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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thank you
Don’t force connections w other people. Be honest with them about what you’re going through and what you deal with. If they can’t handle it then they don’t deserve to be with you (friendship/relationship/etc). From the moment I decided to recover, I started telling people pretty early on at least the basics of what I deal with (OCD, Ana). If they couldn’t hang w it then they weren’t worth it to me
And remember that once you form a connection w someone, tell them what you need/ask what they need. Good people will always be there to help!
I’ve never really tried telling people other than family
Trust me, people are more understanding than you’d think. And a lot of the time you will be able to find comfort in your similarities with others. Even if they don’t have OCD, everyone has their own troubles. We’re all human! Good luck with everything :)
Take it day by day and be proud of small and big steps alike. We all have anxiety which makes it very difficult , so any progress is dope. I would say try to meet people in groups or clubs just like you so you can relate to them and understand each other. And before any conversation you have with someone , tell yourself that it doesn’t matter if they think it went well or not , first impressions aren’t everything and you can still have a great friendship with someone down the line even if the first impression isn’t the best. Also tell yourself that whatever happens is okay with you. You’ve already been through a lot , so anything that’s disappointing can not and should not have the power to negatively affect you. That’s to say that the situation doesn’t deserve to have power of you , you are in control and you can let it roll off your back if you want to. It’s also good to understand that they may be thinking the same thing!!
I have only recently come to terms with OCD and decided to do something about it. I have found that I no longer have any desire to be around anyone who isn’t part of the OCD community. I don’t want to talk to anyone else. I want only to be around people I can share things with and not face judgment or the “Oh my god, that’s insane” response I know I will get from anyone on the outside. I don’t know if this is just a normal part of early recovery but I really feel like disappearing from the rest of the world and only engaging with this new community I have become part of (albeit against more than 30 years of resistance). Has anyone who is farther along in recovery experiences this and come out of it? Is anyone else also in the early stages and feeling this way? I can’t decide whether or not it’s healthy but I can’t help but think I shouldn’t be isolating from friends and family to spend all of my waking hours focused on this. Maybe it’s just part of the agreement we have with OCD that anything new becomes an obsession… Anyway, I just wanted to share and see if anyone else has experienced this.
Hey guys. I feel like you all are the right people to ask because you’re going through this as well. Do you have any tips for helping with the loneliness that ocd can bring? What helps you? Oftentimes I feel like when I’m struggling I don’t want to bring it up all of the time to my family, because ocd is the same thing to explain every time. I realized that I was becoming really isolated, especially because my themes are SOOCD and ROCD, which make me avoid relationships and friends sometimes, even though doing so is making me lonely. Any tips? Thanks guys ❤️
Recently i’ve been feeling lonely. My bf moved away to finish his last semester of college, and i’ve been struggling to make friends at my college. I can make “in class friends” but it’s hard for me to further those relationships bc idk, i think i overthink asking people to hangout? i’m so afraid of rejection, and in my major everyone knows everyone so it feels like one wrong step and no one will like you. But because of that i don’t think i’m even taking a step. My childhood friends have dwindled down to three lovely people but they all live far away, so i’m desperately wanting to make friends i have common interests with and i can do stuff with, on a whim just bc we’re in the same city. I really don’t know what to do, and i don’t want to spend the other half of my college years cooped up in my apartment by myself. Any advice on how you’ve made friends and how to hangout with them is greatly appreciated 💜
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