- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
OCD self esteem
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
Grace is a powerful word to me these days. Grace. It’s a really pretty word. And it’s really hard to give myself. But I’m trying.
What kind of things do you think others do to boost their self esteem?
Exercise, so something kind for someone, fix themselves up. Ok.. thanks Wolfram... my online therapist!!
I’m working on this as well so I completely understand how hard it is! But I try to remind myself that I am not choosing to have these thoughts, as they are intrusive thoughts, meaning they’re, unwanted and ego-dystonic (go against my values). I also tell myself that my ocd is just attacking what I care about most, which is why the thoughts are so disgusting to me. You are not your thoughts, so try to be gentle with yourself! You deserve to be kind to yourself, even if ocd doesn’t make you feel like it 🫶
You can’t focus on improving your self esteem around a issue that’s still an obsession your trying to get temporary relief that your ocd is gonna Tear apart, you have to accept worst case scenrio and get comfortable with it, try writing it down on a piece of paper and letting your self feel the weight of it, it’s easier said then done but every obession eventually goes away with time if you properly confront it
Dose anyone else experience that your OCD calms down and goes to the back of your mind during- feels almost safe and unaware of it but as soon as it's over and youve calmed down all the intrusive thoughts come rushing back 10x worse? I've had really awful panic attacks because of it the past two nights and it's exhausting I haven't been with another person in over a year because of how bad it was after and not being able to explain it properly to partners "no I'm not crying because of you" "no you didn't do anything wrong" I feel insane- like I'll never be able to have a normal functioning sexual time alone or with others do to it the compulsions that come with it are exhausting it's like the need to cleanse myself of filth like I'm disgusting and horrible until there's no traces I did anything in the first place I'm just so tired dose anyone have any tips of how to work through this- or at least be able to enjoy myself without crying afterwords? I have no idea what subtype this would even entail? I'm going to go with contamination I guess ?
Don't panic, you're still the same girl, your OC gives you a lot of intrusive thoughts that aren't you and that disgust you and scare you and that you don't want and that you don't think are true, and your OC gives you the false feelings.Also, don't forget that whatever comes to mind, whatever intrusive thoughts you have and whatever you feel, is all yours.
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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