asexual soocd ?? please read

how do I know the difference between having having a low sex drive versus being asexual? I saw a video about how someone found out they were asexual because they were sad or crying after/during sex. I have cried after sex with my boyfriend sometimes and I often do experience sadness/anxiety many times but I believed that maybe aftercare needs to be prioritized more and that maybe my ocd/anxiety/depression puts me in a state of low libido a lot. There are times where I begin to space out during sex or begin to have uncomfortable thoughts, and then there are times where I enjoy it in every way possible. I also believe that because me and my boyfriend are going through the process of healing betrayal and trust in our relationship that that could be a big factor as well. all of these things add up as reasons for just having a low sex drive. I've also always said that i think i could be in a relationship where i didn't have sex often if at all and I think id be okay because it isnt a priority to me. But seeing that video really made me suddenly question it and it scared me a little because I have questioned if I really know sexual attraction vs. aesthetic attraction and now I just feel scared and confused. This could change so much for my relationship and I'm just scared that the answer is something I don't want it to be. could someone please help or leave some insights?

Username: Pascale_900000Pascale_900000

Date posted: 22w ago

hey, this might be the last thing you want to hear, but you don’t need an answer! your truth can be a mix of these things, don’t forget that sexuality/asexuality is a spectrum. Ocd makes me question my identity a lot, and when I’m spiralling it makes me feel really bad about it, and stressed, and unsure, but when I’m not spiralling I feel calm, and happy about my identity, even if I don’t know 100% what it is, you don’t owe ANYONE a label

Username: stxrmadsstxrmads

Date posted: 22w ago

thank you so much. I realized I think I am also comfortable not knowing or having a table when I am not ruminating. I also avoid thinking about it because im scared ill begin to freak out but otherwise it's true haha. thank you!

Username: stxrmadsstxrmads

Date posted: 22w ago

@stxrmads label*

Username: Drazil25Drazil25

Date posted: 22w ago

you don’t have to be sex-repulsed to be asexual!! i know labels are tricky when interacting with OCD, but people who are aceflux (or somewhere else on the aspec) can still enjoy sex while being asexual!

Username: stxrmadsstxrmads

Date posted: 22w ago

you're right! and I know this especially when I'm thinking clearly. I guess im also scared to research the difference lables out of fear of dissecting how I feel and getting more confused than I was before. But truly thank you it helps to have the reminder that sexuality and gender are really fluid

Username: NeytiriNeytiri

Date posted: 21w ago

I could help u maaybe. I have similar issues. Could we talk ?

Username: morgan?

Date posted: 5y ago

How do I know if I’m asexual or if it’s really just hocd? Ive been obsessing over this for days. I don’t want to be asexual at all. I consider myself straight and not to long ago I got over the themes of gay and bisexuality of hocd. I don’t think about sex all that much maybe one every two weeks and I do want sex one day right now I just have that eh like it ok or whatever feeling about it and I don’t know does this stuff mean I’m asexual I have had slit of crushes before but I don’t know if I’m asexual. I need help!??

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Issiah Harris31

Date posted: 29w ago

[22 M] Am I asexual or just triggered

I am having such a hard time right now. So I’m a person who suspects they have OCD. I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts about harming myself or my family, Also those of being a pedophile for years now. But the one that is currently in my mind is that I’m Asexual. I’ve always felt I was gay. I wanted to kiss boys I’d be aroused by the sight of them, and just wanted to be close to them. I always suspected why I never had a boyfriend was because of my apprehension and the small dating pool, and being in high school almost non existent one. So I vowed to just save it for the right person. But earlier in the week I got the thought that I subconsciously never wanted that, and that I was just lying about being gay and actually never felt attraction. Now I’m racking my brain of all the times I’ve ever liked someone, trying to find out if it was real. And it’s terrifying me. I know there’s nothing wrong with it but it just doesn’t feel right for me.

Username: stxrmads

Date posted: 26w ago

soocd or comp het/denial

Please someone leave any advice or similar stories. I had identified as bi and then had fears about my sexuality a few years ago, and decided on the term unlabeled to describe my sexuality to anyone who asked and it made me the most comfortable because i was confused about my romantic atraction and sexual attraction towards women vs men. Recently, seemingly triggered by pride month and people discussing comp het, while in a relationship with my boyfriend I have been dealing with fears of wondering if I'm really attracted to men at all or what attraction really feels like and being sexually aroused by explicit images of women I had seen by accident. I am worried that I am experiencing comp het or I'm in the wrong relationship or I'm going to hurt my boyfriend. I have also voiced all of this to him and he is there for me, but that doesn't mean it's easy. I have other anxieties about my relationship and worry if those are ocd related or not as well(such as worrying about limerence) but I'm just so terrified. I feel that just because I have ocd that doesn't mean I can have these experiences that other queer people actually have and it makes me worried that I coukd go years without ever knowing just for one day to know and my whole world to be flipped upside down. I'd rather die than for that to be my reality. Someone please leave advice or tips it's all so appreciated.

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