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Do you worry getting help is reassurance?
I am getting help but I’m scared it actually just reassurance seeking.
I am getting help but I’m scared it actually just reassurance seeking.
It depends on what you mean by “help”. As long as it isn’t unreasonably preventing you from feeling certain feelings or having certain thoughts then you are probably fine. It was confusing when I first was getting into therapy but it’s pretty clear now. We are just so used to associating negative behaviors with help. However, it becomes quite evident that some actions are just to make you feel more comfortable and not help you progress.
@Picknick Like I’m scared me going into therapy is just reassurance seeking
I’m not sure what the difference is or why reassurance is bad…?
@JakeOak Reassurance prevents you from sitting with uncomfortable thoughts and or feelings. Reassurance reinforce that those thoughts and or feelings are dangerous. I.e. it just makes OCD worse and makes you seek more reassurance
@Picknick OIC!!
One fun thing about what I’ve experienced is that even if I go to people for reassurance, more often than not it doesn’t help and makes things worse. I see how from an outside perspective it looks like denial and the moment I open my mouth to talk about it the instant thought is “you’re faking it, you know it’s true and you’re faking it”. And it’s great when people say maybe you are this or that like it’s no big deal, …but it is? And then again it’s like maybe they see something I don’t?
I've gotten diagnosed with OCD and I'm in therapy. But I'm worried that I don't have OCD/that I got misdiagnosed. And recently I'm worried that I've just gotten myself into a habit of thinking of dirty minded or just plain old terrible things after I see/hear certain things because I feel like I need to prove I have OCD or else I'm faking(sometimes this goes away). Or that I'm just mimicking symptoms of ocd to cope with real problems I may have and that im just really deep into denial. I don't know...I'm just so tired. I mean, what if I really am what I think I am and this is my brains only way of coping? I don't even really feel anything towards most of the thoughts anymore either I just know they go against my values and I don't want them. I don't know if that's because I'm so mentally exhausted, I just don't care, or that the thoughts are true and I'm comfortable with them.
Hi everyone. I'm feeling kinda scared because I have to wait a whole month to start ERP therapy, but I feel like I need to start doing exposures now because the longer I wait, the more anxiety I get. It just feels like the OCD monster is getting worse. One thing that helps me is asking one person about an obsession I have...asking a person that I trust, and then doing an exposure after I get the "ok" to do it. I feel like I do need 1 reassurance and then I can go ahead and do it. I know i'm not supposed to ask for reassurance at all, but i dont think you're supposed to do ERP on your own right? Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do while waiting for therapy? PS-the reason there is a wait is bc she's on vacation. After she's back we will meet regularly.
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