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I need help I feel so bad I'm thinking about situations with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do and if they were really bad situations or not.

I'm starting to notice that my Intrusive thoughts gets intense in the mornings and I find it really hard to let go. I usually like to meditate before I start my day, but I find it really hard to. In the end, I just won't do it and it throws me off. How do you cope when your Intrusive thoughts is getting loud?

is it sa if he asked a couple times and I didn't want to at first just because I was on my period but then when he asked again, I wanted to after? People keep saying that asking like that is actually sa and that's freaking me out because what do I do if that happened to me??? I feel like my ocd is latching onto a specific scenario that was confusing and now im just reviewing every situation.

I had an issue back as a teen where is constantly be rping smut with friends or daydreaming about it. (I can totally disassociate into my mind, it’s like a go to a different place) I’d get aroused by this stuff but since I was a afab (female at birth) I didn’t see an issue since no one would ever be able to know. Right? I was doing this on walks, on car trips… somewhat around my family. Anyways recalling this all has made me feel as if this was another bit of proof to add onto the huge pile that I’m a degenerate depraved dangerous individual… and I have no where to look to find anyone in the same boat as me. Did I do a bad thing? Was this bad? I wish if it was that there was something that outright said it… like I wasn’t attracted to my family as I did this. Sure they were near me but I never involved them or told them or even made any hint or gesture. Sometimes to me it’s as if they weren’t even there at all when I daydreamed… I really really need advice. Do I let this go? Was this normal behaviour for a teen? Or was I screwed up?

I love the app, but i’m seeking too much reassurance whether that be reading others posts or writing my own post it’s doing nothing for me. I think i need to start trying harder because due to feeling like nothing i do will help im not trying but i feel like i need t start

Anyone ever have an obsession about the idea of people lying about their ages? I am so extremely paranoid when back in the day I’d be pretty easy going with the idea. I believed people to a degree and went with my own judgment. This was from 18-19 and for the most part I think I was pretty spot on. Now I turn 20 and this obsession has kicked in I’m deathly afraid I might’ve talked inappropriately with someone who lied about their age over online. I don’t talk to anyone online anymore, I don’t make friends, I have to ID the people I talk to and I’ve become pretty reclusive and obsessive. Even people who do show ID’s to me won’t satisfy my extreme paranoia. I’ll always have this nagging voice in my head… haunting me. I’ve had to make someone show me two pieces of ID just to calm my whirlwind of a mind. All of this because if I had ever talked inappropriately with a minor even accidentally at 18-19 I know that I’d never live it down. Cause knowing that just feels like a quick trip to nowhere land for me. I’d be a danger to myself, and maybe that’s why I have such a deep deep deep fear over this all. That I won’t be scared of what others may think of me, but what I might think of myself. I scare me more than anyone.

Any tips on trying to figure out how to consume media again? I used to love bonding with people by getting into the stuff they liked. I loved watching tv and playing video games etc. it was a big part of my personal identity, but lately I started worrying that if I ever watched and or played anything that could be offensive it would make me a bad person. This started a huge spiral for me. I think being critical of everything in a society with so much to fix is genuinely important, but I started to worry there could be problems with anything I could ever see and feel like if I watched anything with a bad joke or found something bad in a video games I had to keep it a huge secret. I want to do the right thing so badly, but when I get so anxious I find problems in everything. It’s made me feel really disconnected from the people around me who share the same moral beliefs as me, but are much more relaxed with the media they consume. Am I bad person for even feeling like I should relax to. I can’t seem to find anything anymore that doesn’t make me anxiou and all I can do is imagine someone finding out I watched it and didn’t shut it off immediately and being so hurt or worst knowing I like it and being hurt that I could ever like something that really hurts them. It’s hard because I know these are valid things to be afraid of but it has become obsessions and compulsions for me. I selfishly just want to feel like I can enjoy things again, but I also can’t live with myself doing something that could be really wrong or hurt someone. I don’t know how to handle this anymore. I just want to do the right thing and there is no rule book to be a good person. Has anyone ever gotten through this a been to enjoy media again?

That come and tell me that my fears are not true 💔

Does anybody have tips for mild OCD flare ups. I’m not completely in panic but I’m feeling it getting there. The trigger was I played a video game with a male character I’m attracted to. The problem is he is a merman and I worry about being a zoophile for liking him since he is part fish. He is still sentient and can talk, he was also once a human (it’s a scifi horror game) I’ve taken my propranolol for the physical symptoms but I’m trying to curb the mental symptoms before they get any worse.

My pocd is telling me I did explicit things with minors online even when A. Theres no proof or lack of proof this happened, and B. I remember asking a lot of women for ID's as confirmation before I engaged... but its i can't remember all of my interactions online and its triggering me... Ive been genuinely so triggered... I cant sleep... my head hurts... I prayed to god, hoping that none of my fears are true... Im so scared and anxious...

slight tw i think?? whenever i'm in a bus i can't help but think about the amount of people that sat in my seat. i'm afraid to become infected even though i know it's not rational. but it's so uncomfortable having my skin touch those seats and think "what if someone with a lethal disease sat there and i'm going to die too"

I think this is magical thinking but I’m not 100% sure. I get really scared and think all of my loved ones will die in a car accident. Especially if they’re running an errand for me or coming to visit me then it’s like 100% more likely for them to get in a car wreck because it was FOR ME. Or if I’m with my family members and one wants to drive to get food, etc I feel like I HAVE to go WITH them in order to prevent a car crash from happening and them dying. Like if I stay home then I’m ensuring their death? Does this make sense? Anyone else relate? What on earth is it?! It’s constant and automatic and everyday.

Does anyone else struggle with OCD surrounding medical procedures? For me it's blood draws; every time I get one I feel so worried that something will go wrong or that I will be permanently damaged from it, even if everything goes fine. I got one today and they had to try both arms. They did a different vein than usual and I'm freaked out about it. Now that one hurts, I can't shake the idea that something is very wrong and I'm in danger. I know this logically is not true, but I'm still very distressed by my thoughts. Can anyone else relate? Any advice?

I usually post on Reddit especially on the OCD subreddit and I got a content warning regarding the sexualization of minors in regards to talking about my POCD and my experience with it. It’s heavily triggered me and I can’t seem to move on from it.

Hey! I’m French and I’m thinking I sufffer of Pure O, it’s hard to find a specialist in ocd in France so do you know a person whhich is specialised in OCD and can speak French ? I’m not sur my level in English is enough now to follow a therapy, maybe later? Thank you so much !

Hey guys, not really OCD related but last night I asked the boy I'm seeing if he wanted to be my boyfriend, he said yes and we were really mutually happy about the decision, having not labelled it as anything for a month or so because I was having a little freak out on occasion. I've woken up this morning now and I'm worried about that decision, it feels comfortable yet strange to call him my boyfriend to other people but he came to an event with me the other night and everyone was asking things like"how long have you been seeing eachother" and "is this your boyfriend" and i was like "not yet haha" and now here we are. For context, he is 19 (turning 20 in October) and Ive just turned 17. A couple of my friends think I'm getting groomed but I work with him, the people at my work all found out by various sources and just joke about it and find it quite sweet, knowing that he has the best of intentions. He is so respectful to me and I feel like I really love him. But I don't know who to tell or if I want it to be public because of the hard time it could give me at school having an older boyfriend, and I only came out of my three year relationship in may. It's crazy right? I just thought I'd ask for advice..what would you do in my position?

tw//talks of sa and sexual acts I'm kinda worried because of something that happened with me and my boyfriend forever ago. When me and my boyfriend were being all over each other and things were heated, he asked if he could kiss me Down There and I said yes and then he proceeded to lick me down there a couple of times and then stopped. It made me uncomfortable and I told him to not do that because it was not that I expected and it shocked me a bit. He apologized and said he understands why I felt that way and I know he never meant to make me feel uncomfortable or upset. we talked more about it, and set a boundary about asking before doing anything like that instead of like before where we were both comfortable with kinda just doing stuff when we knew we were in the mood. I trust him but it did make me feel bad for a bit. This isn't SA right? I feel like I started to ruminate on this trying to figure it out desperately even though I used to be confident that it wasn't. this wasn't triggered by anything personal, just a random tik tok video talking about SA. I'm just worried but I have felt better ever since we had that conversation and set boundaries.

I really need to talk to someone right now, I just need clarity on a situation badly.

Hi! I’m really shy with posting on apps like this, but I don’t really know what else to do haha I just need a place to get my thoughts out, I have no one around me with ocd who can relate to my experiences, and oftentimes those around me overlook my experiences or invalidate my thoughts and feelings, so I’ve kind of learned to shut up but there’s only so much that I can keep to myself without going completely insane. It’s really exhausting to exist when all my brain bombards me with is intrusive thoughts and images of me offing myself in various ways (though usually with a gun). Does anyone else go through this? Or something similar? Every time I’ve talked about this with anyone around me they’ve said it was normal for people to have intrusive thoughts, but is imagining killing myself 24/7 really all that normal? Because I find it rather distressing 😭 In recent weeks my “normal” intrusive thoughts have escalated into a desire and will to actually carry out my thoughts, and it’s caused me to become a miserable zombie who’s constantly scared that I’ll finally cross the line and just do it. I’ve always told myself I’d never be able to kill myself because I’m too chicken, but lately it’s been more real than ever. Not only do I dream about killing myself constantly but now I’m obsessed with monitoring my thoughts and making sure I don’t get too close to actually doing it. I’ve become obsessed with trying to prevent myself from myself and it’s the most humiliating sensation. My biggest fear is myself, it’s hard to not feel ridiculous. It’s also frustrating because what else can I really do for myself? I take meds, I meditate, I go to therapy every week, I have great friends, family, and a partner, I have two jobs and a wonderful cat.. Like genuinely what else is there to do to help myself? My therapist always asks me this and I never know how to respond because I already feel like I’m doing damn near everything to keep myself afloat and nothing is working. There’s an extreme amount of guilt that comes with these thoughts too. I’m someone that everyone else leans on for support, if I were to suddenly take myself out of the equation I feel like that’d make me the most selfish person. The way my thoughts have drained me and taken control of my life makes me feel guilty too. I can’t socialize like I used to, I can’t make eye contact and I sleep constantly. I’m always on the verge of tears or a breakdown, leaving me extra sensitive when I don’t want to be. My worsening mental health is taking a toll on everyone around me as well, and it only adds to the thought cycle of ‘if I killed myself it’d be better for everyone else’ because at least I wouldn’t be burdening them with my sour moods and lack of motivation. I’ve never been one to self harm, and have always thought those who did only did it for attention. It’s something I’m ashamed to admit, because I know that’s not the case; it’s just hard for me to get past my experiences with the attention seeking self harmers that I grew up with. I’m turning 21 soon and this is the first time I’ve genuinely craved the feeling of blatant and intentional self harm, not the normal skin-picking and nail-biting that I’ve done for years. It’s frustrating because my new desire to self harm makes me feel like an attention seeker. I can tell myself that I’m not, but it doesn’t change the fact that I feel like one. I’ve always been vocal about mental health and self confidence but my struggle with suicidal ideation and self harm has never been something that I could tell someone about. Posting anonymously is my last ditch effort at getting my thoughts out before I explode, and I hope that this post doesn’t trigger or inconvenience any of you beautiful people. If you’ve read this far I really appreciate you and I thank you for giving me your time. 🫶

I am a 22 year old female and have never gotten into a relationship due to the fact that I have OCD and how ugly it can get at times. I also feel like I would be a burden and be too much to handle especially in modern dating when people want to have fun and dont want to deal with anything that's exhausting not saying it's wrong but that's how it is. I have these two mindsets of 'I'll have someone who will accept me someday' Or 'I'll just be on my own cause that's what's good for me'.I don't think anyone will look at me and think they want to settle down with me or stuff. I feel like i will be too much to handle. Even if someone likes me, they will never actually love me enough to spend their life with me. Maybe if I were more pretty maybe people might put up with me idk really. This just saddens me to the core. I don't know how to deal with this. Is there any hope for me P.S my ocd is manageable most of the time but when it flares up it gets ugly and i go non-functional