- Username
- Heello
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Sadly, when we masterbate we sre always going to get what ifs or intrusives always with and they are always disturbing. You just gotta learn to ignore them
I was just going to ask a what if, like what if its sin and God punishes me? :(
@Hoping for the best I’m not going to give you reassurance because I can’t but think of what I am going to tell you God loves all his children he died for our sins so that we’d be free of sin on top of that God isn’t spiteful nor judgemental the only reason we think he is is because of the construct our parents put into our minds to scare us. In reality God is awesome and forgiving! So think about that! Your what if is part of religious ocd on top of that whenever we have what ifs our what ifs are never real
@Ella___ Thanks Ella, ive struggled with this for a long time, always thinking bad of myself and thinking God will punish me ot go to hell. This is horrible, but I hope I get better.
@Hoping for the best You will trust me I recovered from religious ocd a long time ago God is loving and kind and forgiving. He won’t hate you for masterbating that’s just what humans do its in our nature, try not to give into what your ocd is putting into your head.
Not sure it will help and am trying to not give reassurance but we are all sinners. God died for our sins and God forgives (not that pornography or masterbation are even sinful, I don’t think they are.) But if you feel you are addicted, cut back and ask for God’s help in cutting back. Only you know if it’s too much
https://youtu.be/W8zW1DD-YS0 Contrary to these lukewarm responses, appeasing as it to our feelings, it is a sin. And God is really clear about pornography, lust and masturbation: its not His will for us, because He cares about our mind and bodies, more than we do! God will help you turn from it and your mind and heart will greatly benefit from it. I'm not here to point a finger at you, I'm here to point to the One who can help you understand your questions.
ButterflyStar, these are not lukewarm responses. But yours is condescending and misses the mark. The point of this app is to not reassure OCD sufferers because seeking someone to give them answers is buying into their OCD. The point is to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty. Through that they can begin to chip away at other habits as they get a handle on that uncertainty. If masturbation/porn are a side effect of coping with OCD or other life issues, then they ought to be dealt with as symptoms of such and not accusing people of sinning. Even if you really do believe it's a sin, saying that to others on this app is completely foolish and unhelpful. You can sow a lot of doubt in someone's mind that way. Definitely not what God is seeking us to do. This isn't a pulpit.
@Ray I agree Ray. It comes from a place of subjectiveness. Rather than being objective. The word “sin” means a million different things and no one person will probably view it the same....
@Ray Hi Ray and Electrolove, I'm answering from a perspective to someone who is asking a question about God and God's will. Electrolove I'm not sure if you're a Christian who has given your life to Christ? I, me a young person sitting in my home right now living my life, doesn't make the rules what sin is, God does. I always encourage people to get help for their OCD as it is a disorder. If you are a Christian Electrolove the best approach for OCD is to sit under a two umbrella approach - one from a therapist and also Christian advisor. Because the disorder needs treated but we also don't need to sin to get over OCD. The aim as a Christian isn't to sin more and be okay with it, it's to get treatment for OCD and being able to see God's will through clearer lenses, not the lenses of OCD. Deepening in your relationship with Christ. I might have assumed you're a Christian? And if I had, my bad! But my answer still applies to someone genuinely seeking the will of God. It's not popular and following Jesus never has been popular 😅.
How can I not fall in sin? Sometimes I wish I didnt have sexual desires :(
@Hoping for the best If you want a Christian based perspective on cutting back on porn there's a neat site called Covenant Eyes. I've never signed up for the accountability program but they have a wonderful blog and literature
All of you are feeding into his religious ocd! In fact you’re not helping him one bit by feeding him forums and stating things from the bible. The bible has been rewritten multiple times on end by different men and their opinions. In other words, what I am trying to say is masterbating is not a sin however, it is unhealthy. However, scientifically proven men need to masterbate at least a few times a month to keep them from getting prostate cancer. Now before your ocd jumps into conclusions like “oh maybe I should masterbate multiple times because “what if” I get prostate cancer” no no no that’s not what I’m implying. What I am stating is there is a difference between unhealthy masterbation and healthy masterbation. If masterbation was a sin then why do men need to masterbate a few times a month to keep the percentage of getting prostate cancer very low.
Thanks Ella, again for replying. I think the main problem I face regarding this is a huge sexual tension and that sometimes I only get excited with porn. I still dont know what to do, but I am feeling very less anxious right now.
It is actially bad for your mental health. So stay away from it, I know it can be hard, but on the long run it is gonna benefit you. #nofap
Does anyone check Same sex pornography for arousal? I feel alone and scared I can’t do this anymore
Im in a tough spot. I have pocd and ive had hocd i havent been diagnosed by anyone but im positive im right. Im also not trying to type this out for reassurance but i dont know if this is,on top of that i had a disgusting addiction to transgender pornography. It didnt feel good after i watched it but i couldnt stop, i always told myself this is it no more but would always do it again. After This i questioned my sexuality i knew i wasnt attracted to the same sex but why was i watching this then. I really felt the affects of this january this year when one night my mind just kept repeating to me you are a pedophile, this really destroyed me i couldnt sleep and at times almost threw up because of this fear of becoming one. I started remembering moments in my life when i would watch hentai and looking back on it now i could consider it cp even though many people wouldnt to me it still feels like it. I know im not attracted to any of this stuff but i feel so broken and disconnected, i dont feel like i can tell anyone but i feel like i should i just dont know how. Sometimes i get urges to watch transgender porn again to prove that im not a pedo but i dont think any porn is good for anyone. Recently i became a christian and i keep praying that these thoughts will go away, going to church really helped me and theres a girl that i have a crush on there but now that im in isolation and my church isnt on things are really tough. I hope i can get through this time and come out stronger and mentaly better. I hope this is ocd. I am currently doing nofap which i feel is really helping me and im on a very long streak. However i really dont want to watch transgender porn again but i keep feeling like if i do the thoughts will go away. I know i must not give up and fight through these thoughts to become the best possible me. Im sorry about this jumbled up mess but i needed to get this out there to someone.
FOR ALL WITH SEXUAL OBSESSIONS: I’ve noticed that most of the people on here struggle with intrusive sexual thoughts that cause a lot of distress, in fact, more than I ever expected to see. I myself have a lot of experience in this area, as I’ve been a sex addict for almost 15 years (I’m 25 now). I’ve actually never had sex; I’m addicted to masturbation. I’m writing this post to get my experience out there and maybe provide some perspective for those who can relate. Now, the difference with me is that my sexual behavior is NOT actually caused by OCD. I am actually a chronic sex addict with a paraphilic disorder. My sexual fantasies are centered around control and domination of people I find attractive. I don’t fantasize about hurting anyone, but I still don’t like the fantasy because we as humans are not meant to be dominated. We were created as equals. Anyway, I’ve noticed that some of you think you have a sex/porn addiction because of obsessive sexual thoughts, even if you don’t act out on them. So I’m going to write down some of the major components of addiction that make my behaviors addictive as opposed to simply being caused by OCD or another disorder. If you are questioning whether or not you are a sex/porn addict, ask yourself the following questions: 1.) Do the fantasies prompt me to act out sexually (e.g. masturbate, call a hooker or prostitute, etc.) and do I gain pleasure/gratification from acting out? 2.) Do I feel intense shame and guilt after I act out, which prompts even more acting out to escape those negative emotions? 3.) In general, do I sexually act out to escape from reality and/or any negative emotions and distress I’m feeling? 4.) Do I continue to act out even though I and the people around me don’t want me to act out? Have I tried stopping before on multiple occasions without any success? 5.) Do I continue to act out in spite of SEVERE negative consequences? Examples of such consequences might be legal consequences, dropping out of school, losing a job, or destroying interpersonal relationships. For example, I have dropped out of grad school twice and got fired from my part time job due to inappropriate behavior and yet I’m still continuing to sexually act out. That’s how I know I’m a full blown addict and not just someone who struggles with sexual thoughts due to OCD. 6.) Did I experience any sort of trauma(s) as a child that could have shaped my present-day sexual behavior? Having experienced trauma as a child is a huge component for addiction. For example, I had a very rigid and overbearing stepmom for most of my childhood, which probably influenced my present day sexual fantasy about domination and control. If you can’t relate to at least 2 or 3 of these items, then you are probably NOT a sex/porn addict. I relate to ALL 6 of these criteria, personally. Now that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seek help if you feel like your sexual behavior is out of control. Such thoughts/habits can always morph into addiction. So if you catch it early, do something about it then instead of later! I only wrote this post because I’m perceiving that a lot of people on here are very quick to label themselves as an addict, when really this type of addiction is very different than what someone with OCD sexual thoughts experiences. Like, OCD sexual thoughts usually cause distress ONLY. My sexual fantasies also bring me pleasure at the same time. That’s the main difference. I hope this helps. Let me know if you have anymore questions or want to talk.
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