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I’m not trying to reassure but since you’re already on the fence about the legitimacy of astrology I’ll ask you this: have you heard of the Barnum effect? It’s basically saying things that are vague enough that it resonates with everyone but worded in a way that sounds specific. Astrology, personality tests, buzzfeed quizzes, etc. do it ALL THE TIME. It then makes the more specific stuff more believable. It’s good to recognize and acknowledge your shortcomings and if jealousy is something you struggle with then you’ve made a great first step by admitting it’s something you’re dealing with. Is there evidence you’re a narcissist or that you lack compassion? Maybe so, maybe not, but if being compassionate and kind is a part of your value system and you’re consistently acting on it (not perfectly of course we all mess up sometimes), then the likelihood that people will interpret you as a mean person is low. I’ve had to say rude things to people for social anxiety/OCD exposures and it’s a really difficult place to be in and I’m sorry you’re experiencing that as one of your biggest OCD fears. Being a bad person is one of my biggest OCD triggers because it can’t reaaally be proven what I am?? What helps me is to think there are just people: not good or bad. All people do good and bad things. The line for what makes a “good” or “bad” person is arbitrary on the culture/time period. People are people and we all make amazing, kind, and compassionate decisions as well as mean, hurtful, and selfish decisions. Sorry this was so long but the whole “bad” person thing hits close to home! Keep on going! I’m supporting you?
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- 4y
Thank you so much. That means a lot. Yes, being kind and compassionate is all I wanna be! I’m very self aware and know all my bad traits (like jealousy) and wish to get rid of them. I know labelling them as bad is already a step in the wrong direction. Emotions aren’t bad. Just intentions and actions I guess. And I know I don’t wanna hurt people and I try my best not to. As for astrology though, what you said is very true! It’s like the confirmation bias in some ways. I guess I was mostly just spooked by the idea that I could have far more bad in me that good. Or the fear that I’m toxic. I’m supporting you too ?
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- 4y
Another way that astrology sometimes seems eerily accurate is (maybe called the positive reinforcement loop or something like that?) that you’ll remember the things that are “correct” or align with your experiences and dismiss and forget the ones that don’t match. That makes the overall similarities seem stronger. I know a trigger can still happen, but maybe this can help you fight the OCD. Good luck!
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- 4y
Astrology bs even science star signs don’t mean nothing I’m Aries and don’t even have the qualities of one
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There’s something that happens that keeps me stuck in a thought, it’s when I can see some part of myself agreeing with or relating to it in some way. That’s when the doubt creeps in. If I can understand *why* the thought is there, doesn’t that mean it’s not just random? Doesn’t that mean it actually reflects something about me? For example **(TMI/TW)**: I had the thought, *“I wonder what other people’s kinks are (including friends, family, even teenagers).”* And then I caught myself thinking, *“Well, I guess that could be interesting information… maybe I wouldn’t even stop someone from sharing it with me. Does that mean I actually want to know? Wait—does that make me perverted or incestuous for even having this curiosity?”* The same thing has happened with other thoughts, like wondering what someone’s privates might look like. I recognize that, on some level, that could be interesting—but does that mean the thought is truly mine? Maybe the answer is super obvious and I just can’t see through my OCD smoke. This was a bit embarrassing for me to write 🥲, but can anyone provide some insight?
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- 20w
Today I've let myself go down a huge rabbit hole regarding this phrase and it's stressing me out. Sometimes, yes, it is that deep. But other times, it really isn't. I keep finding myself torn between these two ideals. I've been seeing all these videos regarding the rise of anti-intellectualism and the anti-woke mob, all that. These videos make me extremely worried about cancel culture and moral guilt, and they had me rethinking every morally wrong, gross, questionable thing or thought I ever had. I saw many comments saying that yes everything is that deep and it feels like my mind is on constant security and asking myself "what would the internet think about the things I've thought of or may have done?" On one hand, I feel like if I say "it's not that deep", I feel like a hypocrite or a bad person or an idiot. But on the other hand if I say "it is that deep", my OCD begins to spiral and analyze everything about myself. It's not healthy to overanalyze everything but it's also not healthy to ignore bad things. It's very stressful Does anyone relate to this?
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Every 30 minutes I spiral about something different. It’s exhausting. Right now I’m freaking out because I was finally feeling a little calmer, got on TikTok, and saw a post saying that comforting a guy or giving advice to a guy is considered cheating. Or “microcheating.” And so many people in the comments were agreeing. My OCD already gives me so much crap about having guy friends and comforting them during hard moments. Another post said that even giving advice when a guy texts you his problems is wrong, and like, I give advice so often. That one really struck me, because how on earth is that unacceptable? There was also a part about how hanging out with a guy is cheating too. I don’t really agree with that one either, but I guess I can understand that perspective a little more, especially if your partner feels uncomfortable with it. Still, it just added more fuel to the fire. I already doubt myself constantly, and then I read a comment that said, “*If you do any of that, all I’m hearing is ‘I’m a microcheater and proud.’*” I just started crying. I haven’t been able to sit with the uncertainty of whether I’ve been unfaithful or disrespectful to my boyfriend for months. Especially since my guy friend has given me comfort and advice too. Everything I do feels like cheating. ***Everything***. And seeing that just made it all feel so much worse.
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