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Do you worry getting help is reassurance?
I am getting help but I’m scared it actually just reassurance seeking.
I am getting help but I’m scared it actually just reassurance seeking.
It depends on what you mean by “help”. As long as it isn’t unreasonably preventing you from feeling certain feelings or having certain thoughts then you are probably fine. It was confusing when I first was getting into therapy but it’s pretty clear now. We are just so used to associating negative behaviors with help. However, it becomes quite evident that some actions are just to make you feel more comfortable and not help you progress.
@Picknick Like I’m scared me going into therapy is just reassurance seeking
I’m not sure what the difference is or why reassurance is bad…?
@JakeOak Reassurance prevents you from sitting with uncomfortable thoughts and or feelings. Reassurance reinforce that those thoughts and or feelings are dangerous. I.e. it just makes OCD worse and makes you seek more reassurance
@Picknick OIC!!
What did I do if I really want reassurance
If I stop seeking reassurance will the thoughts become less?
I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
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