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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
OCD self esteem
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
Grace is a powerful word to me these days. Grace. It’s a really pretty word. And it’s really hard to give myself. But I’m trying.
What kind of things do you think others do to boost their self esteem?
Exercise, so something kind for someone, fix themselves up. Ok.. thanks Wolfram... my online therapist!!
I’m working on this as well so I completely understand how hard it is! But I try to remind myself that I am not choosing to have these thoughts, as they are intrusive thoughts, meaning they’re, unwanted and ego-dystonic (go against my values). I also tell myself that my ocd is just attacking what I care about most, which is why the thoughts are so disgusting to me. You are not your thoughts, so try to be gentle with yourself! You deserve to be kind to yourself, even if ocd doesn’t make you feel like it 🫶
You can’t focus on improving your self esteem around a issue that’s still an obsession your trying to get temporary relief that your ocd is gonna Tear apart, you have to accept worst case scenrio and get comfortable with it, try writing it down on a piece of paper and letting your self feel the weight of it, it’s easier said then done but every obession eventually goes away with time if you properly confront it
I am struggling to feel like I deserve any of the confidence I used to have. I’ve done a lot of pretty cool stuff in my life, and I used to think it was impressive. I was so proud, and I would light up when others gave me compliments. Now, it feels like all a lie, and I can’t stop thinking everyone would hate me if they knew the terrible things I’ve thought or said or done. I make art, for example, and I’ve had a lot of success with it. But now, I feel like others would troll me or destroy my work, and then tell everyone that anything I touch is trash. Basically, I fear being bullied for the mistakes of my past — or even just for my thoughts. My therapist keeps telling me I’m completely normal and I’m the only one beating myself up, but my OCD says, “No, she’s wrong — you should stop pursuing your dreams and push away anyone who likes you, because they’ll all hate you eventually.” I know it’s ridiculous, but it feels so real. Anyone have advice for rebuilding confidence in the face of OCD?
Hoping to find solidarity - I’m coming out of a major OCD episode and my self-esteem definitely took a hit. I talked with my therapist about it, and she was really helpful, and it definitely seems like it could be depression, especially as it was a really rough winter where I live and it’s really only just starting to ease up. Plus it’s also late at night as I’m writing this and as they say, never trust how you feel about your life after 9PM lol - but I’m just wondering if anyone else is dealing with this. I can sit with the uncertainty and the anxiety, but my self-esteem definitely takes a hit with every intrusive thought, and it makes me feel like no one could ever love me, or like I’d be lying/faking being a good person. Just curious to hear others’ thoughts about this - if this is pretty much to be expected after a major OCD episode, if this is depression, etc. And like, for context, it was a really bad OCD episode - fears I thought I’d dealt with already came up, a lot of new fears, every day for months was really high anxiety where I was watching TV just to get through the day, and it felt like I was just holding on until my next therapy session. And all centered around one of the darker OCD themes, and I’m only just coming out of it. Like this is the second or third week where I’ve been able to sit with things that come up and let the anxiety pass, so I feel like this is probably to be expected, that now that it’s passing, there’s things I have to address, like the self-esteem and the areas of my life that got neglected while I was in survival mode. I just hope it gets better soon - I want to go back to how I was feeling last spring and summer, when OCD wasn’t bothering me as much, or it was a less-dark theme to deal with, and i felt so much better about myself 😣 Maybe it’s just a matter of getting out of the house and out of my own head, and doing things that align with my values, especially after months of feeling like a terrible person? Will this pass eventually and I’ll feel like myself again? It’s just hard to actually really think about myself and what kind of person I am - I get anxious thinking about if I’m a good person or a bad person, and I almost kind of try to avoid thinking much about myself at all. And it feels like I’m faking being a good person - like if people only knew half the thoughts and fears that came up, they wouldn’t like me anymore. And it feels like if I move on and forget about these fears that came up, I’m lying to people and to myself, but I just wish I could move on from all of this, and be who I used to be, when these thoughts and fears weren’t on my mind. If you read this far, thank you 🤗❤️ i hope things get easier for you soon and that many good things come your way. Stay safe and take care of yourself
Sometimes people with OCD find that it has an impact on their self-esteem. In what ways has OCD impacted your self-esteem?
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