Do I need to confess?

Hi I’m scared I flirt because sometimes when I’m around the opposite sex I’ll like get this weird feeling of excitement. I’ll like talk to them and part of me wants them to notice me and think I’m attractive. I’m not like 😏😏😏 to anyone but one time I’ve complimented someone’s art a few times over discord over a few different artworks. Part of me still wants to be noticed as attractive and desirable. I dunno. I don’t know if I need to confess this. I’m not like touching anyone or doing flirty poses or saying anything inappropriate but yeah.

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Username: ROCDmenschROCDmensch

Date posted: 45w ago

Confessing is a compulsion. It's not an option if you want to overcome OCD. You have the strength to not confess. Imagine the anxiety like a wave. When you are on the peak of anxiety you might think it's going to rise up more and more and that you can't handle it anymore. But that's not true. At some point, when you lean into uncertainty and don't act on your compulsions, the anxiety will get less again. Think about the wave and don't confess

Username: Anon>:Anon>:

Date posted: 45w ago

@ROCDmensch Thank you

Username: Half dollarHalf dollar

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 45w ago

@ROCDmensch Yes! I always confess but am being taught that that’s classic OCD! Now I’m trying not to confess but it’s sooo hard!!! I have to undo years and years of confessing!!! 😢

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 45w ago

Username: GayleGermit11GayleGermit11

Date posted: 45w ago

Hey there! It sounds like you're going through a tough time trying to understand your feelings and how they fit into your interactions. It's totally okay to want to be noticed and feel attractive; that's a natural part of being human. 😊 I'm not an expert on OCD, especially with this theme, so I can't offer professional advice, but I can share some resources that might be helpful to you if that's alright. You might find the OCD Reddit a supportive place to share your experiences and hear from others who might be going through similar situations. It's a community where people discuss their OCD journeys and support one another. Also, I recently started using this app called "unstuck OCD therapy tools" after my NOCD therapist recommended it to me. It's pretty cool because it offers AI-personalized guidance and exercises for those moments when you need some support right away. It might be a helpful tool for you to navigate these feelings and thoughts.

Username: Pinkprincess23

Date posted: 23w ago

Feeling horrible

Is it normal to be flattered when the opposite gender gives you attention and to like to feel pretty? I have a loving boyfriend and I would never cheat on him. I feel like I emotionally cheated because I was dancing at a wedding reception and was enjoying that this MUCH older, popular, “attractive” guy was noticing me. I tried to move my butt or dance “better” when he was looking?? My boyfriend was not at this reception and I was drinking. When the older guy left, I was sad because I wasn’t going to get the attention that I was getting. But we didn’t have a conversation other than him saying a few words to me. I did not say anything back to him. But I did enjoy his attention because I felt pretty. I never ever wanted to cheat on my boyfriend. I just wanted to look good. I don’t know why. This sounds awful. This incident was almost two years ago and I still feel horrible about it. My dad has told me this is human nature and I’m just overthinking it. I’ve already told my boyfriend and he was hurt but he said it would be like him wanting to look good on the beach in front of people.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

respond pls!! :)

hey guys, this is going to be long but i’m trying to heal and i really really would love advice. i’m looking for help with confession ocd in romantic relationships. my question is, how do i stop myself when i have the feeling “wow this is something i REALLY need to confess. no it’s actually important this time” even though the logical part of my brain is saying all it will do is probably cause an argument and isn’t important. how do you get past that feeling of “i HAVE to say this thing because they NEED to know?” that feeling of it being so important. another question is if you do confess and you struggle with false memory, i feel like a lot of the time i say “i might have” it “i think i…”. this feels unfair to my bf because he never knows what’s real and what isn’t and NEITHER DO I!!! most of the stuff i confess is from around 2 years ago, so small details i don’t remeber. false memories can also make literally anything feel real. so when i months later after confession remever the REAL answer (i DID do this when i said i MIGHT have) how to stop from RE confessing?? sorry this was so long but i’m really trying to heal and i REALLY need advice. thank you guys!!

Username: King silly

Date posted: 14w ago

I feel seriously done. I’m actually a bad person

Sometimes when I feel false attraction, I’ll say things out of disbelief and fear, for example, I see a kid that looks older and I feel sort attraction so I panic and say “I’m attracted” “I think he’s attractive” “he is/looks attractive” ,, “he’s attractive” ,, “he looks handsome” along those lines… I panic when I say these and my brain uses it against me… I genuinely feel like a bad person. I feel like I’m genuinely attracted now and that I’m a bad person and that I need to accept it, I’m so scared. I don’t want to be this person but when I think about it, it’s like it’s not bad to be one and I don’t freak out and it makes me worry

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