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Anyone on medicine for ocd and what is ur experience? I’m debating it

Why does erp feel so fucking weird? Like it makes me feel weird, awkward, kinda uncomfortable, idk how to even explain it.. is that supposed to happen? Is that anxiety? Idk what that feeling is. It feels weird. Like i went from laughing awkwardly to feeling weird, to getting sad, to feeling like i wanted to tear up. What is going on..? Like I’m so confused

I have dealt with this once last year, and I wasn’t diagnosed yet. I ended up confessing to my boyfriend I slept with a friend of ours. The anxiety was so bad and I told him cuz the guilt ate me up. We got through that. Fast forward to now, almost a year and a half later, I feel absolutely intense guilt for not telling him the truth when he asked if there was more stuff I did. I said there wasn’t. But there was. We had a very rocky past and so I didn’t tell him out of fear he’d leave me and also because he did so much stuff and I only knew from snooping or he would’ve never told me. I have been trying my usual ERP but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I been trying to sit with it, but it’s been a month of sitting with it & I maybe had one week where I didn’t feel bad about it. When I’m with him the thoughts aren’t there but when I leave, I just wanna die cuz I feel like the worst. I want to talk to him more about my ocd and this theme so he can get a better understanding. It’s the only time I lied to him and haven’t done so since. It was the past but now I just feel awful & like he doesn’t even know who’s dating like he should just leave me even tho that isn’t what I want. I wish I could just tell him everything and we could get through it together because if it was him telling me stuff I’d hear him out and it wouldn’t change how I feel to him. But I know he isn’t the same. It would affect him. We already broke up because I kept messing up snooping and now I just feel like I have one more strike & im out.

For fellow Catholics I dont know what I should to with ERP because of my OCD I always made promises to God but I dont know which of them are valid and which are not. So my OCD keeps telling me that when I am doing ERP that I commit a sin. How can I go to confession properly? Because if I am really sinning by doing just normal things then my clnfession wouldnt be valid. And with normal things I mean things that objectively are not a sin like eating pizza or hiking...

Any tips to stop ruminating?

Hi all, does or has anyone experienced both symptoms of harm ocd ( where they exhaust themselves thinking they’re going to hurt themselves or someone) and also suffering from severe depersonalisation where you’re in disbelief and unsure of every single thing you do in you day to day life ? Well I suffer bad have suffered from both and was on lexapro for 12 years which was great and kept my symptoms under control and I was able to function like a normal human until I decided to taper off it over the period of 6 weeks because I felt like it made me numb in a lot of aspects of life . I felt ok after stopping for 3 weeks but then I had a severe panic attack while undergoing an MRI for something completely unrelated to mental health and from that day on I hit rock bottom! I realised that I was claustrophobic and My ocd came back twice as hard , my depression and worse of all the depersonalisation and derealisation which I’m still going through as we speak . I want to know and please be completely honest if you have ever doubted whether you’re still alive or not , whether you made it home safe or did you crash into that car ? Whether you is really you? And feel too afraid to even tel the closest people to you because they will they will think that you’ve lost your marbles ?I fee like there is no way to reassure myself that I’m still here because I feel so disconnected which in return spikes the anxiety and the intrusive thoughts … I have restarted lexapro since two weeks now but feel disheartened that it’s not really working for my OCD and the frustrating thing is that it worked for 13 years before ! So my doctor has also referred me to see a psychiatrist and a psychologist which gives me more anxiety anyways because what if they think I’m crazy and since I’m always super anxious about developing schizophrenia Or becoming psychotic what if they confirm that I have those illnesses? Sorry long post but I know I’ll recover someday soon because if I did it before I can do it again!

Maybe it's my OCD, maybe not, but it makes me feel uneasy not knowing with whom I'm talking, male or female, minors, people in their 20, or above... I mean, if I knew, I am replying to a minor, I might phrase what I say differently, or don't reply at all, as I might think it's better their peers reply to them. In the app store it is said, that this app is for people 17+ and the Sexual Themes OCD group session is also only accessible for adults, so I do wonder why so many minors are on here. Some content on here is sexual due to Sexual Themes OCD. Nothing against minors with OCD, of course, but maybe a separate app, or additional features on here, like the option to block reading minors and/or to block certain posts one makes to be accessed by minors would be a good thing. Also the requirement to state one's age would be a good thing, so every is free to choose with whom they interact. I realized, that for me talking to minors is just triggering and I don't want to give advice to a teenager, that's too much responsibility.

Been taking lexapro for 2+ weeks, feeling no changes and man my depression is getting unstable as hell. What other options do i have left? Struggling so bad

I feel like a lot of people that have ocd get caught up oversharing… does anyone have tips or ideas to not overshare? This is my main trigger for my ocd right now so I have GOT TO stop oversharing asap

It's too much for me right now, and I'm really struggling. Like really bad. Right now, um going to just focus on letting thoughts go, like... IDK MINI ERP? I'm going to try not to analyze them. It's too much for me, trying to figure out what's a compulsion, what's ocd, what's not... I've gotten worse, I is thinking. I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or something, and I have a therapist on NOCD and stuff, but it's just not working. Not now, at least

I posted a memory from a year ago on IG and I feel like I’m just an empty shell of who that guy was because I’m no where near as confident as I was and the times recently I have felt “normal” or my SO-OCD wasn’t bothering me are fleeting because no one really knows what I’m going through aside from my therapist everyone here and a select amount of people I felt comfortable telling , I want to be that guy again so badly because i felt it was who I truly am and who I want to be but lately anytime I feel “normal” it’s fake like there’s a voice in my head saying “you’re acting” or “you’re lying” because I’m not as open with what I’m dealing with, most people think I just have contamination ocd which I do but they don’t know the other sub types I deal with and if they did they would see how big of a coward i really am especially girls if a girl I like really knew what I was afraid of she would doubt me as a man and just think I’m in denial or confused and not fully understand that SO-OCD and the thoughts I deal with I absolutely hate and wish that I could make them go away and they are not things I enjoy or am curious about. I feel like I can’t fully enjoy my life or be the happy social guy I was until I tackle the OCD demon like my brain is saying “don’t have too much fun because you’re in treatment right now” or “ how long until this girl figures out what you’re really afraid of” I feel like a fraud in a way because if people saw how scared I’ve been and how much I dread waking up in the morning because I know my brain is going to be active and I have from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep to constantly shake off my ocd they would know how un credible of a human I am and wouldn’t listen to a word I said especially girls and my team mates at my Jiujitsu gym. Even when I’m doing ERP one of my biggest fears is someone finding out what I need to expose myself to just to learn not to be scared and it kills my self confidence and I feel like this fragile being who has to put on a false bravado to appear nothing is wrong with me when inside I’m battling everyday

I need advice I don’t know if this is HOCD or not but a little more than a month ago me and my ex best friend celebrated our birthdays with our co workers/friends because we are a week apart and decided to celebrate at some bar. We all got drunk and my best friend now is bi and wanted to kiss my ex best friend when we all got drunk that night and I felt a ping of disappointment I guess and I didn’t understand why because I’ve questioned many times if I was bi but I don’t want to be but also was upset because everyone likes her more I feel like than me because my crush (my ex guy best friend) wanted her more because she was willing to sleep with him and I’m a virgin and I don’t want to sleep with him I want to wait until marriage so he played me and would flirt with me and then would get close to her and jeopardized our friendship because he wanted to sleep with her but anyways it just seems like as friends or whatever everyone wants her and she’s not a good friend at all. She’s put me down and she knew I liked my crush and didn’t care and I feel like she’s trying to get in between my best friend and I friendship. I know this is all weird but my best friend has a boyfriend and I am close to him like he’s my brother and I told him the next day after when I was hungover that I had that feeling of disappointment and I was questioning whether or not I was bi and mentioned that I was confused and didn’t know if I liked my best friend and when I talked to my mom about it I didn’t mention the kiss between my best friend and my ex best friend because I didn’t want my mom to judge my best friend and so her boyfriend now thinks I like her and that I’m bi and I honestly really don’t want to be. I have nothing against anyone who is but it scares me to death. I just now remembered the whole thing randomly and I feel so much guilt because of it. I don’t know what to do or how to clear this up. She’s my best friend and she treats me better than any friend that I’ve ever had. She cares when I’m down and is always there for me and I guess maybe I got platonic mixed up with the other but I don’t like her like that she’s just my best friend and I’m straight and I don’t want to be bi. I’m sorry for rambling I’m just lost and scared right now

Does anyone else’s harm ocd thoughts sometimes tell you that you want to hurt someone or that you’re going to?

I feel like I’m dying inside and that all these thoughts are true and based in reality and that my relationship can’t and won’t be ok bc it’s interracial. I feel so defeated

After over a year I saw my ex again a few weeks ago and I still feel horrible. Everything came back up, him neglecting me, him ignoring me, him with drawing from me, etc. In 2020, a few months after our separation (we still lived together back then), he told me, that he sometimes wished that I could die from OCD, then he quickly added, that he doesn't want me to die. He also told me, that at the beginning, he didn't know, that I constantly suffered from OCD. He thought, that I only suffer from it, when I'm around triggers. I asked hjm, if he wouldn't have started dating me, if he had known. He said, he would have, but his face and eyes said - Hell no! It is horrible to feel like a failure, like someone's mistake. It makes me feel worthless and for the first time in my life, I'm scared of falling in love again. I'm sad and angry, at him and myself. I keep thinking - How could I ever dare to negatively impact, or ruin someone else's life again? It feels like all I get from people who know about my issues, is either them ignoring it, or them pitying me and I don't want either. I cry a couple of time a day, when looking at the broken segments of my life - No friends, no partner, no pets (due to ZOCD), a family (that resembles more a war zone, than a family), a job I hate, a body that deteriorates and of course, the root of all evil, OCD. I know, I should start ERP therapy with a therapist specialist in OCD, but I feel like a car with an empty tank. I just don't have the energy to add more stress. I read the email of a colleague asking me to take over a task and I started crying, as I just felt so overwhelmed. I know, I keep whining on here, but I just don't have anywhere else to get this off my chest...

Hello everyone. I was practicing OCD (HOCD, harm ocd, sexual ocd etc) then it turns to ROCD unfortunately... I struggeled very very much and i suffered very much too....all day crying, goy anxious, had panock attacks. My rocd theme was rocd and ex, "what if's" I love my husband so much, he is the best men ever, and it was too paingul for me...So, when i didn't know abour ROCD , i started to pray and ASK GOD to give me signs....then i saw a dream And now my problem is.... i think that i DONT have rocd! That i cant have rocd...because GOD Gave me a sign, and i should trust it and make the desigion like in dream! Because God is Powerful and the rocd is nothing much... It;s so hard, when i know that i have rocd its easier to beat it, but when your brain convince you tat you dont have rocd....you like dont know what to do.. .So i think my theme is very special and no one practiced it Because of this anxiety i always like angy and i afraid to break loose to my husband(((((((

Sometimes when i’m with my girlfriend, whether we’re being intimate or just hanging out, i’ll have awful or inappropriate thoughts just coming in and out of my head. sometimes i can get distracted and end up entertaining them in the back of my mind before i snap myself out of it. they don’t cause me too much anxiety in the moment because i’m more focused on being with my girlfriend, but afterwords i think back and feel guilty about the stuff going through my head while i’m with her. My girlfriend is a POC, which makes my most recent and new theme of racial and racism ocd even more inappropriate and upsetting. Looking for tips on how not let this negatively effect my relationship, as my ocd was a major part in the ending/ruining of my last relationship. the main problem i’m having right now is not wanting such thoughts to be floating around my head and to combat the guilt i feel thinking about how mortified and ashamed i’d be if my girlfriend or anyone heard my thoughts.

but I need some help. I broke up with my bf in February, it was like going through hell but I’m ok today. Our relationship was very toxic and he was manipulative sometimes so I’m glad I left in time. I don’t want him/what we had back. But some days I just can stop thinking about him, what he is doing and how he is. I don’t want to write to him either so it’s not like I miss him. Just thinking about him a lot. Is it normal to think about someone so much without missing them / wanting them back? At least I think I don’t want him back😵‍💫 I think it’s a “close” relationship that I miss, because right now I don’t have so many friends which makes me feel lonely

I hate how my ocd attaches itself to someone. Any advice on how to deal with this

I woke up right now feeling calm and not anxious about my real event OCD… I was feeling fine at first, but now I’m scared that this calm feeling means that I’m in denial… I’m still getting intrusive POCD and HOCD thoughts and doing compulsions to rid of them, but I’m scared that not feeling anxious about my real event OCD means I’m in denial of my POCD or something 😭😭😭