- Username
- Lrose
- Date posted
- 6y ago
First off, I’m sorry you’re going through this. You did the right thing by telling her and distancing yourself from them. Does the guy still harass you? Does he go to your place? Can you get a restraining order? even report if he threatened you. As for the woman, if she comes back I’d tell her (with the door closed) “why bother come here since you clearly sided with the guy and chose him over our friendship/mutual trust. I’m really hurt by it and I need to be alone. Please leave”
Thank you for your kind words bless you. I called the police, the police came and I have a statement and they advised me to call 999 if he turned up again, or update them if any more happened. I have nothing to do with him, I was petrified. I’ve only lived on my own for one year, it has made me very ill in the head, but I’m worried if I text her and say don’t come ever again etc because that situation made me ill I am worried other people will then be told that. But I don’t want anything to do with her, as far as I was concerned our friendship was over then and there. Xx
Lots of hugs ? I wouldn’t worry about her for now. I’d tell her if she shows up again. The way she’s making you feel is not good, you need to be surrounded by supportive friends. Living on your own is hard, you’re doing great. You’re worried that others would know you get sick? You’re a human being, as much as it sucks to feel sick it’s okay. You’re always welcome here to talk. Do you feel sick all the time? If so I would suggest seeing a therapist. Maybe you have PTSD from your experience? I have that from my attack. :(
The paranoia I have is because of the guy, he truly made me feel so ill. I had a boyfriend who was very abusive physically and mentally before and even that didn’t make me as bad as what something as small as this has ?. I have problems with my mood too, like very extreme mood swings (I think I mentioned that on a previous post) and I’m seeing a mental health team to get a diagnosis hopefully. I have had a lot of therapy before but it hasn’t really helped that much. The paranoia which that idiot has set off has made me believe I’m going to go to prison, someone is listening to my phone calls, checking to see if houses down my road windows are closed because I believed they could hear inside my house, so frustrated and so disappointed that I have let some nasty piece of work do that to me ?. I’m sorry you have PTSD I have heard a lot about that, it must be awful for you ? I’m so sorry to hear that and I hope you are on your way to recovery Xx
Thank you. I’m glad you’re getting the help that you need. I feel the guy who is a tool added onto your experience with your ex being abusive. Mine was like that. Things kept piling up (even though I didn’t think much at the time). I really wish you a speedy recovery. It’s no fun living like this. You deserve to be happy. Lots of hugs. We are here for you. You’re not alone!! ?
Wow so.... I’ll tell you what I would tell a friend.... you need to run from that situation. You have rights. He came on to you. And your friend is an idiot for taking his side. my nerves would be shot too if someone did that to me. And I’ve been there too with the paranoia thing. Can you talk to your therapist or doctor? They should be able to point you in the right direction.
If you’re otherwise safe and ok to want to do something without further involvement - consider pointing in the direction of a women’s shelter hotline.
Hello there. I haven't been on here for a while as I have been free from my ocd. However the last few weeks I have had it creeping back. A person who I thought was a friend turned out to be absolutely vile and has preyed on my ocd to try and make me ill again. She has told friends about my ocd who never knew about it....fortunately these friends have looked it up and completely understand. My ocd wont however let me stop thinking about what she said to my friend and I am obsessing about this horrible vile person and what she has said to others who dknt know me that well. It is bringing my 'p' ocd to the forefront of my mind again. I know it is my thought processes but throughout my life I have always worried what others think about me and this person knew that. She has lied and lied and has said I am this terrible person with a black heart. I know I am certainly not but I still cant stop worrying what she has said to someone who hardly knows me. I know this shouldn't bother me but it does. Is this my ocd working overtime? She said that people laugh at me and call me loopy louise which I know they dont but I really dont caring they do because I laugh at it to. But because I had the very disturbing paedophile thoughts she said to someone that I think I am a peado. This friend told me straight away and has since fallen out with this awful person. But I cant stop thinking about this constantly and what others might think who dont really know. This person I have since found out after 25 years of knowing of her has actually been a terrible person to her children when they were growing up and stole thousands of pounds off of vulnerable people. I dont know why this is bothering me as all of my friends who care about me know about my ocd and understand. I just cant seem to get this horrible person out of my mind. It didnt bother me until she tried to bully me and then sent all of the texts I sent her years ago when I divorced my husband. He told me he knew she was nuts but it bothered me when he said she said some disgusting and vile things about me. This has so upset me. Just wondered if anyone can give me any advice . Btw my ex lived with my ocd for years! Thanks for listening. Just need some support from others with this horrible disorder. Xx
Ok so this is going to be lengthy and probably have many mistakes so I apologize in advance. I used to live somewhere completely different to where I live now. I lived back in my hometown until I was 10. That was a living nightmare for me. I was bullied lots and had lots of very traumatizing things happen to me that are a VERY big part to my ocd today. When I was very young like 7 or 8 I was at a sleepover with another girl and she was pressuring me into doing things that I was very uncomfortable doing. She was pressuring me to take some of my clothes off. At the time I was very young and didn’t know right from wrong and didn’t know what to do so because she was being very peer pressure to me I did so because I was scared. I have never been able to come to peace with myself after this even though I have been told that I did NOTHING wrong and that I was very young and stuff. But then I moved somewhere completely different, and lost contact with everyone because I knew that it was too much for me to handle. Today someone from there reached out me ( a good person) and wanted to talk and catch up. I did talk to her for a little bit (it’s not the same person that pressured me) and I texted her after telling her how I needed to lose contact with here because so many of my intrusive thoughts came from living there, so being in contact with people was mentally not ok with me. She was completely understanding and all’s good. But I’m wondering. What happened with that girl. Should I fee guilt about? Or is this my ocd. I just need some other opinions. Please help me out!
Back in October, I told one of my friends about my intrusive and scary thoughts relating to POCD. A few days later, she cut me off after sending me a text message, which basically accused me of being an actual pedophile or someone who wants to hurt children. This was a very stressful day to say the least. Anyways- fast forward to today- she reaches out to me for the first time since then, basically confronting me once again about all of this. She also posted comments relating to my POCD thoughts on my social media profile. I just feel anxious that I can’t be trusted anymore and that she is going to tell everyone that I’m terrible or that everyone is going to think I’m actually terrible. I have already had enough worries about being a bad person, it is even more difficult when your once best friend is accusing you of being the most horrendous thing that many people can ever imagine. I’m scared to be around other people, for that they may have heard something about me, or will. I feel paranoid. I feel afraid for my future. Ever since October, I have felt that this would haunt me for the rest of my life.
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