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Hey I don’t know y’alls pronouns but I am a cis-gendered male who now in a loving relationship with the woman I want to marry. But before her I was in a 3 year long emotionally abusive relationship that ended badly. I’ve noticed my partner having similar anxieties to yours and I wanted to share my thoughts about what I’m think when she feels the way you do. Honestly: I know that I am with my partner NOW because she is my best friend, partner, everything. Whether or not your relationships are at that level, the only way I compare my partner to my ex is in two ways. Just noticing similar traits in partners that I notice from time to time (i.e. for me it was having a sense of humor that is silly. They are silly in different ways but it’s that silliness that I know I needed In partner. The other way? I think about how much happier I am to be with my partner now. She is my WORLD. There is a reason I got myself out of the abusive relationship and now in a beautiful relationship with “M”. She is my other half. Now, idk if you’re at the level of engagement or anything, but as a guy, I never feel the need to compare because I only wanna be with my girlfriend. You know how you may have liked something like a “bad boy sketchy type” but later in life you’re like, WOW that’s not attractive (unless that’s you’re thing then peace, love happiness). By us choosing YOU we are growing and maturing further into our life and as we grow we learn to choose what would be the best partner for me in every way; mentally, lifestyle, interests, morals etc etc. Long story short, by us moving on from the past and choosing you to be our futures, it’s a choice that I know I don’t regret.
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I know where you're coming from, I hit a low point where I checked my boyfriends ex girlfriend's page almost every day and compared my looks and posts they shared, thinking she was better and prettier and less problematic etc etc. It only got better when I talked to my boyfriend about it and he told me all about their relationship and how problematic it was and he told me how he thought I was better for him in every aspect, sometimes I still obsess about it but this heart to heart conversation really helped me, so maybe that could help you too!
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Ugh I know how you feel.... I struggle with the other females, past or present, in my boyfriends life too.
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Forgive the typos
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Honestly I have talked to him about it and his relationship with her was also problematic. But I still obsess even tho I know it was bad. Which is why I feel like I’m going nuts
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- 22w
my bf knows abt my googling and talking with chat bgt but does not know about this app, he is at my house and now im alone bc he is at the bathroom and he told me to not google and things but im confused idk what i feel i want to feel good and happy, i was good amd happy today, but now i have a lot of thoughts, my libido is low and i found it hard to kiss and do sexual things. Im scared i will br like this forever amd that i will never want to have sex (i am a virgin) , i will be 18 soon and i hate that i am like this. Im so scared i will never want to do this. i want to, but i always feel strange and my thoughts attack me making me feel so bad. i hate myself for posting here bc it is a compulsion and i feel like a liar, he loves me so much :(
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- 21w
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
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TW I’m feeling really bad about myself today. I feel like a fraud and a liar. I’ve been unable to enjoy my time with my girlfriend because I’m bombarded with my thoughts. I’ve been asking for reassurance from so many people and nothing is helping. Nothing makes me feel better anymore and I’m worried that this is just how it’s going to be for forever. I miss when I could just be happy and not overthink so much. I miss being able to get through my days without this crippling anxiety. I’m worried there’s going to be a day where I realize I have no fight left in me
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