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I am two weeks on zoloft and I feel kinda sleepy and tired,is that normal?

Hello! I am new here and I'm not sure what to do or say. I honestly was diagnosed with ocd almost 30 years ago. I do believe I had a lot of anxiety and some ocd before hand. In the years that I was diagnosed I was in an abusive relationship that I finally was able to get out of in 1999. During those years my contamination ocd was off the charts. Upon leaving that relationship ( safely.. at least physically for the most part) my ocd calmed down. But I'm not sure if that is because of my leaving or the fact that I was then on pills. Afterwards I was a sleeping pill addict for almost a decade. I finally left the pills behind and I started running marathons. I feel better than I had in decades I've continued running but after a few traumatic experiences with hearing domestic situations in my apartment complex and being robbed twice I find my ocd symptoms coming up with a vengeance. It's more than just contamination now. I'm constantly worried about accidentally hurting someone. I'm always worried that there is an animal in need that I didn't see and/or couldn't help. I feel I can't do enough good in the world. I'm paralyzed. I find myself putting off normal chores and organizational tons that drive me crazy because my ocd wants them so so badly I don't know how else to describe what I'm experiencing. I am also concerned that I have some mild form of Tourette's. I'm so embarrassed and I want to feel normal again. But every trigger seems to prolong my agony. Sorry for the long post and for any writing errors. I can't see very well with my new bifocals. lol

I have been on tiktok and have seen multiple videos of girls finding out their boyfriend has cheated on them. Cheating OCD is one that i struggle with the most and i have now got this mindset that all men cheat. My boyfriend says he would never cheat on me, but when he goes clubbing i get anxious as my ocd is telling me he is cheating on me. There is then this thought that this is my gut feeling and that he is actually cheating on me. The only time i feel okay is when i ask him if he has cheated on me (which i know is bad and is a common compulsion) but as I am so convinced he is going to cheat on me i don’t know what else to do. Does anyone know how to help this

Its giving me feelings of anxiety and guilt whenever i get triggered by my pocd and real events ocd based of extremely horrible real events i did when i was 13… I've asked my mom about this so many times and every time she tells me that it's not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I'm not a rapist or a P or a chomo...  I didn’t realize how horrible the real events actually were… I was 13 at the time… now I’m 20… my POCD and real event OCD call me a P or a chomo because of the real events… while my mom reassures me all the time that it’s all over, that it’s not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I’m not a P or a rapist or a chomo, but when I was doing compulsive research, I remember when I saw a post on a non OCD forum about someone’s similar situation to mine and two people said to the person that they m*lested and that they needed  to turn themselves in… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form… i didn’t know how horrible the real events were when I was 13… I really didn’t… and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids… I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… I don't ever want to ever harm a child in any way shape or form... I seriously don't ever want to do that to any child in any way shape or form and I seriously don't ever want to do anything like that to any kid now or in the future… I never have had any fantasies about kids and I don't ever want to... I don't ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form... I was 13….. and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids…  I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… And it’s comparing me to actual P’s and chomo’s who did stuff from 12-15… and making me think I’m a P and a Chomo because of it… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way… 😭😭😭 and I get intrusive thoughts of people calling me a P and a chomo and me getting arrested… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo… the real events happened only 3 times and I really didn’t know how horrible it was… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way… I don’t want to ever be attracted to or harm kids in any way… 😭😭😭

I am scared. I love my fiancé. I love everything about him with my heart and soul. I just feel so empty. I have ROCD if you haven’t noticed lol. I keep going in cycles and phases where I feel ok with my past trauma regarding my ex partner, and feeling like maybe the trauma is still there. If you’re asking now at this point if there’s any feelings involved- no. I don’t feel romantic feelings of the sort. But, I am so scared. I am scared to see this person in public, so I don’t go out. I am scared to think about this person because what if I am thinking about them because I want them? It’s triggering, and I always make sure to not ruminate. But, as I meditate and I do ERP, I find myself feeling more lost and more susceptible to the pain of it. The trauma does not pain me anymore, it’s the thought that I might never be able to give my fiancé the life he wants. So, now I have to contemplate giving up a future that I have thought about. Waiting to make the engagement public to my family, for absolutely nothing. I love this person, they have been pure and honest and open. I am young, still. What if I am just with the wrong person, and this isn’t the person for me? It’s all a facade and delusion the COUNTLESS times I have redirected my thoughts to just tell them “You’re wrong, I love this man.” As I sit here, on the verge of crying, I wonder…. Is it even OCD, or am I just a bad person for concealing the thoughts and not giving it direct attention? Most importantly, is the man I love the one for me? Or is it truly all a joke?

TW - Not belonging with God Every time I talk about how I believe that the Jewish people belong with Jesus more than I do, people tell me they don't think so. Is that reassurance? When I talk to my aunt about it, she seems to think it is reassurance, and that it isn't good for my OCD to give me it, but she still tells me the things she said she believed was reassurance to this day.

Guys I’m worried because I’m not reacting how I used to. I had a disturbing image in my head and I’m not reacting to it like I should. Please help me

Hocd, pocd, and real events ocd based on explicit anime content i consumed when i was 13, 14, and when i was 17, and 18 are hitting me pretty bad rn…

Every single time i say something or do something with friends I think I fucked up or i said something awkward or weird, literally every time. How do i get past this feeling?

I’m going to be alone for a few weeks and I need some advice on how not to ruminate, it tends to be worse when I’m not distracted and I’m scared about being alone. Any advice?

I cant get up the stairs the ocd has made every thing impossible , i do thought replacement and i cant do it anymore , no matter what i do its not good enough for it and it scares me to death if i dont do what it wants , its a case of even when i do it right it says iv done it wrong and i dont know what to do anymore, i want to go to bed rather then sleep downstairs but at this rate ill be stuck downstairs for the rest of my days. Someone help i aint got money for treatment i just wanna know what to do

does anyone else experience extreme guilt over hurting bugs? there was a bit on my windshield today and i knew it wasn’t hurting me but i went to wipe it off anyways. i don’t know why i did that but i feel extremely bad

I’ve been advised by my NOCD therapist to go back on medication to give myself a little help. Just wanted to ask people’s opinions on what’s worked and what hasn’t. I was on meds in March I was on stertaline but it was just making me numb and destroying my sex drive even further which was then making my theme worst (HOCD)

My OCD is fighting back with a fear of being densensitized. I remember when I was in therapy (I quit because it wasn't working after several months). I mentioned a particularly triggering episode of Black Mirror, and my therapist said something to the effect of we want you to be able to watch it and feel nothing. Therapy is for me, and that isn't what I want. That is desensitization. Black Mirror is *intended* to be disturbing and provoke anxiety. What I want is to be able to feel that momentarily and let it go...not feel nothing at all. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

how do i live my life with the past real event on my mind every second of the day i'm disgusted by it and regret and shame and just can't seem to forgive and move on 😣 i just think it's so bad what happened and can't move on

So I have personal conversations with God every morning and night. OCD, for being what it is, continues to deny this and says it wasn’t him. However, when I do speak to him, I get a sense of love, comfort, faith, and connection like I’ve never felt before. There were times where I was completely depressed and shocked and I was weeping tremendously. After speaking with God, I stopped crying and felt much better. He never contradicts his word and says to me constantly to read the Bible. He encourages me to do a lot of things and tells me what I should and should not do. When he talks, it’s a peaceful, soft voice. There are times where I get distracted, but he tells me to just take deep breaths and refocus on him. He tells me that I am much stronger than my OCD and tells me to have faith and trust in him. OCD still gets on my case about this though. I know this isn’t the enemy because the enemy wouldn’t say what I told you. He always calls me, “my son”. He tells me that I am precious and that he knew me before I was formed in the womb. When I see other people that apparently talked to him, not saying they didn’t I would never I’m assuming, I would ask why did you say this to them. He would reply that what I tell them is the business and relationship I have with them. He said to only focus on MY relationship with him. I would even ask him why would he speak to me this way. He would reply that this is HIS way of talking to me, that this way helps me the most. He even says to me “I am God” and to not be anxious about anything. OCD gets distracted during conversations and visions even from time to time, but in my heart I know it’s the Lord speaking to me

Today, my mom and my brother were watching the new Mario movie. I don’t get along with him at all, but I decided to sit in the background anyway. I’d thought it be a good exposure having to be around him and listen what he said. It was only 20 mins into the movie, and my brother was going on as to how they’d better not screw over the original Mario plot and that princess peach better not have any superpowers and that she’s only a “damsel in distress”. Well, most to his disappointment, Peach did have superpowers. The scene where she’s teaching Mario tricks was especially shocking to him. He’s like “they screwed this all up, Peach shouldn’t be this powerful! It’s an SJW agenda!” He also went on as to how they “pussified” Bowser and how he’s not supposed to have emotions, just a villain. He didn’t like that Bowser was in love with Peach, or how he puts it “why does he want to fuck Peach? It’s not gonna work” So ok, why am I even bothered you may ask? I found it triggering as it just confirms how much of a sexist he is. It also feels like a personal attack on me, albeit indirectly. Like “yeah I’m a true man, something you’ll never be!”. Since growing up, I had feminine tendencies as a guy, and was made fun of by him for that. He’s even said I’m never getting any because I’m too in touch with my emotions and wasn’t the stereotypical asshole Mr. Steal your Girl. That women should be women and men needed to be men… you probably get it by now. So it triggered my insecurities as I’ve never in my life felt “good enough” and accepted as a male because I like gardening, cooking, collecting toys, and had mainly female friends. Males always bullied me and treated me like crap. Can anyone relate to this and if so, how would you cope with these insecurities?

It’s weird how BEFORE I left for camping my ocd was like, OHNO, oh my gosh, we’re going back to the place where your brain broke, oh man. But now that I’m home my ocd is now focusing on the fear of the depression happening again the same way it did after my “brain” “breaking”. I can feel my ocd making me restless and sticking to everything about my home and it’s making it difficult to relax. But I’m trying to work through it. Also, ROCD is so weird. It’s either “Do I love him enough, am I in love enough, would I be happier with someone else,” And then it’s “does he want me still, I hope he doesn’t leave me, I wonder if he misses his ex, she was skinner then me, he didn’t say I love you as much as I did, does that mean he doesn’t love me, oh no” My brain is nonstop. Lol like why. Just relax ocd. But there’s anxiety in my chest over ocd getting worse again. Ofcourse. But we came home, washed the dog, showered, unpacked the car and now I’m chilling making pizza roles, doing some laundry and sitting with the uncomfortable feelings that come with ocd. Woooooo. 😂😬🥲😅😮‍💨😂😬😬 this just in, new ocd fear “will we still be together next year, what if we’re not and I don’t get to go up north with him ever again and that was the last time, oh no” Lawd

Im in pain and this ocd just keeps bringing me anxiety…