How do you guys deal with rejection from other people or them pulling away when you talk about your OCD and intrusive thoughts? I've been dealing with that a little bit lately and it hurts a lot. I don't know how to deal with it.
Hi there. I am so so sorry you are experiencing this:( Not only are you dealing with OCD, but the ostracization from others who aren't able to grasp the mental turmoil you are experiencing. I wish I could take this pain away from you:( I wish people were more empathetic and understanding towards individuals and certain themes. For me I take the time to realize that even though some people may not understand, that does not mean I alone! Please reach out if you need anything!
I went through postpartum ocd and I opened up to family about it and eventually they just started talking over me. They didn’t care. I think they think I made it up or Something. Like they didn’t take me seriously at all. Even though I literally spent money and searched for a year to find a therapist specialized in this stuff who diagnosed me. My mom even told me I need to find a different therapist. Idk. Time has passed and everything and everyone has moved on but honestly you win some and lose some. It’s hard but if people want to pull away then maybe they shouldn’t be around anyway. The only person who has supported me and hasn’t thought I was being dumb was my SIL who also has ocd. She is the one who made me feel “normal” as in im not the only one.
I have had to deal with this within my family. I just try to be understanding with them tbh. So sad truth is that people who don't have OCD will never understand OCD (unless they are therapists specialized in OCD). So try to be forgiving with them, they don't pull away from you because they are bad people or you are a bad person but simply because there is an illness between ya'll that is hard to graps for them. I take that as motivation to become better so I can bridge that gap that OCD made between me and other people again. As for support I would advise you to go to online forums like these or in-person support groups with other people who have OCD and understand you. And search for a specialized therapist if you have one. I wouldn't go to people who don't have OCD anymore for support tbh. As I said they usually can't offer it as they are misunderstanding the condition.
i just don’t tell anybody
I’m fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didn’t help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. I’ve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so it’s been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today I’m even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I don’t know what I’m expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what I’m feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on it’s own. But when people are telling you they think you’re a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. I’m just tired.
I’m 25 years old. Never have been in a relationship with a female. When I think about it, it makes me very sad. I have an extremely low self esteem. It was brought to my attention by a couple of OCD specialists about the correlation between OCD and my fear of rejection. For example, if I get rejected, it would mean that that person is confirming that I am indeed worthless and should go kill myself, etc. This sick all or nothing thinking is probably a big reason why I haven’t been in a relationship. My therapist at the moment from NOCD is pushing me to interact with more women by initiating conversation but I am nervous about this. I keep telling myself I’m going to say something to someone but I always freeze up and make excuses.
Hey guys. I feel like you all are the right people to ask because you’re going through this as well. Do you have any tips for helping with the loneliness that ocd can bring? What helps you? Oftentimes I feel like when I’m struggling I don’t want to bring it up all of the time to my family, because ocd is the same thing to explain every time. I realized that I was becoming really isolated, especially because my themes are SOOCD and ROCD, which make me avoid relationships and friends sometimes, even though doing so is making me lonely. Any tips? Thanks guys ❤️
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