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i’m bisexual with h/soocd, is there anyone who had this?

I've been struggling recently with intrusive thoughts predominantly in the form of sexual imagery and seeing myself partake in the visuals. It's kind of like my brain is trying to come up with the most obscene things it can think of. I don't really question my sexuality but it's just difficult/frustrating/anxiety provoking when these thoughts come up and it's getting to a point where for everyone I meet my brain just puts sexual imagery in my head. For example my boss, my coworkers, friends, etc. Even though I know I wouldn't want to do the things that the images present, my brain just can't stop putting the images in my mind. (It even happened with images regarding my parents, religious figures which spiked my anxiety really high). I just don't know what to do right now as it has occupied a large chunk of my headspace and trying to sit with the thought seems to not have decreased the anxiety every time the images pop up still.

Has anyone else thought that a memory was a real memory/real event and then layer (for me later that day) thought maybe it didn't happen that way and was false? I have been struggling with this for almost a year now

Hi! I came here so I could be part of the community, to listen and to be listened. I've been suffering from So-OCD and Rocd for more than 5 years, right now I'm in a healthy relationship with my boyfriend who is very supportive and he understands my situation. I'm also 3 months pregnant, and everything was going smooth until a couple nights ago I dreamt I was dating a woman and the whole thing just activated again. I'm feeling super sad and anxious, asking myself what if that's what I really wanted in life, what if in the future I'll leave my partner and my baby for a woman, what If I say I love him but it's not truth and I'm in denial of my SO, and a million more thoughts. My brain feels really tired, I could really use some words of advice 😭

I’ve suffered from SOCD, ROCD,Somatic OCD, Perfectionism OCD, Pure OCD. Health Concern OCD, and even Contamination OCD. The last few days I have been getting thoughts about gender identity questions randomly when I never have done so before, but they are not nearly as dibilating as yesterday randomly out of the blue I felt like I got a random onset of TOCD. Not once in my life have I ever questioned my gender identity and have always felt greatly comfortable and identified with being a girl but all the sudden yestefday randomly saw a tik tok of someone who is transgender and boom all of the sudden I got these thoughts wondering if I am and what that would mean and I have to breakup with my boyfriend and etc. it has been extremely hard for me to navigate these thoughts the last 24 hours. I know this is OCD because this is something that I never have been worried about before but it still feels so real so weird so scary and so shameful. Not to mention I feel like an awful person who is transphobic at the same time. I want these to go away. I have enough intrsuive thoughts to deal with on an everyday basis and now this ontop of it is unbearable. My other triggers aren’t even triggering me anymore. I feel so weird and scared. Even the clothes I got for myself two days prior I feel like I can’t wear or try on because I’m too scared. I don’t know what’s going on with me I feel so extremely alone. Not to mention both of my parents have COVID so I am LITERALLY alone physically and mentally. Has something like this ever happened to anyone ?

i need to stop ruminating but i don’t know how. i know i’m supposed to sit with the thoughts but right now it’s making me panic even more. what if im enjoying it and im just messed up forever. what if i can’t get better. what if i have a 2 month long breakdown again. i just want to be normal

Hello, I've been having an anxiety attack. I was at the bar with my best friends on Saturday night and two boys joined us. In France we kiss each other to say goodbye and give each other two cheeks, I don't know if it's the same for you. When we go out the bar I remember saying goodbye to one of them but the other I can't remember (even 5 minutes later), I hadn't even been drinking. So it stresses me out that I can't remember how I said goodbye so my brain says "omg what if you cheated your boyfriend?" My best friend says she saw me saying goodbye normally but since I don't remember, it's really hard to be sure I didn't cheat because I don't remember! I feel so guilty and so bad! I can't breathe

I’m scared. I did something that my head told me not to. I don’t know what to do. It feels wrong and I don’t know what to do. It wasn’t anything bad, but I went against what I had put in place. I don’t even know if this makes sense. I shouldn’t have done that. I like that I went against my thoughts, but it hurts….

Perfectionism can be really hard for so many reasons, including our OCD often evaluating every thing as being equally, and 100%, important. This often leads to a lot of indecision about where to start, indecision about how to start, and avoidance about starting at all for fear of making the wrong decisions. What are some ways you can relate to this?

Is it okay that I am in a relationship where I didn’t feel an intense spark or infatuation at the beginning, I’m happy to continue in the relationship as I love my boyfriend deeply but in my head it’s like ‘your relationship is doomed to fail because of the lack of passion in the beginning’ ?

Does anyone on here have intrusive thoughts about their own boyfriend? Maybe it’s just you guys just getting Intimate & it’s not exactly a bad intrusive thought. Is that a thing? Could it be caused by bad sex or not enough as id like? Just confused or maybe I’m thinking them on purpose but it doesn’t feel like I am. That’s the weird part. Maybe it’s cause he’s cheated on me before? I really have no idea. Just want a reply, thank you!

My sister told me today that my stepdad doesn't think I have OCD, or doubts that I do, since indont display any of the obvious, cliche OCD behaviors that he as seen or is aware of. (Such as obsessove over cleanliness, switching door locks, etc like what they show in movies). I wasn't aware he thought this, and had (about a year ago) told him and my mom about it all, when I was in therapy and getting diagnosed. I felt like they had been supportive and it was hard for me to tell them. Plus I already doubt it/myself enough. So I feel upset and angry and dejected realizing he felt this way and I didn't know it. And now I can feel it making me spiral into wondering "well, maybe he's right and I don't have it and I'm insane" etc. It's just tiring. 😔

Who are most likely to get recovered from OCD fastly? I know that everyone will get recovered from OCD but my question here is who is likely to get recovered fast as in pn who does recovery work always or something like that?

I wasn’t going to get on here and post but I can’t take it anymore . I’ve told my boyfriend about this and he said to let it go . When I was 16 I met this 13 year old boy on a video game . I honestly can’t remember anything about this situation too well but I believe I gave him my Instagram Before knowing his age . I honestly can’t remember but we would text on Instagram and one time I FaceTime him and one time I thought he was cute but I don’t think I ever said it to him. I’m scared to go back and look at text messages bc I wonder did I ever try to flirt with him. I vividly remember playing with him one day and had a feeling like I had a feeling for him but at the time I didn’t have ocd but I think I questioned myself I think and I asked my brother about a 3 year age gap but I don’t think I was trying to pursue a relationship. I think I was just curious . I don’t want to believe that I tried bc that would just be awful of me. This was like 4 years ago . I’m now 20 and never contacted him since then . And then another incident where I met another person but for awhile I thought he was 2 years younger than me which ain’t a bad age gap . But he was actually 3 years younger . I was 17 and he was 14 when we first started playing a game together and we would always play the game together and talk about the game or our life. I referred to him as bro bc that’s what I thfout of him as . And we actually have the same birthday . I don’t think there was ever flirting tbh . But sometimes I wonder did I have feelings for him ?. I had this question when he was 15 and I was 18 . Sometimes I believe I did with both incidents and it makes me feel guilty and sad . And sometimes I idk . I have uncertainty. But if I did would this be p*dophilia . And sometimes I would have the thought of the youngest I would date is someone 3 years younger than me . But I feel like I said that to make it seem like it’s common and to not feel so guilty but i don’t think that was a genuine thought. I have a bf that’s the same age as me btw. I have had crush on people that was 2 or 1 year younger than me in past . And I think that’s fine but 3 is id

Does it ever feel like the thing you have always done feel completely wrong/strange/uncomfortable to you and that you should not do it?

So everyone, I'm 17 and unfortunately I'm still on 8th grade for some reasons. So I'm good at pretty much all of my subjects except for math. I'm bad at math and when I say I'm bad at math, I meant I'm terrible at math and this is something making me feel really bad.. Cause I'm April, it was midterm exam and I literally 6/50 even after I studied so hard. And in June, it was My first semester, 100 marks exam and even after I studied so much, during the exam, I didn't understand A THING. And did horrible. And I did answer to like 3 questions by copying my friend's paper. And guys, I failed most probably, the result is in few days. Guys I don't know what to do anymore... It's all so hard rn.. I'm studying math and practicing again but I can't see much improvement and I'm so scared guys... Can someone tell me what do I do? :(

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now , safe to say I have never loved someone as much as I love my boyfriend , he feels like home to me. We developed an instant emotional connection from the beginning and I’ve never felt so close emotionally to someone . What I have struggled with throughout the relationship has been the attraction aspect , it’s not that I find him unattractive at all, objectivity he is attractive - he works out he’s Arabic tanned etc it’s more there wasn’t this instant spark or that intuitive attraction. It’s something I’ve always found to be important when dating. I pushed through this anyway because there was no way I wasn’t going to carry on seeing him I became attached to him very quickly and him to me too. The sex is great , it’s always been great but I can’t put in words what feels to be missing exactly . I feel romantically toward him not just a best friend but I’ve never felt any intense lust. I want to be able to get over this ‘issue’ but in the last 2 years I have not worked out how to not let this bother me. A quick google search of ‘do you need to have physical infatuation in a relationship’ and I cry at the responses saying you can’t force attraction , it rarely grows etc. When I am around him I don’t want time to stop , he truly is everything to me and the thought of loosing him hurts me to my core. I couldn’t stand the thought of him being with someone else and us just being friends , not in a selfish way just that we have a very special bond . We are meant to be getting married next year , we’ve spoken about it a lot and I cried tears of happiness when he mentioned the idea . I feel like the worst girlfriend in the world sometimes for having these doubts , particularly as we can both read each other like a book so I’m sure he picks up on these insecurities- what can I do I feel so lost ??

Can ocd effect sexual attraction?

Today was an awful day It felt like I was enjoying the thoughts that I had and now that it's 3 AM I feel horrible and can't sleep because of the anxiety, I've used porn multiple times and even had thoughts about it that I felt like I liked and felt guilty for it but got aroused by the women and to make matters even worse? I was sick! so I cannot even think properly, I'm starting to have feelings of dissociation and I feel like this isn't OCD anymore and these groinal responses are real arousal, I hate it so much, what can I do?

Hi all! I’ll try to keep this super short so if you need more context, please feel free to ask! My partner and I broke up just over a year ago now. We were together for four years. My ROCD was always partner-focused, with deep fears and triggers about his faithfulness and his morality. Even after breaking up, for almost a full year, my anxiety and constant ruminating is heavily, heavily focused on him. It’s exhausting. After we broke up, he told me he had sent a few flirty messages to a good friend of mine (the messages were sent about 6 months after we had broken up). He apologized, and told me he ended the conversation right away, and felt guilty about it. She never told me. I asked her about it, and she thought it was no big deal. It really caused a huge spiral of anxiety for me and deeply affected my trust towards her (and him of course, but that’s obvious). Anyway, in one of my deep anxiety spirals after this happened, I was knee deep in checking his social media and noticed he and another good friend of mine had also unfollowed each other. When I looked back on their “likes” for each other’s posts, it looks like they dropped off around sept. 2020. So I’m guess the unfollowing happened either then or shortly after. This was almost TWO years ago. But my mind immediately went to “I wonder if he was also flirting with her?!”. This caused an extreme panic attack. This friend of mine has been living abroad for 3 years, there’s no way anything happened between them. I don’t even know if they’ve ever talked privately. But the only reason I can think of them unfollowing each other is if he was inappropriate with her via DM. Anyway, fast forward to today, she’s back in the country and wants to hang out on Thursday. She was one of my best friends and I didn’t ever have a negative thing to say about her. But the thought of seeing her is completely terrifying to me. I have a pit in my stomach that will be there all week. I can’t imagine all the anxiety. And I’m terrified my anxiety will get the best of me and I’ll start asking her or interrogating her about this, asking if anything happened and why they unfollowed each other. I know it sounds crazy. Or maybe it doesn’t. But I’m so sick over this. I love this girl and don’t want to lose a friendship over something that MIGHT have happened years ago. But I can’t see her. I know avoidance is wrong but I honestly don’t feel like I can see her. Any advice is so greatly appreciated.