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I usually try to respond to those intrusive thoughts with the grandiose conspiracy theory that would have to be going on for this to take place. For example, I run a DND game for middle schoolers as a part of my job, and sometimes I let them stay on after class for a few minutes and we all hang out and talk. Sometimes OCD says this means I am predator, because I enjoy talking to my students. So I say to OCD: Yes, this has all been a long con for you to groom your students. You are truly evil and despicable human being. No other teachers have fun talking to their students, and the fact that you do crosses a boundary. The fact that you have never experienced attraction to these kids is an illusion and a lie you tell yourself so you can continue to groom them in a guilt free way. And then OCD is just kind of like... Yeah okay fine I sound really ridiculous right now.
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That's a good way to deal with this, making the OCD look as silly as it really is.
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I think it’s more along the lines of “Okay this is a thought I’m having. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything about me, thoughts come and go in everyone’s minds. On the off chance that this one is true, how does that make me feel? Am I able to cope with this discomfort? I’m going to sit with this feeling without performing compulsions, and eventually it’ll go away. Next time the thought comes back, I can brush it off with a little less pain/discomfort.” I guess it’s not about accepting the possibility that the thought presents so much as accepting that these thoughts will always come (because they come to everyone, not just people with OCD). And acknowledging that performing compulsions around a thought doesn’t affect the probability of it “coming true” - so your job is to sit with the feeling it causes, with the knowledge that you can cope with it without compulsions. I don’t think it’s “maybe I am” so much as “no matter how minute the possibility, all things are possible”. I guess it’s about embracing Uncertainty The Concept (as the only universal constant) rather than trying to accept any/all possibilities. Just my two cents!!
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Definitely a much better perspective, but reality is that if one of the thoughts IS true, it wouldn't only be a discomfort but rather a huge disaster, which is why responding to the thoughts with "so what if it's true" and "I shall never know" just seems like it would make things worse you know?
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- 19w
Am I the only one who experiences this, or is it more common than I think? Sometimes, I find myself imagining what a couple’s sex life might look like, or what a person’s body might be like. I think it’s driven by curiosity, and I focus on it for a few seconds. When it comes to family members, teenagers, or anyone I feel uncomfortable imagining in this way, I used to be able to shake it off as an intrusive thought. But lately, I can’t seem to let go of it anymore. I’ve become used to the anxiety, but I’m stuck questioning what this means about me, especially since I’ve taken time to think about it. This is really stressing me out because I feel like a pervert. I’m hoping that this is something more common than I realize and that OCD is just distorting something. I feel like I really need some insight here. Any advice?
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I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
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Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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