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Can anyone please confort me? I'm having a really bad panic attack, I can't stop crying and I feel like im losing my mind from the fear. I feel like maybe I should just go to the hospital because it feels so real

my therapist has me doing a OCD diagnosis test to see if i have it.. and i’m scared to check off some of this stuff.. i don’t want a van to be waiting outside for me from being vulnerable.. she isn’t an NOCD therapist or she isn’t all things OCD.. she’s a regular therapist with some experience.. i don’t wanna be in grippy socks omg

I just got back from vacation and I had fun but when I’m at home sometimes I feel depressed about the monotony of my day-to-day life and it kinda triggers worries about my relationship too. My boyfriend and I went to spending every night together at my apartment really soon after we started dating. This is my first relationship and his first serious one. I’m 21, he’s 23. Right around the same time that we started dating, about a year and 7 months ago, we both lost our friend groups by coincidence. His just kinda grew apart from him I think and I had a falling out with2 of my best friends where they started prioritizing partying over my friendship more and more and not inviting me to things as I have always felt like kind of the outcast and they were basically like my connection to the larger social group because I’m shy. So I confronted them, felt gaslit and invalidated by them, told them I needed space and haven’t talked to them really since then and they haven’t reached out to me. Anyways that was really hard for me to go through and I still get sad when I think about it. So now as I’m getting older and haven’t lived with my parents for a couple years, I feel weird about how things are going. My boyfriend has been unofficially living with me for a really long time now although it just kind of happened so there wasn’t a moment where we decided we were living together. I feel like kind of a loser because of where I’m at with my schooling and work and my days off of work I usually spend all day gaming and using my phone until he comes home. And then I feel weird and lonely still on days like today and it worries me because sometimes I wish we had gotten the chance to have our own apartments where we didn’t see each other daily to see how that would go but I miss him whenever there is a day that I don’t see him (which is very rare.) I have talked to him about this but it’s hard for me to explain and have him understand without it sounding worse than it is and I can’t afford to not officially move in with him… It just worries me I feel like I shouldn’t be feeling weird and lonely about our situation but at the same time I know it’s not a normal way for relationships to go so I’m afraid it’s unhealthy and I know that it’s probably normal to feel lonely after losing most of your friends and I also am afraid it somehow was caused my me getting a boyfriend even though based on what happened I don’t think that’s possible. I’m scared and I know this is more my personal stuff that I have to figure out than anxiety or ocd probably but I’m afraid that it’s a bad sign that I feel this uncomfortable lonely feeling where I don’t like how every day is the same which includes coming to my apartment every day to my bf with this unofficial living situation that happened. I love him very much and I know he loves me very much too, we talk about a future together and I’m not implying that I want to end things with him. It just feels weird and I don’t know what to do or if it means there’s some deeper underlying issue that needs to be addressed…

this may seem really gross. but i was at work today and i was feeling things sexually and i often worry that it's because of other people because i will think about people and then get these feelings but i tell myself to stop in my head because i don't want to think them or feel that way about anyone else because i'm with someone that i love dearly. and i feel horrible about it because sometimes it happens with people younger than me. i feel disgusted with myself.

If you are on medication or have taken it for OCD and anxiety. Please give me your full and honest opinion about it. How did it benefit you ? What were the okie and negatives/ you’re overall experience? I’m seriously thinking about it but I want as much information before, so I make the best decision. And also what medication you take

Hey guys, I know this is taboo to some people so ignore it and move on if you have a different view but, has anyone here tried microdosing with natural medicine for ocd? The kind that grows in the woods and can be found under decaying trees and cow patties. You know the kind…

I am at the point now where reassurance no longer helps. No compulsion helps. I fully believe the horrible thing happened to the point where I’m living as if it happened. I hate myself because it’s something that is so out of character for me. I feel like there’s no other explanation that I feel this way other than it must have really happened. It makes me sick and disgusted. I want to turn back time and not drink to where I can’t remember. I hate myself so much. There’s no way out it feels like and I feel like I’m this different person now all because of one night. It really sucks.

When you're Asian and your parents tell you that mental health doesn't exist and that it's just my lil teenage drama. Yeah, sure, okay. F U

I just drew what TOCD an questioning my gender feels like to me. I wrote almost all of my thoughts and worries and drew different versions of myself through my life. It’s bad also simple style but it helped me feel a LOT better. I used to do this with my OCD all the time, and only got back into the habit.

Can meds really make things feel better? I just started Prozac and have been on it just over a week and feel very tired and eh. Positive comments only please :)

My therapist keeps telling me to do nothing with the anxiety. Just let it pass on its own. It seems like everything is considered a compulsion: Slowing down your breathing Going out in nature Doing yoga Anything you do to “manage” your anxiety is a compulsion. So what does “do nothing” actually mean?

Anyone else get a song/s stuck in their head that they dont like i have 4 and it causes me distress has tbis happened to you guys and is it ocd?

I had a terrible day yesterday, basically had a breakdown after an extremely hard exposure. After my freak out episode I was talking to my fiancé about ways to help me and he basically said he doesn’t think erp is working and is questioning whether it’s even ocd I’m experiencing. A little background on us, I’ve had many ocd themes in my life but currently struggle with postpartum ocd and constantly worry about my sons development. My partner doesn’t see anything I see and has 0 concerns and he basically thinks I’m delusional and have postpartum psychosis. Which I 100% do not agree with, I don’t have hallucinations and though my reality can be somewhat distorted by anxiety I am very much present to my surroundings. Anyway the conversation was upsetting, I feel like he wasn’t validating my experience and does not understand me. The whole thing makes me want to withdrawal from everyone. Not sure where to go from here…

Something that really trips people up is understanding what intrusive thoughts are. What I see suggested a lot is that intrusive thoughts are just unwanted, unpleasant thoughts. This however isn't really enough criteria to separate the thoughts of someone who suffers from OCD and someone who doesn't as everyone gets unwanted thoughts. Intrusive, obsessive thoughts can be defined by how disruptive they are to your daily life. It's not that people without OCD live without taking precautions, but the amount of time someone with OCD spends compulsing over the thought is very disruptive to their everyday routine. For example: a person without OCD will acknowledge the danger the sun possesses and they will probably put on sunblock to protect themselves. They can do it well enough is a short amount of time to go in with their day and don't really think much about it afterwards. However, someone with OCD may spend hours obsessing over making sure every part of them which can be burned is protected. They may even check to make sure they're not burning as the day goes on. Compulsive behaviors (checking, testing, researching, asking for opinions/reassurance) will take up the majority of their time where someone without OCD will have more "free time" to go about their day. There is no relief for the OCD sufferer in knowing they did good enough. They need to make 100% sure they won't burn in this very specific example. I hope this makes sense for those of you who ask this question frequently as I believe it is very important to understand. Many people deny to themselves that they have this disorder because they can't define these thoughts properly and they get stuck on whether or not their thoughts constitute as being intrusive. Remember: just because you feel you are in distress doesn't mean there's actually any danger.

It’s this real even and constantly thinking about past memories, mistakes and things I’ve done that won’t stop repeating and repeating in my head and no amount of reassurance from myself or others is ever gonna stop this constant pain! I can’t stop reliving a horrible event that I went through and that I put on myself, one that is the most horrific thing I’ve ever done and I still to this day can’t believe I did. It went against all my morals and everything I believe in. The only think I keep doing is apologising and trying to forgive myself but I just can’t. I apologise to those involved I took responsibility for my actions yet it’ll never be good enough to forgive myself. Me and my friend were talking about it and she said it’s in the past you’ve learnt and grown, but I can’t help but feel like I need to tell the guy I’m seeing that I did it, it was before I even really knew him and he changed me for the better, so the thing is dk I have to tell him? I’ve told him briefly there are things that have happened in my life that I’d rather not talk about and I’m afraid if you know you’ll hate me, but he’s always said that he’s here for my present and future not my past, that people do stupid things all the time and you’ve gotta grow from them. But I’m afraid if he ever does know, that he’ll hate me forever. But I’m deeply in love with the boy, I can’t see me being anywhere else but with him. And I’ve explained several times that I hate myself for what I did but he’s never once pushed me to tell him, said he’s done things he ain’t proud of as well, that at the end of the day life is life we’ve gotta move forward. But my brain won’t let me and idk what to do. I don’t wanna think this way anymore. One day I’ll tell him, and he knows that. But for now I wanna enjoy my life. But I keep thinking I have to tell everyone every single thing I ever think, or do, even if they weren’t involved and it was ages ago, I feel like I have to otherwise I’m lying when I’m not. It’s painful

still anxious still anxious still anxious still anxious

Anyone else feel like if there weren’t any truth to their thoughts the obsession wouldn’t be this intense? Like I’ve had intrusive thoughts about a lot of things but the ones that stick are the ones where I’m not as sure that I don’t want to do it/there’s a part of me that I feel like would and that makes my ocd go crazy

I’ve been struggling with ROCD and POCD over the last month, they seem to be separate issues but sometimes interact with each other. Me and my girlfriend have only been dating for 3 months but it feels like 3 years. We are extremely comfortable with each other, talk about plans in the distant future, we are alike in so many ways, and after all the relationships i’ve had, she feels like “the one”. I’ve even told her about all my struggles and she is extremely supportive, even bought me a book on ocd, however now i’m doubting the relationship and having other struggles. It first started when I was watching a movie, the main characters girlfriend had a cute best friend, and my girlfriend has a cute best friend, this triggered me to wonder “what if i leave my girlfriend for her best friend since i find her attractive, how tragic would that be?” and I started worrying and ruminating about this for a week until something else caught my attention. A few days later I saw a video of a woman saying “pedophiles shouldn’t be punished because they can’t help that they are attracted to younger kids.” This got me very scared, i have loved little kids my whole life, my mom runs a daycare too, so i’m always helping out with them, they are all so adorable, and i’ve never had an intrusive thought about kids in the past. But then my brain went “you think your gf is cute and adorable, just like you think little kids are adorable, does that mean you are attracted to them?” and then that has been an on and off worry ever since. My main worry is usually about my relationship now, i’m constantly wondering if i have fallen out of love or not for my girlfriend, and constantly finding myself watching videos, or looking at pictures of her to verify my attraction, and i almost feel guilty texting her, and almost want to avoid hanging out. Last night we were laying in my bed watching a movie, and i’m thinking “why don’t I want to be intimate right now? Does that mean i’m not into her anymore?” And i looked at her, and she looked so cute, then we starting kissing, and my brain puts the thought in my head “what if this was a little girl, or what if this was a child” “you think your girlfriend is so cute and are kissing her, would you do that to a child?” and instantly i wanted to stop making out, it just disgusts me that i’m having these thoughts and makes me want to avoid everything. Thank you for reading this essay of a post if you did, if anyone has any tips or has ever experienced anything similar, please let me know 🙏❤️

Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between PTSD and OCD. I am very specific about rules and I was taught my whole life to always abide by rules. I feel like sometimes my sense of what is "right" can overpower my loyalty and it can hurt my relationships. My partner seems to have a very privileged life, where his parents ALWAYS back him up and always support his side of everything. My parents would straight up tell me if I was wrong in any given situation, and I feel like this helped me learn lessons. Examples: Last night, my partner downloaded a soft aim bot in a competitive FPS game. He claimed everyone else uses cheats, so that should excuse his use of cheats. Being a gamer myself, the existence of cheaters doesn't bother me too much because I have some sense of karma, and I know I am gaining more from any experience in which I am honest. His account got banned and he was really upset last night about it. I kind of had an attitude that he got what he deserved. I hope every cheater in every situation is caught because rules are important to me and without them, life would be even more chaotic then it already is. He was upset that I didn't have any sympathy and made me feel like I was doing something wrong for not agreeing with him. I told him if he appeared to have learned a lesson (don't cheat) and if he showed that he was sorry for his actions and felt bad, I probably would feel sorry. The vibes I got from him were that he was more upset that he was caught. My OCD brain constantly wonders where his sense of entitlement comes from. I wonder if he just has that entitlement from being a white male, if his parents just always back him up, if he is a sociopath, if it's normal and I am just traumatized, if it's normal and I'm a sociopath for not empathizing, and a hundred other possibilities. His sense of entitlement mixed with my strong sense of justice and equality ends up with me putting my morals before him in situations like these. Any insight?

My boyfriend was texting with another girl he knew from school. He texted with her a couple of months now and not very often. But last night she got mad because she found out he had an relationship with me. He told me about it and said that he felt bad and that he knew he was wrong. He let me see all the messages. The girl had also taken screenshots. They talked about meeting up, but that was not serious he said. And that they were joking. I was mad and I said not again, my ex really cheated on me and he knew that I was scared it would happen again. We talked a lot and I said very clear and mad: if you ever do that sort of thing again we are done. I give him another chance because he’s really sweet for me and does a lot for me. But I said my trust is gone and we need to work on that. Today he’s really showing me everything on his phone and deleted the girl. Is this right or wrong that I go on? I really love him and he’s even gonna tell his mom.