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- 7y ago
- Date posted
- 7y ago
Yes, it wants endless control and power
- Date posted
- 7y ago
You have to know that setbacks are a common part of recovery. Getting sick is a natural part of life, so you have to be careful not to start making "exceptions" for when you're giving reassurance and when you're not.. if that makes sense?
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- 7y ago
It's just important not to make too many "exceptions" for when you give into the reassurance. If it starts with giving your son reassurance when he's sick, then all of the sudden you're giving reassurance when he's traveling somewhere, or when he's tired, etc. Although recovery and improvement doesn't have to always be a straight upward arrow, it's important to get into the mindset that you need to be strict and ruthless against the OCD, because we all know how powerful it is and how much control it wants.
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- 7y ago
Right, I see how that could easily happen. There’s many twists and turns, progress and setbacks. Learning how to navigate it and help him learn to navigate. OCD wants all the control.
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- 7y ago
Just spotted this. I’m curious as to others answers to this as adults with ocd. I’m struggling with how to handle this with my 8 yr old. As a parent I want to reassure him but as an OCD parent I know I shouldn’t be. Trying to find the balance. He’s had a setback since being sick 2 weeks ago and seeks reassurance just over and over. Had therapy Friday. Hoping he gets back to where he was soon. He has made tremendous progress, I hate takings step backwards.
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- 7y ago
That does make sense. That could result in a snowball effect. Reassuring more and more and thus making the setback last longer. I’m working at trying to find the balance between when it’s ok to reassure as a parent to a child and when it’s ocd related reassurance seeking. Sometimes it’s crystal clear and sometimes it’s not. But I’m working on it! He’s broken through this bump and is improving again. One moment at a time.
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- 6y ago
I don’t do it much anymore but seeking/giving myself reassurance used to be my biggest compulsion. I notice it’s kicked a lot!
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- 18w ago
When an intrusive thought comes I can’t just say “that’s not true” and just move on. I always feel like I have to disprove the thought and be able to say it with confidence but the problem is that the ocd doesn’t allow me to feel and say it with confidence so I get stuck for hours or even days. How can I stop feeling like I need to do this?
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- 10w ago
OK, this might sound really dumb, but when you guys get intrusive thoughts, do they just come once and then go away? I’ve heard that repeatedly thinking about an intrusive thought is considered ‘checking,’ but it doesn’t feel like I have any control over how many times it comes up in my head. It’s not like I’m trying to check anything—it just keeps showing up, almost like it’s terrorizing me every time. I can’t seem to stop it from looping, stop remembering it, or prevent it from coming up. Every time it does, I feel horrified, and I already know it’s going to horrify me. I don’t think I’m actively trying to see if my feelings have changed, so is this still considered checking? How do other people get an intrusive thought and just move on? Doesn’t it pop up a million times for them too? I always thought that was normal, but now I’m hearing this could be a compulsion, and I feel really confused, scared, and lost. Is this why my OCD feels so extreme? Because I really don’t feel like I can control how many times the thought pops up.
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- Date posted
- 10w ago
Hello! I just got diagnosed with OCD a week ago and joined the app today to find a sense of community. Since my understanding of treatment is minimal at this point, I'm confused why everything on here tells us not to seek or give reassurance? If someone could explain the reasoning behind that it would be greatly appreciated, as I want to make sure I'm not only watching out for it in my personal life but also using this app appropriately.
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