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How does scrupulosity or religious ocd affect you? And how do you cope with it?

so before this mess when i knew who i was i was very sensitive and emotional and compassionate. and i feel like somewhere in me i still am. i still cry when i feel bad for someone. i still try to be as best as i can to others. but these thoughts make me question everything and it feels so real. “what if emotions aren’t real?” “what if you don’t even need to be kind to others?” “you are being delusional and you don’t need compassion.” “good and bad aren’t even real” “that’s not bad everybody is brainwashed to think it is.” i’m so tired. i cannot feel, i cannot be in pain from my ocd because they just tell me that im stressing for no reason and that these thoughts are the truth. but i don’t want to believe them. so what do i do? i need to prove them wrong. i need to prove that i am still me and that i am human. idk im losing it, im losing everything that was important to me. i feel like there is no hope. i hate my life

Hi all! I’m new here. I’ve been struggling severely with my OCD for over a year. I’m here because I desperately want to overcome it. Any tips/tricks or advice is appreciated. I struggle with the thought of something being dirty. Even when I know something isn’t. But unfortunately I have to wash my hands/ sanitize or my mind doesn’t let it go and I can’t focus. Things that trigger it: Pet paws. Can’t touch my pets paws or anything they touch without cleaning the objects/ washing my hands. Can’t touch anything that has touched the floor or the floor itself without washing Car door handles Anything in public that others could have touched If someone accidentally spits on me have to wash Etc.

I feel like I have asked a variation of this question before but still don’t quite know how to deal effectively. What is the suggested pathway for someone dealing with a trauma (sexual) when OCD is latching on and making it worse? I feel like this is something I genuinely need to seek help or counseling for because it is affecting my relationship, but OCD is so loud and trying to make itself the center of attention. I feel like I am suppressing healing just so I don’t engage with my OCD.

This is my first post on here and not sure if this is a form of ocd but thought I’d see if anyone else feels similar and knows how to cope or ignore these thoughts. I have constant thoughts to do with eating and exercising and constantly fear what it’s going to do to me or how it will effect me if I may be eating the wrong thing or made the wrong choice of food or if I haven’t done a certain amount of steps or burned enough calories (checking the app to see) Feel like the little voice in my head is just constantly there watching everything I do making sure it doesn’t effect me Trying not to make this too long but I’ve tried to explain most things briefly

I fear that my ocd will cause psychosis or that it already has..

I don't know what is more difficult, when you have strong anxiety and fear or when you don't feel anxiety. I met a girl and I've been talking to her for a month, we've gone out a couple of times and we've already kissed, I feel like things could go really well between us, I like her and she likes me, I've imagined living together, but I have a lot of anxiety and fear about it happening in bed. I feel that this is going to come soon and every time the opportunity arises, I spend the whole day with thoughts of failure and that I am going to fail and it is going to ruin everything. I have thought about stopping talking to him, telling him about the anxiety I have or something like that as an avoidance, with strong anxiety it is very likely that it will not work as I want, and I can clearly see that the fear is due to the thought of failure, because I have failed sexually in the past and I feel that my libido is low , I think because of all this anxiety. But I really don't want to stop seeing her or stop talking to her, I don't want her to leave, I don't want to miss another opportunity, I don't want to give up on women, I don't want to have this f**k anxiety, I didn't have it before, right now it's uncontrollable, I don't deserve this, nothing makes sense, I'm sad.

I am in a bad flare up of harm OCD, Scrupulosity OCD and meta OCD. When I am in a flare up, I want to just leave my house, whether it's with friends or family or even going to visit my family up in Canada. Is this avoiding or just want to live life?

I really can’t deal with this anymore I question everything about myself every second of everyday. The I intrusive thoughts never stop and they make me feel like such a terrible person. I really don’t know what to do I’m scared to talk to a therapist or anyone because I feel like people will think I’m crazy. Is there any medicine I can take that may make me feel normal again that really all I want is to be happy and feel normal again

Not even for a minute. This Is exhausting. I'm trying to say ok maybe you are or you are not, Who knows, but I Just can't stop thinking and trying to solve this.

hi everyone, really need some advice if possible!! me and my boyfriend have been going through a rough patch. we’ve both realized that we really are complete opposites. he’s an extrovert, i’m an introvert, he has an avoidant attachment style and i have the anxious attachment style. scary, right!! anyways we’ve both been talking through how we’re going to work through it these past two weeks because we both genuinely feel we can make this work. i’ve been in therapy and he’s going to start therapy and we’ve honestly just made progress. and i was FINALLY feeling a relief of anxiety through this and he told me yesterday how he’s scared i won’t be able to adjust or enjoy his extroverted activities. i reassured him im willing to try but just him having anxiety and small doubts gives me the worst anxiety!! i feel confident we will make this work and find middle grounds to everything like we have before but i don’t really do too much of his interest and he’s scared i won’t like them or he’ll find difficulty being okay with my adjustments right away. he said he’s also confident in us but he also has anxiety about this whole thing. we’ve been dating for two years now and i really want this relationship to work but my rocd keeps telling me to leave now and not try out this new lifestyle. that this is too scary to even go through. that he’ll leave me because i’m not “perfect” or “enough” for him even though he’s reassured me. i keep wanting to budge and keep asking for reassurance even though i’ve asked a bjillion times. any advice on how to get through this scary times? we’re both scared of change and we both know we’re capable of it but i’m scared this won’t work out so my ocd is telling me to leave now so i can be stress free. to leave now because it’s never going to work ever and why try but i don’t want that. i don’t want my thoughts to control actions that i don’t even know are true since i haven’t even tried this new change in our relationship

So I went on a date today with a girl and it was my first time seeing her and I didn’t really find her attractive but I did before like a week ago when I was her but was under the influence. But now my ocd is telling me that I’m gay cuz I don’t find her attractive. Because this is the 2nd time this has happened where I reject girl based on her face but I’ve also been with girls that I find attractive and I get aroused with too. Am I picky because I’m Gay ?

I am having a really hard time with what I think is a form of memory hoarding that started about 3 years ago. I have seen multiple therapists and explained my symptoms, but they are not aware of what memory hoarding is and have a hard time understanding what I am experiencing prompting them to try to address a possible underlying issue. While it may be beneficial to address the underlying issue, it is still not helping me get through the episodes of panic and severe anxiety that has thrown me into a cycle of depression. I am now taking Wellbutrin and Fluxomine, but they are only slightly helping me. I am constantly trying to remember what I am thinking about, talking about, listening to or doing and often times things will "slip my mind" (almost like a feeling of amnesia) and I cannot move forward until I either remember or convince myself that I remember. Sometimes this will take days to get out of the cycle of trying to remember and I am so stuck I cannot think about or focus on anything else. These are not important things which is the hardest thing to explain. This is causing major issues in my life, family, work, personal to the point where I could not get out of bed, had suicidal thoughts and thought I would need to quit my job. I used to be able to forget things and be able to laugh it off and think, if it was important it will come back to me, otherwise who cares! Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I have seen a lot of posts on reddit, but never spoke to anyone that has the same or similar issue.

Hello, does anyone have aby advice for how to handle disagreements and arguments with partner, when you have ROCD? I have rocd under control most of the time. But I don't handle conflict very well... Even when it is about something silly, my brain goes: see, you shouldn't be with him. You need someone, who gets you more. And when we argue about something that is not silly, something actually important, I get a lot of anxiety. And I start again thinking about wanting to leave him, questioning if we are compatible... Compabilty is a big theme for me right now. And I don't even know what compability actually means... I hate it. I am sometimes so frustrated with my partner and seriously question if I should leave the relationship. I compare our relationship a lot. Note: we never raise voices when we argue, we both apologize, we try our best to communicate, no one uses nasty words

Does suicial ocd every go away? Will I ever feel like myself again or will I have to keep actively fighting to remain “neutral” because sometimes its really hard and I get so tired and these are the scary moments, because its like you’re “giving up”. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY IM HAVING THESE THOUGHTS im dont understand! Its like whenever Im bored they come and go like “ yea life’s boring whats the point?” Likeee wtfff Can anyone relate?

I made a big mistake trusting someone in my past and it’s made me obsessive over it. To the point where everyone distrust me and I’m creating obsessions in my mind. It affects my work, relationships with family and friends I thought I had.

i’m having a really hard week. my intrusive thoughts have been super bad and i’ve been compulsing the entire time. on top of that i feel like im not sleeping enough. i might just be over exaggerating but im having a lot of nights where i wake up, check the clock, and then it feels like a minute later i check the clock and its been 3 hours (is that normal??). or i wake up and really cant fall back asleep and am aware of it (today i was up at 4:30). i think im only averaging 5 hours at night im really scared that like im going into a psychosis or something. please someone help

Yesterday I had an ending session with a therapist I had been seeing for almost 2 years. This is because she doesn’t specialise in OCD and actually when I spoke to her about my diagnosis it was quite triggering for me as she didn’t think I had OCD (she thinks it’s only excessive cleanliness etc). She’s a humanistic therapist and I have worked with her through so much that i’ve formed a really strong attachment. I’m so nervous to start doing ERP/ CBT work and i’m really frightened that it won’t work for me. My old therapist has said i can always come back whenever, but I feel alone and scared and like my safety blanket has completely gone. I realise this is probably because she provided me with so much reassurance. Does anyone have any advice or can give me any words of wisdom if they’ve gone through similar things? I can’t stop crying and feel very depressed.

Has anyone experienced OCD regarding a particular individual? This person is absolutely meaningless to you, yet your brain has been giving them a sort of “god complex.” This all started a few years ago for me with a classmate from college when Covid began and this individual made me feel bad about something, although they didn’t know they did. This particular thing really bothered me and I was never sure why. They did nothing wrong, my brain did by latching onto that trivial thing and feeding the obsession. I still struggle with it and sometimes it feels like it’s constantly in the background and it causes severe anxiety at times. Anyways was just wondering if I could get anyone else’s input or thoughts on this particular issue.

Hey everyone! Here is my story and I would love to see if anyone relates or if the same thing may have happened to them. Back in August of 2022, I tested positive for COVID for the third time (yippie🙃). I have to say that this was my worst bout of COVID yet and I had massive brain-fog, migraines(previous diagnosed w/ chronic migraines), all the fun stuff. A week after I got over this round of COVID, I tested positive for strep and found out I had a sinus infection that had been untreated for about a month. Needless to say, my immune system was shot. After all of this occurred, I started having severe panic attacks constantly.. every morning I woke up and was already panicking, I would feel like I wasn’t in my own body, my brain was a foggy mess, and I absolutely hated the life I was living. This went on for three months before I finally decided to see my health care provider about it. In November of that same year, I started taking Sertraline and have been moving up in my dose ever since. In June of this past year, I started having extremely distressing thoughts about my boyfriend, who I have been with since January of 2022. These thoughts were ones that I was able to push away at first, but as time went on they became more and more anxiety provoking. Thoughts such as, “do I love him enough?”, “do I even love him and if I do, why don’t I feel it?”, “you should break up with him”, “are you attracted to him?”. Deep down, I know I love him VERY much, he is my best friend and I feel so safe with him, and he is the first healthy relationship I have had in my life. It’s comfortable and he feels like home. These thoughts come and go for WEEKS on end, and then the anxiety calms down and the thoughts get quiet for awhile.. and then they come back full force and cripple me with anxiety and sadness all over. I’m currently having a flair up on these feelings (I have not been diagnosed, but I find myself relating to a lot of what other people have felt or are feeling + have talked to my doctor and they believe I could benefit from therapy with these symptoms). I find that when I am extremely stressed or anxious, these thoughts appear. The first time I had ever had these thoughts or feelings was in my 20s and it is something I have never experienced before my immune system gave up on me for awhile. Long story short, I wanted to see if anyone else may be dealing with this or if long-term COVID has messed with others’ psyche. Thanks for reading!!