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I have obsessive thoughts 24 /7 . The anxiety is high all the time and I get knew thoughts and false memories to obsess about and I’m tired because it don’t stop . I feel like it’s never gonna end .

Guys, it's been 6 months into my journey with recovery from OCD. As a self-identified Christian, straight male, with strong desires to want the world to have absolute meaning, to get married to a woman, to have a family, I've had very very distressing thoughts throughout the last few years of my life, especially learning about how uncertain our world, and truly life is. However, I am doing a lot better. I don't need to feel the need to compulsively prove to myself that I am or I am not those things. I understand as human we can change and sometimes we won't change. However, the underlying suffering of the anxiety, and the reinforcing behavior has lessened so so much. Even if my life doesn't turn out how I want it to, I don't have to suffer with extreme anxiety and compulsive behavior over a simple thought. Keep doing your ERP, even when you don't feel like it. You'll have bad days, you'll have good days. In my experience, it's always a cycle. And you can move forward, stay present and keep going, fellow OCD warriors!

I don’t know who to talk to, how I can tell my GP about my OCD problems, or where to even look for affordable therapy. I have doubts that therapy will even help me considering the already messed up state im in, it feels so irreversible. I feel so effed up. All i want is some professional help, I never had therapy before in my life so i don’t know what it’s like and how the process goes. Plus im scared I’ll end up wasting my money on someone who can’t help. There’s too much of a whirlwind going on in my mind right now.

So I'm suffering with SO-OCD I'm a female (22) who's struggling about if I'm gay or Bi and I have a bf of 6 years so the struggle is intense cause it's always idk idk idk, am I? what if ? and so on. And I keep thinking of all these things and evidence stuff and all that overthinking. I thought I was straight??? Now I'm just confused because I keep thinking and thinking. The classic. But I wanted to ask, is it a ocd thing if you feel like you wanna say certain things outloud? Like for example, I've been tryna re-watch my anime again cause I had a crush on literally all the guys on this one show and I was like well maybe if I put this on I'll be comfortable or whatever. But now, I'm only focusing on the girls only, and now my brain keeps feeling like I have crushes on them or it makes me wanna say " I like -insert female name-". I can't quite explain it but when I would usually fan girl over my anime guys or real life male celebs I'd literally be like I LOVE CHRIS EVANS, I'M A SIMP FOR USUI ( male characters) or whatever. And now it feels like I wanna do that to the females. But it's so odd cause idk?????????? I'm just confused, cause now it feels like I'm not even attracted to my male crushes I use to have or just guys in general. BUT I will say when I do see a guy I was once attracted too like for example Jensen Ackles, I feel like my brain just pushes it away bevause it's like " you're distracted thinking about girls only so you can't find him attractive anymore" I can't explain it well but yeah. And literally like maybe 2 months ago I literally was being a simp for one of my anime men and I'd literally talk about it for weeks or days and save every edit known to man haha. But now I'm like idk And at work too, my boss hired like another employee for the meantime, and I have worked with her sorda but she was doing stuff on the other side of the wall. But I feel like I keep looking or checking or observing I guess? But now since I'm gonna like officially work with her for a lil bit tomorrow at the cashier and such. I'm afraid I'm going to develop a crush on her cause I'm gonna be near her for once. It's silly I know but idk I just feel I guess nervous? Cause I don't wanna develop feelings or anything? But i just feel like what if I'm in denial? And fyi all my coworkers are girls but this was before I had my so-ocd theme. So I guess my question is, why is it do I feel like I wanna say such things out loud to female characters or real life people like celebs. Like " I wanna date so and so" like out of nowhere when I think of a specific female when I'm alone or I guess I wanna confess that to my bf too And is it also a ocd thing where I feel like I'm gonna develop feelings or a crush because she's a girl and new and I'm thinking of like maybe I will get feelings because my brain is so fixated on women rn? I'm just stress cause I have a bf of 6 Years and I've talked to him about this and he really just wants me to relax one day without thinking so much. But I just feel so irritated because I see so many different post about this theme and I just feel like stuck or the only one I guess? I do find females attractive and very pretty but I also am a artist as well and I usually just find people pretty or attractive in different ways. Like if I see a women who just looks stunning. I'm literally in awe at how beautiful she can be. I actually have a coworker and I actually told her this like almost 2 years ago that I thought she was so pretty and stuff and like she can be a model. In a compliment type of way, she's just stunning to me you know? But I don't think I saw her as a love interest of anything. I just really thought she was pretty. But when I would see a cute guy, I'd get nervous I guess? Or just like oh he's cute you know? Sorry I'm just thinking so much, I'm just tired of this theme, it's so annoying. I just wanna go back to being who I thought I was and I do miss fangiriling over my characters I had crushes on but now I just be having doubts about everything of what my SO is. Sorry for this long message. Thanks for anyone who replies or understands the situation. It's definitely tough :/

I’ve had health anxiety for years now and I have moments where I’m not worried about my health but as of the last 2 months my health anxiety has been terrible because of the physical sensations my body gets from anxiety if I feel a pain I can’t help but think it’s a serious illness, or if I see someone who got cancer or any other illness I can’t help but think the same might happen to me. I’m so tired of being worried about my health it makes me afraid to live my life I can’t even relax or have fun anymore because of it I just want my life back

i constantly overthink my relationahip with my boyfriend. i constantly am like “am i not in love with him?” simply bc i dont find his voice as attractive as some other men, or bc i dont get butterflies whenever he texts me or calls me nicknames. i constantly iverthink everything i do and i am obssesed with every number i see ending in a 5 or a 0 and if it doesnt i get secerely uncomfortable. i make everything even and i have to have a specific order for all my jewelery and stuff. im tired of struggling everyday.

Honestly this is triggered by the fact I remember I had this little fascination with someone who was I think in one grade below me in highschool. (Mind you if I was born one month later I would’ve been in the same class as them) and now that I did have a seemingly little fancy for them now all of a sudden I am a predator who was searching for freshman…. 💀 They weren’t a freshman (my logical side says) but my brain has taken the what if and made it sick and gross… I think I do remember even saying that it’ll be sad that they’ll have to wait another school semester till we’d ever see each other again in college…. So why is my brain insisting they are a freshmen??? I specifically remember being a junior before, having a freshmen come onto me and the moment I found out i immediately cut them off (I have my own worries about that real event too…) So why does my brain tell me I was seeking that out???

I am still spiralling more than a week later about a situation with my cousin’s son. He is nearly two and I had my foot off the couch when he walked by. Im scared his private part touched my foot but he was clothed. No I feel like I traumatized him and ruined his life and mine. I feel like I can’t live not knowing whether I hurt him or not. How do you deal with the terrible guilty and anxiety? It definitely comes in waves for me but today I have felt horrible.

Does anyone have any suggestions for coping skills for health concern ocd or contamination ocd? I’m trying really hard to not let my compulsions get the best of me but it’s so hard to not let the anxiety absolutely and completely spiral.

I wanna talk about psychosomatic symptoms. How powerful are they for you? Because sometimes symptoms start for me before I even know it’s linked to a disease—but then I Google it and it intensifies. I kind of wanna hear about the power of y’all’s psychosomatic symptoms bc I think it may make me feel better.

Plus a person was assuming and triggering me by saying that the situation happened, or that I had malicious intent and felt guilty after... im so triggered rn...

Does anyone with HOCD ever get aroused by thoughts (aka testing the thoughts) when performing a sexual act and how did you work around that. It’s been running my life for a while!

Can testing for groinal responses cause them to happen? For example i will think of an intrusive thought in the past or create a fake scenario in my head and i will start to feel something down there every time. It’s it a learned response for the trama of this thoughts? Or i’m an actually a P. Dose anyone else experience this with POCD or should i look into get more help?

I don’t know why, but my ROCD is really loud right now. I’m obsessed with the idea of our relationship being “right”. Do I need to work on myself more before I can be in a good relationship? (My relationship is great by the way) Am I really going to commit to this person for the rest of my life? Is he holding me back? These are just a few of the questions I’m obsessed with right now. It’s so tiring and I just want to be able to enjoy my relationship for what it is. I’m feeling so sad and down. I’m trying not to search for reassurance but it’s also scary because I think “is this my OCD or is this real and true”. Any advice on how to help this. NOCD doesn’t take my insurance so I can’t go to therapy currently.

Im so depressed... and I feel alone... theres no hope... My pocd keeps saying that my worst fear of unknowingly cybering with a minor has actually happened and it's really triggering the hell out of me... I feel so horrible...My pocd keeps saying I "unknowingly erotically role played with a minor" when idek if this actually happened or not... this was nearly three years ago... (september of 2021) for context we were erotically role playing on an 18+ discord server, (she wasnt verified, but I assumed she was 18+ because we were on an 18+ place) and then she suddenly stopped responding, before leaving the server shortly after an unknown time... im so freaking anxious and scared... her grammar was fine at first, but then as we were going on, she kept making errors like "boxer" or "then" instead of "than"... my pocd keeps saying that I "UNKNOWINGLY EROTICALLY ROLEPLAYED WITH A MINOR" when idek if this happened or not... some people told me she sounds like/is a young adult... chatGPT tells me she sounded like a teenager... I genuinely dont know what to believe anymore... (these two photos are from her account, and the beginning of our ERP... I hope she wasnt a teenager... I really hope she wasnt...)

a few months back (i can’t remember exactly) i had just started the pill and i think the day after i started me and my bf at the time did it no protection. now i’m worried i might be pregnant because i keep feeling weird kicks in my guts. i already had taken like three different tests and they were all negative but i’m worried i did them wrong. please help. i looked it up on google and it said it was phantom kicks but even then i’m just not sure.

There's something weird about my groinals, it doesnt feel like a physicall response, I mean, I do have sensations, but that's not that part that worries me, it use to be, but what worries me most now is that feeling like I'm really enjoying what's going on, like I really don't care what my dick does (I do get a tingle, it's still not thw worst part) but my face gets all red and it feels like real desire

I know I've posted a lot and it's not for reassurance, just venting a lot I guess, I'm just so scared that i'll keep giving into these thoughts now, they calmed down a few hours ago but a new thought came, surprise surprise, the few days before now I've been dealing okay, and today I've been okay too, it's just when I got home from being out my brain started questioning if I had done the mental rituals right and it causes me so much anxiety, it makes me feel like I've been caught doing something I shouldn't, my ears go hot and I start feeling dizzy like scared and shock from the amount of anxiety my OCD gives me, ESPECIALLY when I'm done done with my thoughts like i don't want to look back at all, it's like "give me more attention 😈" like it's my master or something, it feels that way anyways, my head hurts a lot right now as well, since I got up fairly early this morning and I just want to go to bed, I'm so annoyed I don't even know how or why new thoughts came back, probably because I thought about them once and then started something going again, I'm so annoyed to say the least, I mean who wouldn't be. It's like these numbers and thoughts mean something when they really don't, I want to feel that feeling of carelessness again like I have other nights, but for now I need sleep, I just fear waking up with the thoughts as my conscious brain needs to actually calm down from the thoughts first so that I don't start worrying in the morning about blah blah blah adding or if I did stuff wrong, I need tips, it's pure ocd it's all in my head I don't do anything physical, just my brain being absolutely crazy, I told myself I was literally done like 8 hours ago, and I could've ignored my thoughts if I really tried but I gave in when I thought that I'd do really good today aswell, it's a little past midnight for me, but yeah the day that I have had. I could rant forever but yeah someone just help if you can lol, I don't know what to do anymore, one moment I'm like "this is so dumb why are you even doing this" then the next is "I need to finish this or I'll feel anxious forever" 🥱 it is tiring! it's like when a thought comes back like and ocd thought it's like I think of something I've already remembered or "done" then I add more to the thought, it's so confusing to explain honestly, I hope that it will calm down and that I can start fresh tomorrow without worrying, I've been good for the past few nights and now it comes again at the wrong time, when I'm especially tired and want to go to sleep, but with anxiety of being sure or unsure I can't do that so I'm just venting here because I feel it may help me and maybe others that they'll relate, maybe I shouldn't be too prideful when I realise my OCD is stupid and that I can actually control it, because in your head especially, it is far from easy to control. Anyways I will be going to bed soon hopefully, usually around this time my brain does give up but I'm just worried that might take longer because I've been doing compulsions more recent than other times, so I may have a slower OCD cooldown before I sleep, regardless I think me being this tired will just let me sleep, hopefully, goodnight everyone regardless, I will still probably be active but this will be my last post for tonight, also if anybody has read all of this thank you and I appreciate you for taking your time to read it all, stay strong guys, and goodnight 🤍

Agh! OCD is driving me crazy, like I can’t believe how great it is at making people feel horrible about themselves. So I am getting married to the love of my life in November and my ocd is trying to convince me I did something bad these past 5 years that will ruin my relationship. I know I haven’t done anything but it feels like I somehow forgot! Also, it’s bothering me about my past mistakes before him, my ocd is trying to convince me my fiancé is going to leave me because of all my past mistakes before him. Jeez! This feels soooo real it’s killing me!!!!

TRIGGER WARNING TALKS OF CANCER AND INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS ARE TALKED ABOUT. Hey everyone just kinda wanted something to vent to. Unfortunately my mom got diagnosed with cancer again and my intrusive thoughts centered around her when my harm ocd was bad. I feel so guilty and ashamed for these thoughts I almost feel like it’s triggering to be around her since the recent relapse in the ocd cycle. I just want to hug her and be there for her and tell her everything is gonna be ok. I start therapy again tomorrow which is good but I just feel really bad. Thanks to anyone that reads.