. My major theme is just fear or contamination, I can't even make myself a meal I can't touch anything in the kitchen. I get stuck in the shower for 2 hours and when I don't shower because I'm depressed I feel like a walking germ. My hands are a mess, my school work is shit, I avoid and avoid and I'm just so tired of "living" like this. My psychiatrist said they don't have any therapists available right now like.... excuse me? What do you mean u don't have any 😭 I honestly don't even know why I'm typing this becuase nothing helps, nothing ever will. I'm so deep into this I can't get out, my room looks like shit, I can't live in this body anymore, I really can't. I let everyone down, I am and will be such a dissapointment. I don't have any dreams or goals or passions I just wasn't made to be here. I don't know how or who to ask for help like there's nothing anyone can do, I'm already on meds. I can't keep being like this, seeing everyone judge me for acting insane.
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I don’t know if it’s worth it to keep going. I have so many diagnoses, so little support, and constant struggles with finding the right medication. My immune system is weak, I have multiple deficiencies, and I’m dealing with so many physical health problems on top of severe OCD. It’s just too much. On top of everything, my family treats me so not okay. Every single day is a fight just to keep going—to wake up, to eat, to take care of myself even a little. I’ve lost over ten pounds in the last two weeks from how depressed I’ve been. And instead of support, all I get is blame. My family constantly throws my struggles in my face, calling me selfish, as if I’m choosing this. I am trying so hard to push past all of this. But after five long months of severe OCD, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, and everything else making life unbearable, I am exhausted. And to be called lazy? Selfish? *Worthless*? How am I supposed to keep going when the people around me refuse to see how hard I’m trying? I don’t want this anymore. None of this suffering feels worth it. What am I fighting for just to be treated this way by my own family? To be yelled at for the look on my face, when my face reflects nothing but the stress, panic, and despair I’m drowning in? Am I still supposed to smile for them? This isn’t fair. No one should have to live like this. I don’t deserve to be treated this way, I’m really trying to keep going, but I just want everything to end.
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This is kind of a weird question, but I recently increased my SSRI dosage and have experienced tremendous relief. It has quieted my intrusive thoughts so much and my compulsions are no longer as all-consuming. However, I don’t want to be on this high of a dosage forever and know that medication alone shouldn’t be my only fix. I’m seeing a new psychiatrist on Wednesday and am wondering if the recent decrease in frequency of my symptoms will be a bar to my getting ocd treatment? In other words, if in this present moment I’m doing better, but up until a few days ago my compulsions were taking up pretty much every moment of my waking day, will I still be classified as having ocd? I start getting worried when I feel better that I don’t actually have ocd and just use it as a defense mechanism to avoid consequences of my actions/I’m secretly a terrible person
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