- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
OCD self esteem
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
How do you improve on Self Esteem when you are disgusted with yourself because of your intrusive thoughts?!?!
Grace is a powerful word to me these days. Grace. It’s a really pretty word. And it’s really hard to give myself. But I’m trying.
What kind of things do you think others do to boost their self esteem?
Exercise, so something kind for someone, fix themselves up. Ok.. thanks Wolfram... my online therapist!!
I’m working on this as well so I completely understand how hard it is! But I try to remind myself that I am not choosing to have these thoughts, as they are intrusive thoughts, meaning they’re, unwanted and ego-dystonic (go against my values). I also tell myself that my ocd is just attacking what I care about most, which is why the thoughts are so disgusting to me. You are not your thoughts, so try to be gentle with yourself! You deserve to be kind to yourself, even if ocd doesn’t make you feel like it 🫶
You can’t focus on improving your self esteem around a issue that’s still an obsession your trying to get temporary relief that your ocd is gonna Tear apart, you have to accept worst case scenrio and get comfortable with it, try writing it down on a piece of paper and letting your self feel the weight of it, it’s easier said then done but every obession eventually goes away with time if you properly confront it
I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
Don't panic, you're still the same girl, your OC gives you a lot of intrusive thoughts that aren't you and that disgust you and scare you and that you don't want and that you don't think are true, and your OC gives you the false feelings.Also, don't forget that whatever comes to mind, whatever intrusive thoughts you have and whatever you feel, is all yours.
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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