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I’m not trying to reassure but since you’re already on the fence about the legitimacy of astrology I’ll ask you this: have you heard of the Barnum effect? It’s basically saying things that are vague enough that it resonates with everyone but worded in a way that sounds specific. Astrology, personality tests, buzzfeed quizzes, etc. do it ALL THE TIME. It then makes the more specific stuff more believable. It’s good to recognize and acknowledge your shortcomings and if jealousy is something you struggle with then you’ve made a great first step by admitting it’s something you’re dealing with. Is there evidence you’re a narcissist or that you lack compassion? Maybe so, maybe not, but if being compassionate and kind is a part of your value system and you’re consistently acting on it (not perfectly of course we all mess up sometimes), then the likelihood that people will interpret you as a mean person is low. I’ve had to say rude things to people for social anxiety/OCD exposures and it’s a really difficult place to be in and I’m sorry you’re experiencing that as one of your biggest OCD fears. Being a bad person is one of my biggest OCD triggers because it can’t reaaally be proven what I am?? What helps me is to think there are just people: not good or bad. All people do good and bad things. The line for what makes a “good” or “bad” person is arbitrary on the culture/time period. People are people and we all make amazing, kind, and compassionate decisions as well as mean, hurtful, and selfish decisions. Sorry this was so long but the whole “bad” person thing hits close to home! Keep on going! I’m supporting you?
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Thank you so much. That means a lot. Yes, being kind and compassionate is all I wanna be! I’m very self aware and know all my bad traits (like jealousy) and wish to get rid of them. I know labelling them as bad is already a step in the wrong direction. Emotions aren’t bad. Just intentions and actions I guess. And I know I don’t wanna hurt people and I try my best not to. As for astrology though, what you said is very true! It’s like the confirmation bias in some ways. I guess I was mostly just spooked by the idea that I could have far more bad in me that good. Or the fear that I’m toxic. I’m supporting you too ?
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Another way that astrology sometimes seems eerily accurate is (maybe called the positive reinforcement loop or something like that?) that you’ll remember the things that are “correct” or align with your experiences and dismiss and forget the ones that don’t match. That makes the overall similarities seem stronger. I know a trigger can still happen, but maybe this can help you fight the OCD. Good luck!
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Astrology bs even science star signs don’t mean nothing I’m Aries and don’t even have the qualities of one
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