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Need for Certainty
Hey guys. Just a reminder that regardless of the subtype, our need for certainty is the enemy. I hope you guys are doing okay today. Any victories or grievances that need to be shared?
Hey guys. Just a reminder that regardless of the subtype, our need for certainty is the enemy. I hope you guys are doing okay today. Any victories or grievances that need to be shared?
This is such a good post thank you so much for this reminde
Yeah, very true I'm currently in a very reassurance-seeking mood. My brain has me pretty much convinced that I'm a zoophile, or becoming one, and it wants me to run through recent and past events and like all of my beliefs to see if I am. I'm doing pretty good at ignoring it, but it just sucks to be in that anxiousness cuz it really wants me to be sure I'm a good person, and it wants me to find explanations for things in the past that I don't have clarity on
The reminder is right on time thanks š.I have been dealing with an important issue over the weekend making my pros and cons list mainly between 2 choices to resolution of a problem I have to decide on . And you are right in spite of the choice or the outcome , you can be certain or sure and it is best to just make your peace ā®ļø with that and welcome the outcome in the end as a learning experience.
Typo missed the word canāt
Thank you for that reminder, a victory that I have had is that month ago I had trouble even stopping rumination at all, troubles leaving the house, being present now I can go 30 minutes with ruminating and bring present in the moment
Sometimes it feels like Iām chasing pleasure with my intrusive thoughts. Like I just keep thinking them over and over, or even making them worse, because maybe deep down I *want* them. And thatās honestly scary. It feels like Iām trying to prove Iām a bad person or even a p*dophile just to see if I feel disturbed enough for it to count as āreal distress.ā But sometimes, I donāt even feel that bad. Sometimes itās just⦠nothing. Because if I donāt feel guilty or sick enough, doesnāt that mean I like it? That I want to keep thinking about it? Sometimes it feels like I like it. And thatās when I spiral the hardest. But lately, Iām starting to think maybe Iām not actually chasing pleasure. Maybe Iām just chasing certainty. This desperate need to feel bad enough to prove to myself Iām a good person. And when I donāt feel that level of distress, I panic. I do compulsions, just trying to force that feeling. But it never feels āright.ā It never feels enough. And I get stuck in this loop of testing, checking, pretending to be okay with these awful thoughts just to see how Iāll react. Itās confusing. Itās exhausting. And it makes me question everything about myself. But I think I donāt actually want these thoughts. Maybe I just want to know, with 100% certainty, that I donāt. If youāre stuck in the same cycle, I see you. Youāre not alone. Youāre not your thoughts. Youāre just trying to make sense of something that doesnāt make sense. And thatās okay.
I hope everyone is holding up okay! Iāve been seeing a lot of scared posts and whatnot lately, so I just wanted to make this post to remind ourselves to practice our uncertainty! I want to share a few response prevention lines that help me calm down! My thoughts do not define who I am. Maybe Iām a bad person, maybe Iām not, but I have a lot of things I need to do now. Iām going to practice not knowing for sure. I donāt have to solve this problem. I am choosing to sit with this uncomfortableness!
Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and canāt remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didnāt and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, itās affecting my relationship and Iām going on holiday on Friday and Iām worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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