brittches
- Date posted
- 6y
0Aqi00Aqi0
- Date posted
- 6y
This is exactly why I’ve stopped talking about mental health with my family members. Also because no one in my family will understand what POCD is, and when I DO talk to my family about my other obsessions they just say “you’re normal, there’s nothing wrong with you.” Like?? YES THERE IS LMAO
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
I see. That’s frustrating! I only explain my situation to others if I’m ready to hear back: “that makes no sense.” I realized that when I wanted to get others to really “get it” and they didn’t that it actually became a cause of further doubt and anxiety.
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
It can help to set a boundary and stick to it. Tell them: I appreciate your concern and I know your questions are coming from a place of caring, but explaining and justifying my diagnosis doesn’t help me, and I would like to stop discussing this with you. I’m happy to let you know how I’m doing, but I’m going to leave the details for my therapist. I hope you can understand and respect that.” If they bring it up again, say “as I told you before, it’s really not helpful for me to go into details with you. Thank you for asking. I am struggling and your support means a lot. But I’d like to leave discussing the details to my therapist.”
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
Unless your family gets their own training in how to support someone with OCD, stop talking to them about any details. You can share if you’re having a particularly bad day or accept love and support, but don’t discuss the details of your obsessions. It’s not helpful, and actually using your family/friends for therapy isn’t a healthy dynamic to have in the first place — OCD or not. Your relationships in general will improve if you use those around you for love and support rather than problem fixers.
brittchesbrittches
- Date posted
- 6y
i mean im not even trying to talk with them as a source of therapy—i was just trying to explain what i was going through and why id decided to go back to therapy, so it was really more like a casual discussion. trust me i definitely don’t use my family/friends as therapists—im currently in school to become one myself, so i keep discussions of my mental health to cursory explanations of why i behave the way i do sometimes bc they are nosy and ask haha
brittchesbrittches
- Date posted
- 6y
which is just to say that i am trying to use them for love and support, but it always ends in an argument with them telling me im not experiencing what im very truly experiencing
brittchesbrittches
- Date posted
- 6y
oh absolutely :( unfortunately my family is very. Very nosy so it gets hard to dodge even though it’s unhealthy :/ hopefully at some point they’ll respect my privacy!!
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