- Username
- Speckles
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 43w ago
OCD self esteem
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
Grace is a powerful word to me these days. Grace. It’s a really pretty word. And it’s really hard to give myself. But I’m trying.
What kind of things do you think others do to boost their self esteem?
Exercise, so something kind for someone, fix themselves up. Ok.. thanks Wolfram... my online therapist!!
I’m working on this as well so I completely understand how hard it is! But I try to remind myself that I am not choosing to have these thoughts, as they are intrusive thoughts, meaning they’re, unwanted and ego-dystonic (go against my values). I also tell myself that my ocd is just attacking what I care about most, which is why the thoughts are so disgusting to me. You are not your thoughts, so try to be gentle with yourself! You deserve to be kind to yourself, even if ocd doesn’t make you feel like it 🫶
You can’t focus on improving your self esteem around a issue that’s still an obsession your trying to get temporary relief that your ocd is gonna Tear apart, you have to accept worst case scenrio and get comfortable with it, try writing it down on a piece of paper and letting your self feel the weight of it, it’s easier said then done but every obession eventually goes away with time if you properly confront it
Does anyone experience physical confidence issues that might be related to OCD?
My whole life I’ve found reasons to not like myself. Whether I thought I was weird or ugly or overweight. Because of this, I’ve always sought the acceptance of others which sometimes made me do things, that looking back, wasn't who I really wanted to be (drinking, being intimate with someone, saying I like things that I don't, not standing up for myself, etc.). OCD hasn’t made liking myself any easier. The awful thoughts and false memories have made me dislike myself more because they’ve made me feel like a disgusting monster. They’ve made me feel like I don’t even know who I am, which is extra scary because even without OCD, I’ve struggled with that as mentioned above. OCD has tried filling in the gaps and has preyed upon my insecurities and it's terrifying. Now that I’m taking the steps to learn to love myself, OCD is gripping on even harder. It tells me I don’t deserve love because maybe my false memories are true or I don’t deserve love because of the horrible thoughts I have. It's really hard honestly, but I know I need to keep trying. I also wonder had I loved myself before, would I have even had an OCD problem? Because maybe if I loved myself and knew what a good person I was, the thoughts would have never gripped on? I don't know. Be kind to yourselves. It certainly is a journey.
Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has experienced something similar with OCD and intrusive thoughts. I’ve been struggling during moments of intimacy because intrusive thoughts, particularly ones related to POCD, feel so ‘sticky’—like they’re all I can picture. Even though I really want the thoughts to go away, they persist, and I’ve been trying not to avoid intimacy because of them. However, that makes me feel like I’m somehow ‘enjoying’ the thoughts or images, which I really dislike. It’s like my brain is playing this awful trick, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and gross. I guess I’m supposed to not let the thoughts bother me and continue as if nothing’s wrong, but I’m scared that by doing so, I’m almost training myself to get off to them or something. This fear makes it so hard to trust myself in those moments, and it’s been overwhelming. If anyone else has been through this, how do you handle it?
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