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Well I’m not an OCD specialist or relationship therapist but ur relationship sounds very untrusting even without OCD being involved. He should understand why you don’t trust him and he should trust you. In a relationship that’s how it works. My boyfriend is out clubbing tonight and my OCD goes through the roof saying stuff like “what if he cheats on you and can’t remember” or “what if he finds another girl attractive” but I know that is OCD because I do trust him. You can tell the difference from OCD thoughts and just generally not trusting them anyway like I know he wouldn’t do anything and he loves me very much and understands my OCD thoughts and supports me. But I can’t help OCD thoughts popping up in my head, I don’t the thoughts but they stick in my head because OCD is evil and tries to take away the things you love the most.
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I was forced to explain my OCD due to my thoughts getting so bad I couldn’t take it anymore. I was really crying and I tried to keep it a secret for a bit but it didn’t work. I didn’t say it was related to relationships but I have had the theme and all themes like (HOCD, ROCD, PureO) he responded by giving me a hug and basically said you need to get help and I will support you no matter what your thoughts say.
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Oh that must be so difficult :( how long have you been with him? Trust me our relationship isn’t perfect my OCD has tested our relationship many times!
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I’ve had similar experience except with trust issues with my boyfriend. I’ve caught him messaging another girl and after a huge debate I decided to give him another chance ... this was 4 months ago. I think that breach in trust exacerbated my OCD because now I’m always thinking, that if he doesn’t text me back right away, or I see him active on social media and not replied to be that he is talking to another girl ... this has put a lot of strain on our relationship where he’s getting fed up with me alway picking fights and saying “i know u fucked up, but if you want to be with me you have to trust me” and I’m really struggling with deciphering: is this OCD ? Or is this reality ? Any advice ?
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- 6y
Wow, I just joined today after therapy but your original post is exactly what I have. I have exactly these thoughts and my head likes to mess with timelines too. I can't get it out of my head and it drives me mad. I am trying to do ERP to help and fortunately my bf is extremely supportive but it's really reassuring to find I am not the only one with these thoughts..
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How did u explain to your boyfriend that you have ocd ? Did you explain it’s related to relationships? How did he respond ?
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- 19w
I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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- 17w
Hey everyone I know I’ve mentioned this before but, I wanted to share again just in case if anyone new sees this. I deal with cheating ocd really bad, like I always have thoughts about the past and such and get worried about things. I know my morals and values and I know id never ever cheat, but my mind always loves to play the “What if” game. It really sucks. My boyfriend is the sweetest and a god sent to me and he is always there for me but ugh this ocd dealing with cheating and false memory/real events kills me, anyone else relate? I dont know how to put up with it anymore, Just today I remembered I had an old twitter account which is now X, but I remembered I deleted my account a long long time ago but ugh I used to be on twitter so much awhile ago and my ocd acted up and was like “You better go check to make sure you didn’t do anything.” And I remembered I sat with myself and said “I know my morals I would never do that to him.” And then my ocd was like “Are you sure? What if you did?” Etc and my anxiety is now so bad about it now :(
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- 15w
I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.
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