Any suggestions on how to deal with ROCD affecting physical intimacy? Fear that i have been saying no so much that now i don’t want it at all

Do you mind elaborating a bit more? “No” to intimacy in general?

Yea soo like whenever my boyfriend goes to initiate sex i never want to and it makes me nervous obviously cause “that means i don’t find him attractive” or “i must not love him anymore” I have intrusive thoughts prior like “what if i don’t enjoy it” and stuff like that so i end up just saying no. So i guess i just wanna know if there’s any work i can be doing to help my situation. Cause it’s not like i don’t want it but when it comes to it it’s always a no.

@Anonymous Ommmmg I feel like i wrote this myself because I experience the same thing with my boyfriend. I want it but then I overthink prior to being intimate and then I just ultimately say no... Even if I do want it beforehand I'll overthink the hell out of it. What helps me is just following through with it despite what my thoughts tell me. If it so happens that I am no longer in the mood mid session , my boyfriend let me know that we can stop whenever and that it's totally fine.

@Anonymous Hi! I deal with this frequently. What really helped me last time was to say to my self "no expectations" and to try mindfulness, to focus on every sensation, being present in the moment and not worrying about what if I don't feel turned on? I know it's easier said than done. But give it a try, and don't feel bad if you can't focus. Good luck 🙏

@paufli Try mindfulness during sex I mean, but i guess it helps in every aspect of life lol

@Material.Gorl Have you ever felt feelings of not liking sexual intimacy after it's been initiated? At least on your part and has it made you feel guilty/uncomfortable and think ur unattracted to ur S.O.?

@Sero82 Yes

@Sero82 Yeppp