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I’m not trying to reassure but since you’re already on the fence about the legitimacy of astrology I’ll ask you this: have you heard of the Barnum effect? It’s basically saying things that are vague enough that it resonates with everyone but worded in a way that sounds specific. Astrology, personality tests, buzzfeed quizzes, etc. do it ALL THE TIME. It then makes the more specific stuff more believable. It’s good to recognize and acknowledge your shortcomings and if jealousy is something you struggle with then you’ve made a great first step by admitting it’s something you’re dealing with. Is there evidence you’re a narcissist or that you lack compassion? Maybe so, maybe not, but if being compassionate and kind is a part of your value system and you’re consistently acting on it (not perfectly of course we all mess up sometimes), then the likelihood that people will interpret you as a mean person is low. I’ve had to say rude things to people for social anxiety/OCD exposures and it’s a really difficult place to be in and I’m sorry you’re experiencing that as one of your biggest OCD fears. Being a bad person is one of my biggest OCD triggers because it can’t reaaally be proven what I am?? What helps me is to think there are just people: not good or bad. All people do good and bad things. The line for what makes a “good” or “bad” person is arbitrary on the culture/time period. People are people and we all make amazing, kind, and compassionate decisions as well as mean, hurtful, and selfish decisions. Sorry this was so long but the whole “bad” person thing hits close to home! Keep on going! I’m supporting you?
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- 5y
Thank you so much. That means a lot. Yes, being kind and compassionate is all I wanna be! I’m very self aware and know all my bad traits (like jealousy) and wish to get rid of them. I know labelling them as bad is already a step in the wrong direction. Emotions aren’t bad. Just intentions and actions I guess. And I know I don’t wanna hurt people and I try my best not to. As for astrology though, what you said is very true! It’s like the confirmation bias in some ways. I guess I was mostly just spooked by the idea that I could have far more bad in me that good. Or the fear that I’m toxic. I’m supporting you too ?
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Another way that astrology sometimes seems eerily accurate is (maybe called the positive reinforcement loop or something like that?) that you’ll remember the things that are “correct” or align with your experiences and dismiss and forget the ones that don’t match. That makes the overall similarities seem stronger. I know a trigger can still happen, but maybe this can help you fight the OCD. Good luck!
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- 5y
Astrology bs even science star signs don’t mean nothing I’m Aries and don’t even have the qualities of one
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- 23w
recently ive been worrying that im ''secretly'' a narcissist and that im accidentally hurting all of my friends. it really doesnt help that i do relate a bit to some narcisstic traits like having an unstable ego/''needing'' validation, although i suspect it comes from a different source for me (like OCD, maybe?). it also hurts because ive been trying to understand more stigmatized disorders like NPD more and learning more about them so that i don't add to the demonization, but i feel like doing so has also instilled the fear into me that im accidentally harming people i care about or that im not actually a ''good person'' like how i like to think of myself
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- 22w
I didn't wanted to say it's useless or it's never helpful, but I feel like it's really black and white and people use it to categories others in "personality groups" and it's wrong how they do it. Yesterday I gave a chance to a video cause I was like "let's learn about myself" and I watched it with curiousity, And at the end of the video i was triggered... Im sure someone without ocd just ignores it and all this is just my ocd but im curious what other people thinks. First thing that triggered me is that making jokes is a coping mechanism, which is somewhat true, it can be for some, but in that video it was told like if you like to make jokes and you like to make people laugh, you only do because you need attention and your mother never gave you attention when you were a kid so now you want attention so you make jokes...As an ocder this got me triggered cause I like to make jokes,but if it would be to get attention it would be forced... and i dont feel like mine is forced,I do it cause I can laugh at my own jokes and making others laugh is a really good feeling. Sometimes Im a troll on the internet, and i like when people read my comments on youtube but thats a normal thing, everyone likes when they get any attention, its normal human behaviour, but psychology often tells you that you have a deep psychological problem and thats why you do these things. And it really feels like an attack, expecially if you have ocd. I remember when I was in therapy, alot of things i do was attacked with this "you do this cause you want attention cause you didnt get it from your parents" and it made me spin and stop doing those things. Its really toxic if you think about it. The other thing was about ocd... I dont know if it's psychology or just the beliefs of that person who made the video, but it's 2025 and people still dont know what is ocd... I read before about "obsessive personality disorder" , the whole personality disorder thing is just made up to label people into groups in my opinion,when people can be in more than 1 group... but what triggered me was that he said "the differece between ocd and obsessive personality dissorder is that people with opd are perfectionists, obsession got their whole life and it controls everything." Now this makes me question what that person thinks about ocd... So ocd does not gets into your life? It does not takes your life away? Here was another he said. "People with ocd do the compulsion because of fear, while people with opd do that because of anger/frustration". And I would ask, what type of feeling is anger? Anger is a second feeling and many times behind it theres another feeling and often it is fear... And people with ocd can become angry and frustrated with their compulsions, some of it does not act on compulsions because of fear but because of frustration. Everyone with ocd is a perfectionist, i know this might trigger you, but its true, everyone with ocd is hard with themself, and can drive others crazy with their rules. These people still thinks that ocd is cleaning and wanting things to be organized... Its sad that the only people who knows what ocd is are the ones who has it or got through it... this is why I dont go to therapy, instead i watch videos on youtube from people who had/has ocd and I have to say it was really helpful and I noticed alot of progression in my mental health...
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- 20w
i’ve been having this theme pop up recently where if I see people either criticize or be a hater and spread misinformation or seeing old controversies about my current interests/hyper-fixations i find myself having a crazy anxiety attack about if it’s “morally okay” to be interested in my interests anymore. i feel really singled out and like im doing something wrong because im watching a youtuber or listening to a specific musical group. in all of these specific situations the people involved have talked about the situations and have changed accordingly but seeing it makes me feel like i shouldn’t be allowed to like my favorite things. to be clear none of these things are dramatically evil or bad. it’s either misinformation/uneducated people influencing someone opinion and then they learn and change. it just makes me feel like im not allowed to like my favorite things anymore because of people criticizing it??? if that makes sense??? also this is a little off topic but also not really because i’m 99.99% sure im autistic because of MANY things but with this specifically i have very strong interests and i feel very deep feelings about them and any and all criticism or hateful comments towards my favorite things trigger me deeply and make my ocd act up and make me feel uncomfortable and uncertain and anxious and it causes physical discomfort to me. i really don’t know how to calm myself down about this specific theme it’s brand new and makes me feel really anxious. not trying to look for reassurance but does anyone else understand what i mean??? does anyone have any advice on how to not give into the negative comments??? any suggestions on how to ease this specific anxiety???
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