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Why do I feel I raped someone intoxicated, I’ve felt fear and guilt for months it seems real, Could you suggest what I do next please

I don’t know what to do! My 13 year old son has suffered with intrusive thoughts for years. He feels guilty of things he’s done in the past when he was super young and obsesses over it to the point that he has to come clean about everything!! He fears that he may be a phedophyle at times because of intrusive thoughts. He’s on Zoloft 75 for it, it was getting better for a bit but it’s getting aggressive again! He is so kind and such a good son and person. He is in counseling but his counselor doesn’t specialize in OCD. I don’t know if I should have them change his medication, idk if there’s a medication that will help him more. I’m so scared I suffered with intrusive thoughts as a kid and teen, I never got help but I’m good now.

I have been struggling with pure ocd symptoms for years, constantly fighting with myself and ruining relationships because of things that aren’t real. I’m not physically strong and I’m introverted and quiet, yet I constantly have intrusive thoughts about hurting my friends and family. I’ve had sexual images pop into my head or my dreams about every person, relative, animal that I’ve ever known. At 14 I had my first sleepover, where I locked myself in the bathroom all night because I thought I’d hurt my friend in her sleep. It didn’t help that I didn’t understand I was gay and that liking her was normal. I thought I was sick and twisted. At 21 I did the same thing, I was dating a girl and at her birthday party we shared a room for the first time. Even though we slept on different sofas, I still didn’t trust myself so I stayed awake all night. At 22 I went to a tattoo place and a massive storm happened, where all the roads closed due to crashes everywhere, so I couldn’t get a taxi home. My tattoo artist let me stay on his sofa. For the next few weeks I had intrusive thoughts that we’d had sex, or that he had watched me sleep and done things to himself at the same time. At 22 I slept with someone I thought was out of my league. I convinced myself for weeks that I never got consent even though I did. At 23 I was home for Christmas and had to share a bed with my little sister. I begged my parents to let me have the sofa to myself. I’d been having multiple pocd intrusions for a couple of months. At 24 I’m in my first relationship and I still continue to have these nightmares about everyone I know. It makes me feel like I’ve been unfaithful. My partner doesn’t trust me either. She wakes up and tells me she’s had dreams of me cheating on her, whilst i did indeed, have dreams about cheating on her. After drinking heavily one night I blacked out, and convinced myself I’d cheated through false memories. Cheating is the worst thing in the world to me so why would I do it.

so i've been okay so far with having sexual ocd but i just feel i've done something or im horrible bc im hypersexual due to my trauma of being sa'ed as a child and isolated my almost whole childhood so i didn't have anyone really but my sister to have friends and such but ive been yk living and not caring if i feel sexual abt someone or if i do something mb i think is out of urge to get out or say, but recently i keep thinking mb i did something bad where its obv or mb my sister or dad didn't notice what i did or thought it was that bad and i did something sexually bc of how i feel and such like i almost need it out of comfort and idk if im good bc i just feel so out of control now and ive been doing good so idk what's wrong with me and just trying to grasp onto memories bc there's memories where ik i was expressing me being sexual to get it out or i ignored it to just live still bc of my mom's advice ig like im losing track of thought and im starting to forget what i do and just feel so sexual or if i did something or if i even care, which im 16 and i just don't know on whay to do bc i feel ive been oversexualizing myself around older guys too to get groomed so i have more trauma and a excuse to do bad things? like thays whay my mind thinks but it's now happening with my dad and how i almost get it out bc i have no one and i just feel im terrible bc im like oh no abt it, i just wanna be a good person bc i have a mood where i feel nothing like idc abt my ocd or my thoughts which don't feel bad but yesterday i was thinking abt it and felt bad if so bc i was trying to remember and grasp mostly my mom's been here for me and it's like i try to tell her everything thay has happened or if i expressed myself in a situation to get reassure im not doing anything bad which i haven't and just living even if i felt sexual or blah blah but i just haven't and i keep thinking im horrible or did something bc i find it weird if it's normal of how im feeling or what not on whay to do i just dont know on whay to do bc im so confused of everything and my feelings like trying to normalize it and just how i feel is confusing, like for example i was at a shop and a older lady was giving me my cash back and put it in my hand aka touching me and i just thought of sexual and comfort like i wanted her to keep doing that but i find it normal to feel sexual but it's like has happened before and i'm not a bad person bc it happened accidentally or not meant but i want it to keep happening even if accidentally but wanting it purposely if inappropriate?? -sorry if it doesn't make sense, i have trouble expressing how i feel or am bc its just difficult for me but I just don't know and I asked my family if ive done anything and they said no but I keep thinking of memories of hanging on or trying to grasp to tell thay I did something sexually bad or mb slightly brush against, etc and it's like I did it purposely or yk feel sexual abt and want