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QUESTION
I see many people here talking about porn like it's a drug. They are likely saying they are clean from it or something like that. Is porn a bad thing? And if yes, why?
I see many people here talking about porn like it's a drug. They are likely saying they are clean from it or something like that. Is porn a bad thing? And if yes, why?
Everyone will have a different perspective on porn. Personally, it was damaging to me. It is addictive (and some drugs are more addictive than others). Porn has been even more addictive than the drugs I used to take. Sex is a natural part of being human. But porn takes it and corrupts it, makes those involved in it objects, and we, the viewers are getting an experience that skews our experience of sex. Plus, nowadays, porn is available to those who are quite young. I started avidly viewing it as a kid, like 9 years old. Not only that, the kinds of things that get sexualized today are quite extensive. It’s *unhealthy.*
@graydust Porn devalues sex and people and makes them cheap.
My advice is to stay away from the weird porn.
It can be if you don’t limit it.
Porn isn’t bad, drugs aren’t bad, what’s bad is addiction, obsession, and loss of control
It’s all about your own personal relationship with it…you gotta do some soul searching
Watching porn is not a bad thing! it is a natural human thing to do. However, it can be potentially become a bad thing once someone starts becoming addicted or obsessed with watching it. Watching porn causes your brain to produce dopamine, which causes feelings of satisfaction and pleasure. Neurodivergent/mentally ill people are more prone to developing addictions due to chemical imbalances involving dopamine, serotonin, and other hormones. Therefore porn addiction is not uncommon amongst mentally ill folks. Also many people don't realize they have a porn addiction because they think of addiction as something that happens only with drug abuse.
Also for people with sexual orientation ocd, watching porn that correlates with their sexuality may be a compulsion to prove that their intrusive thoughts are wrong. Compulsions in themselves can feel addictive at times 😭
For some people, porn is so addictive that it becomes like an intrusive thought. You think of people unintentionally in sexual ways because of the way it wires your brain. It is so easily accessible that it tricks you in a way to look at people’s bodies and movements. Very surface level thinking. I’ve noticed when I completely detox myself of porn that I have a healthier perception of people around me and am a lot less judgemental. I also have wayyyy less sexual OCD
I don't think pork is for everyone. I don't like watching it for many reasons. Plus it'll probably create intrusive thoughts for me. But if people want to watch it that's their own personal reasons. I just feel grossed out by it and like I said I don't need anymore intrusive thoughts floating around in my brain. I'm dealing with enough
People get addicted to it
The take on porn being bad is more of a personal subjective thing in my opinion. In my opinion and from experience, I think it does more harm than good but others may argue that it serves a purpose. I think it can be very addictive like a drug and have a hold on people who struggle with getting away with it, like I have in the past for many years. Porn can greatly affect people and they don't like it, and that's okay. Porn also doesn't bother other people that much and they seem content with it, and that's fine.
When I was single, I watched a lot of porn, specifically lesbian porn even though I’m straight. When I got into my current relationship I dwindled down and eventually stopped watching porn of any kind, around six or so months ago. I had a flare up recently that has caused me to question every part of myself including my sexuality and my identity, my relationship, and other things that are important and valued to me, and porn keeps popping up in all of these things. I feel like my porn usage was me cheating on my boyfriend, especially in the early parts of our relationship. I broke down to him last month about it and he said it was okay, that he forgives me, but I’m still hung up on it because I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve wronged him and that I’m a terrible person and that I need to leave him because of this. This is so excruciatingly painful. I don’t want to keep confessing over and over and over again, but I don’t want to be a dirty lying cheater, which I feel like I am.
Today I became conflicted with the thought of watching porn occasionally being unacceptable! I'm a single father, no spouse, fwb's or anything like that. I occasionally watch it after being abstinence, stressed or just can't relax. Some genuine insight on the situation would be greatly appreciated! I've been single and abstaining for 5+ years now. I've went months, weeks and occasionally multiple days without. Does that classify me as pervert, sick or anything negative
(TRIGGER WARNING) To go more in depth with my question, can porn misconstrue or contort your grown up response and arousal, causing you to feel things to stuff you do not find pleasing? The reason I’m asking this is because something happened just now that is bothering me. I was on TikTok and I saw a video where a girl was explaining how her father SA’ed her. It was really hard for me to even get through the video and I kept pausing throughout because of how shocking it was. However, I noticed that I kept feeling groinal responses along with unwanted imaginations of what she was saying. I know, people typically kind of imagine stories in their head when someone else is telling them said stories, but I felt movement and it was bothering me because it did not match how I’ve felt about what I was hearing. Of course, I had to ignore the intrusive thoughts, but it was really hard for me to watch the whole video and I still have not watched it through. I felt like I was fighting with myself, however, when I think about it right now, I feel nothing. I know I probably should stop doing that because checking is only going to make the rumination worse, but I just wanted to see if porn could be a factor in this as I have struggled with pornography addiction as I was exposed to it around six or seven years old all the way up to now being 24.
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