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I’m not trying to reassure but since you’re already on the fence about the legitimacy of astrology I’ll ask you this: have you heard of the Barnum effect? It’s basically saying things that are vague enough that it resonates with everyone but worded in a way that sounds specific. Astrology, personality tests, buzzfeed quizzes, etc. do it ALL THE TIME. It then makes the more specific stuff more believable. It’s good to recognize and acknowledge your shortcomings and if jealousy is something you struggle with then you’ve made a great first step by admitting it’s something you’re dealing with. Is there evidence you’re a narcissist or that you lack compassion? Maybe so, maybe not, but if being compassionate and kind is a part of your value system and you’re consistently acting on it (not perfectly of course we all mess up sometimes), then the likelihood that people will interpret you as a mean person is low. I’ve had to say rude things to people for social anxiety/OCD exposures and it’s a really difficult place to be in and I’m sorry you’re experiencing that as one of your biggest OCD fears. Being a bad person is one of my biggest OCD triggers because it can’t reaaally be proven what I am?? What helps me is to think there are just people: not good or bad. All people do good and bad things. The line for what makes a “good” or “bad” person is arbitrary on the culture/time period. People are people and we all make amazing, kind, and compassionate decisions as well as mean, hurtful, and selfish decisions. Sorry this was so long but the whole “bad” person thing hits close to home! Keep on going! I’m supporting you?
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- 4y
Thank you so much. That means a lot. Yes, being kind and compassionate is all I wanna be! I’m very self aware and know all my bad traits (like jealousy) and wish to get rid of them. I know labelling them as bad is already a step in the wrong direction. Emotions aren’t bad. Just intentions and actions I guess. And I know I don’t wanna hurt people and I try my best not to. As for astrology though, what you said is very true! It’s like the confirmation bias in some ways. I guess I was mostly just spooked by the idea that I could have far more bad in me that good. Or the fear that I’m toxic. I’m supporting you too ?
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- 4y
Another way that astrology sometimes seems eerily accurate is (maybe called the positive reinforcement loop or something like that?) that you’ll remember the things that are “correct” or align with your experiences and dismiss and forget the ones that don’t match. That makes the overall similarities seem stronger. I know a trigger can still happen, but maybe this can help you fight the OCD. Good luck!
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- 4y
Astrology bs even science star signs don’t mean nothing I’m Aries and don’t even have the qualities of one
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There’s something that happens that keeps me stuck in a thought, it’s when I can see some part of myself agreeing with or relating to it in some way. That’s when the doubt creeps in. If I can understand *why* the thought is there, doesn’t that mean it’s not just random? Doesn’t that mean it actually reflects something about me? For example **(TMI/TW)**: I had the thought, *“I wonder what other people’s kinks are (including friends, family, even teenagers).”* And then I caught myself thinking, *“Well, I guess that could be interesting information… maybe I wouldn’t even stop someone from sharing it with me. Does that mean I actually want to know? Wait—does that make me perverted or incestuous for even having this curiosity?”* The same thing has happened with other thoughts, like wondering what someone’s privates might look like. I recognize that, on some level, that could be interesting—but does that mean the thought is truly mine? Maybe the answer is super obvious and I just can’t see through my OCD smoke. This was a bit embarrassing for me to write 🥲, but can anyone provide some insight?
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Today I've let myself go down a huge rabbit hole regarding this phrase and it's stressing me out. Sometimes, yes, it is that deep. But other times, it really isn't. I keep finding myself torn between these two ideals. I've been seeing all these videos regarding the rise of anti-intellectualism and the anti-woke mob, all that. These videos make me extremely worried about cancel culture and moral guilt, and they had me rethinking every morally wrong, gross, questionable thing or thought I ever had. I saw many comments saying that yes everything is that deep and it feels like my mind is on constant security and asking myself "what would the internet think about the things I've thought of or may have done?" On one hand, I feel like if I say "it's not that deep", I feel like a hypocrite or a bad person or an idiot. But on the other hand if I say "it is that deep", my OCD begins to spiral and analyze everything about myself. It's not healthy to overanalyze everything but it's also not healthy to ignore bad things. It's very stressful Does anyone relate to this?
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First off - I’m sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldn’t pick one struggle and settle with it. I’m not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someone’s advice please. I love hearing everyone’s advice on posts because it’s so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesn’t feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but it’s also been thorough and constructive enough where it’s reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and I’m so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think it’d drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and it’s been teaching me so many amazing techniques. I’ve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. I’ve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. I’d do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. I’d make his bed for him multiple times, but I haven’t done that for myself in years. I’d sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but he’d never do the same and I’d never do the same for me. I’m also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I don’t want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping they’ll think I’m pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I don’t understand it. Ocd makes me think everything’s a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I won’t be successful, I’ll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCD’s version of “logic” isn’t even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where I’m dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and it’s a very odd and bizarre feeling. I’m excited of course, but I’m also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like “what if I will never make the most of this life I’ve been given”, “what if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other people’s lives is a background character”, “why do I care if I’m a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like me”, “are people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?”, “I need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am now”, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes it’s like I just can’t take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what I’m saying? Can anyone help?
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