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Does anybody have tips for mild OCD flare ups. I’m not completely in panic but I’m feeling it getting there. The trigger was I played a video game with a male character I’m attracted to. The problem is he is a merman and I worry about being a zoophile for liking him since he is part fish. He is still sentient and can talk, he was also once a human (it’s a scifi horror game) I’ve taken my propranolol for the physical symptoms but I’m trying to curb the mental symptoms before they get any worse.

My pocd is telling me I did explicit things with minors online even when A. Theres no proof or lack of proof this happened, and B. I remember asking a lot of women for ID's as confirmation before I engaged... but its i can't remember all of my interactions online and its triggering me... Ive been genuinely so triggered... I cant sleep... my head hurts... I prayed to god, hoping that none of my fears are true... Im so scared and anxious...

slight tw i think?? whenever i'm in a bus i can't help but think about the amount of people that sat in my seat. i'm afraid to become infected even though i know it's not rational. but it's so uncomfortable having my skin touch those seats and think "what if someone with a lethal disease sat there and i'm going to die too"

I think this is magical thinking but I’m not 100% sure. I get really scared and think all of my loved ones will die in a car accident. Especially if they’re running an errand for me or coming to visit me then it’s like 100% more likely for them to get in a car wreck because it was FOR ME. Or if I’m with my family members and one wants to drive to get food, etc I feel like I HAVE to go WITH them in order to prevent a car crash from happening and them dying. Like if I stay home then I’m ensuring their death? Does this make sense? Anyone else relate? What on earth is it?! It’s constant and automatic and everyday.

Does anyone else struggle with OCD surrounding medical procedures? For me it's blood draws; every time I get one I feel so worried that something will go wrong or that I will be permanently damaged from it, even if everything goes fine. I got one today and they had to try both arms. They did a different vein than usual and I'm freaked out about it. Now that one hurts, I can't shake the idea that something is very wrong and I'm in danger. I know this logically is not true, but I'm still very distressed by my thoughts. Can anyone else relate? Any advice?

I usually post on Reddit especially on the OCD subreddit and I got a content warning regarding the sexualization of minors in regards to talking about my POCD and my experience with it. It’s heavily triggered me and I can’t seem to move on from it.

Hey! I’m French and I’m thinking I sufffer of Pure O, it’s hard to find a specialist in ocd in France so do you know a person whhich is specialised in OCD and can speak French ? I’m not sur my level in English is enough now to follow a therapy, maybe later? Thank you so much !

Hey guys, not really OCD related but last night I asked the boy I'm seeing if he wanted to be my boyfriend, he said yes and we were really mutually happy about the decision, having not labelled it as anything for a month or so because I was having a little freak out on occasion. I've woken up this morning now and I'm worried about that decision, it feels comfortable yet strange to call him my boyfriend to other people but he came to an event with me the other night and everyone was asking things like"how long have you been seeing eachother" and "is this your boyfriend" and i was like "not yet haha" and now here we are. For context, he is 19 (turning 20 in October) and Ive just turned 17. A couple of my friends think I'm getting groomed but I work with him, the people at my work all found out by various sources and just joke about it and find it quite sweet, knowing that he has the best of intentions. He is so respectful to me and I feel like I really love him. But I don't know who to tell or if I want it to be public because of the hard time it could give me at school having an older boyfriend, and I only came out of my three year relationship in may. It's crazy right? I just thought I'd ask for advice..what would you do in my position?

tw//talks of sa and sexual acts I'm kinda worried because of something that happened with me and my boyfriend forever ago. When me and my boyfriend were being all over each other and things were heated, he asked if he could kiss me Down There and I said yes and then he proceeded to lick me down there a couple of times and then stopped. It made me uncomfortable and I told him to not do that because it was not that I expected and it shocked me a bit. He apologized and said he understands why I felt that way and I know he never meant to make me feel uncomfortable or upset. we talked more about it, and set a boundary about asking before doing anything like that instead of like before where we were both comfortable with kinda just doing stuff when we knew we were in the mood. I trust him but it did make me feel bad for a bit. This isn't SA right? I feel like I started to ruminate on this trying to figure it out desperately even though I used to be confident that it wasn't. this wasn't triggered by anything personal, just a random tik tok video talking about SA. I'm just worried but I have felt better ever since we had that conversation and set boundaries.

I really need to talk to someone right now, I just need clarity on a situation badly.

Hi! I’m really shy with posting on apps like this, but I don’t really know what else to do haha I just need a place to get my thoughts out, I have no one around me with ocd who can relate to my experiences, and oftentimes those around me overlook my experiences or invalidate my thoughts and feelings, so I’ve kind of learned to shut up but there’s only so much that I can keep to myself without going completely insane. It’s really exhausting to exist when all my brain bombards me with is intrusive thoughts and images of me offing myself in various ways (though usually with a gun). Does anyone else go through this? Or something similar? Every time I’ve talked about this with anyone around me they’ve said it was normal for people to have intrusive thoughts, but is imagining killing myself 24/7 really all that normal? Because I find it rather distressing 😭 In recent weeks my “normal” intrusive thoughts have escalated into a desire and will to actually carry out my thoughts, and it’s caused me to become a miserable zombie who’s constantly scared that I’ll finally cross the line and just do it. I’ve always told myself I’d never be able to kill myself because I’m too chicken, but lately it’s been more real than ever. Not only do I dream about killing myself constantly but now I’m obsessed with monitoring my thoughts and making sure I don’t get too close to actually doing it. I’ve become obsessed with trying to prevent myself from myself and it’s the most humiliating sensation. My biggest fear is myself, it’s hard to not feel ridiculous. It’s also frustrating because what else can I really do for myself? I take meds, I meditate, I go to therapy every week, I have great friends, family, and a partner, I have two jobs and a wonderful cat.. Like genuinely what else is there to do to help myself? My therapist always asks me this and I never know how to respond because I already feel like I’m doing damn near everything to keep myself afloat and nothing is working. There’s an extreme amount of guilt that comes with these thoughts too. I’m someone that everyone else leans on for support, if I were to suddenly take myself out of the equation I feel like that’d make me the most selfish person. The way my thoughts have drained me and taken control of my life makes me feel guilty too. I can’t socialize like I used to, I can’t make eye contact and I sleep constantly. I’m always on the verge of tears or a breakdown, leaving me extra sensitive when I don’t want to be. My worsening mental health is taking a toll on everyone around me as well, and it only adds to the thought cycle of ‘if I killed myself it’d be better for everyone else’ because at least I wouldn’t be burdening them with my sour moods and lack of motivation. I’ve never been one to self harm, and have always thought those who did only did it for attention. It’s something I’m ashamed to admit, because I know that’s not the case; it’s just hard for me to get past my experiences with the attention seeking self harmers that I grew up with. I’m turning 21 soon and this is the first time I’ve genuinely craved the feeling of blatant and intentional self harm, not the normal skin-picking and nail-biting that I’ve done for years. It’s frustrating because my new desire to self harm makes me feel like an attention seeker. I can tell myself that I’m not, but it doesn’t change the fact that I feel like one. I’ve always been vocal about mental health and self confidence but my struggle with suicidal ideation and self harm has never been something that I could tell someone about. Posting anonymously is my last ditch effort at getting my thoughts out before I explode, and I hope that this post doesn’t trigger or inconvenience any of you beautiful people. If you’ve read this far I really appreciate you and I thank you for giving me your time. 🫶

I am a 22 year old female and have never gotten into a relationship due to the fact that I have OCD and how ugly it can get at times. I also feel like I would be a burden and be too much to handle especially in modern dating when people want to have fun and dont want to deal with anything that's exhausting not saying it's wrong but that's how it is. I have these two mindsets of 'I'll have someone who will accept me someday' Or 'I'll just be on my own cause that's what's good for me'.I don't think anyone will look at me and think they want to settle down with me or stuff. I feel like i will be too much to handle. Even if someone likes me, they will never actually love me enough to spend their life with me. Maybe if I were more pretty maybe people might put up with me idk really. This just saddens me to the core. I don't know how to deal with this. Is there any hope for me P.S my ocd is manageable most of the time but when it flares up it gets ugly and i go non-functional

Yall. Does your ocd make you become so scared of depression, that your imagination tricks you into thinking you’re depressed?! Cause I know I’m not depressed ( I think) I love my life my family sports and I’m constantly just wanting to be busy. But sometimes my imagination tricks me into thinking I’m feeling depressed. I also think I’m an empath, and lots of my friends are real deal depressed. So my mind is questioning itself, even though there is no reason to. I look forward to the future, have fun with my family, yet I feel like the trying to feel depressed to prepare yourself to feel depressed is almost a constant. Also usually these trying to feeling depressed episodes flare up when we are doing fun things. Like eating out or spending time together. The only time that I don’t fall into a mind trick is when I’m playing sports. My mind sometimes can be clear a whole day and suddenly we do something all together that’s nice and the fear of depression fear of myself flares up! Anyone else relate?

I’ve got ocd (lol obs) and I’ve always had it, and I’ve tried to tell my mom so many times. I’m 17, and for years I’ve had so many horrific (what I call) flare ups. And it sometimes feels like a bingo game w the amount of types I’ve had. Sometimes I really do just wish I could go to my mom and say “mom I’ve got ocd and it’s really bad atm and I just wanna be okay again because I know it’s ocd but I’m sick of it being there can I please please get some help please it’s not okay please get me some help.” The ironic part is she’s a frigging nurse. And she must just be in some kinda denial. I’m just kinda waiting for this part to pass, I’ve made it 17 years w nobody to help me. I’ve only just told my friends what it’s like but I said things that weren’t currently in my flare up. I swear I’m on the verge of being sectioned for psychosis at this point. But I have made it this far- it will go away at some point on its own. But why won’t my mom help me. Why’s she so defensive- (I know why just like “why oh why won’t she. Yk?) but she’s so blinded by no no it’s all okay everything is okay. I’m sat in my room thinking the only way I could make her see- mom I rly am not okay is if I k*//ed myself. Like, then she’ll be like “…ohhh so she wasn’t okaaay” 💀🥹 if any one person could read this, and just type that it’s okay or something not as obs and generic as “it’s okay” but like just something to show someone’s listened. Thanks. I’ll ignore my trust issues, it’s an ocd app we’re all out here struggling but thanks x🤍🤌

I was thinking about some stuff I struggle with and I really struggle with people who emotionally blackmail me. It's something I'm seeking therapy for because I attract them more than an average person would. I believe OCD is the great emotional blackmailer. We feel we have to give into demands and compulsions to appease it's threats. My questions: How would you deal with an emotional blackmailer in real life? How would that differ from dealing with OCD?

My recent intrusive thoughts have been triggering bad panic attacks. Do you guys also get panic attacks or anxiety from your intrusive thoughts? 😣

I dont know is this is sign of me being a lesbian or what but I feel like i can’t talk with my girl friends about guys. When i was young i used to, it was fun, talking about those things and talking about sex when we were pre-teens. But now I’m 20 and i feel like that im just not that boy crazy as other girls and i feel like im just left out of the conversation. When im alone and i do feel normal and my ocd is not spiraling i notice guys and i do have fantasies. I just feel a bit broken when i talk about guys with my girl friends. But i dont think im a lesbian. Sometimes i just know I’m not. But i’ve read many stories like “I realized I was a lesbian when all my girl friends were talking about guys and i couldnt relate”. 😔😔 Maybe this is all because of HOCD because i have it since 14.

I guess I'm seeking reassurance, but please tell me these horrible images are just the OCD and doesn't mean who I am

Hi all! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and possibly share your thoughts... I have had OCD for 50 years. Mostly magical thinking and scrupulosity. It has gotten better at times and at others, like now, it is unbearable. I'm supposed to take a very fun trip in January. I was very excited to plan. But when we were talking about flying, I started to have extremely scary thoughts and feelings in the pit of my stomach. Everything seems like an omen that I shouldn't go. Everything is planned and purchased. My husband would not understand me not wanting to fly. I have flown before, which makes this feeling I have seem so ominous. I can't shake it and everything that I do, I think is a sign even if it doesn't connect. What can I do? Has anyone felt this? I feel desperate...why would I feel like this? I hate my brain. I want this to just be OCD and not an evil sign of doom...I'm so, so sad and scared. I will take any advice from you friends... I'm so sorry if you have anything like this. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy...