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Am I right that sexuality shows from puberty and doesn’t switch? So for me, naturally I wanted to be physical and emotionally close to girls. I enjoyed it. Was like a natural pull towards it. Not obsessed, but daily that’s what I’d think/want. Up until 26/27, I’d never even thought about my sexuality, it just was. For those with same sex attraction, is it the same just that it’s towards the same gender? Like, it can’t be mistaken?

Do any of you suffer from frequent rumination, anxiety when not giving in to compulsion, and having a guilt or doubt that you did something inappropriate and with bad intent? Even though its completely against your values and history the guilt and doubt is unbearable. Its affecting my family and work life.

My 9 yo daughter began her OCD symptoms when she turned 8. Her dad has it so we recognized it. She sees a therapist who told her to make her OCD into a being. She named her OCD a silly name to help her separate herself from her anxieties and subsequent compulsions. It’s hard to know what she’s supposed to do with this “creature” as verbalizing it is difficult for her. Should she try to push this being away when he pops up, or is she supposed to work with the being to coexist? I just want to be as helpful to her as possible.

My boyfriend's cousin who is in college still has spring break right now. They decided to go to Fort Lauderdale for his break and I was not invited of course because it is a "boys trip". They're meeting up with two cousins and a friend so I know its all guys. But I cannot help but have the worst OCD of cheating. Everyone knows that, thats the place all the spring breakers go or Miami and if they're in a relationship they usually are attempted to cheat whether boy or girl. I cannot tell if I trust him or if my OCD is making me feel like I do not. If I didn't trust him then why would I have been with him for 3 years? I need advice on what to do and how to go about this. I already talked to him about it and he keeps me updated everyday but it does not help me still.

I read yesterday on Google that ‘someone that is good for you might not be for you’ and ‘just because someone is good for you doesn’t mean you will be attracted to them’ and I’ve started to spiral after a good recovery time, obviously due to my thoughts I find it difficult to feel attracted to my bf at all times but now my brains convincing me I don’t have to be with him just because he is good for me

What medications are people taken? I am currently on mirtazapine 30mg. I think it may be time for another docs visit as I don't think it is working well anymore.. sick of feeling the way I do. Constant brain activity with hocd is very tiring. Can't seem to catch a break lately. This last week has been horrendous interms of obsessions and then checking. Having a massive effect on my relationship with my wife (she knows i struggle with anxiety but doesn't know the reason why). My trigger words during normal conversations make my anxiety spike so much that she can clearly see this happening, then she starts to say words that she knows triggers my anxiety.. like the most trigger word for me right now is "come out", which is used in most conversations but I just can't stop the anxiety when I hear this, my brain starts to ask questions..

Hi everyone! This is my first post!! I'm currently 24 years old and I only just officially got my drivers license last year. I always tried to explain to friends/family why driving gave me so much anxiety and panic, but I couldn't ever find the right words to help people understand it. Since I've gotten my OCD diagnosis, I realized my only other friend who can't drive at the age of 26 also has OCD. Is this something any of y'all have experienced, too? For clarification, I was never in a scary car accident or experienced any kind of car related trauma growing up. People seem to assume it must be trauma related, which is why it's always been so hard to explain.

I hope this post finds someone who is currently struggling with this ocd theme. Long story short, about 3 months ago I experienced an encounter where it has traumatized me to the core. I have relationship OCD due to the fact that I was unfaithful to my partner at the beginning of our relationship. I built such fear and trauma from it to not do it again. My partner knows everything! But what I want to say today is that there is hope. These past 3 months has been a living hell for me. I experienced false memory so severely and bad. To explain the experience, I went to the gym to cancel my membership. Like I mentioned, I have slight fear with guys because of what I went through. I do admit to my faults, I was being nice to this guy. He was super friendly/outgoing. And from the start I remember thinking nothing of it but to be nice and chill towards this guy ( usually I’m super serious). Unfortunately, it is completely out of my memory now. But I said at the beginning I had an intrusive thought about being extra friendly to this guy behind my boyfriend’s back. Mind you it turned into something crazy because through I and my boyfriend’s messages, I said that the thought was about flirting. But I’ve always remembered as friendly. That completely distorted my memory. So during this months I’ve been trying to figure it out and see if after whatever thought I had, I smiled more or not due to the malicious intrusive thought I had. Then it jumped into, I don’t remember and ‘ what if ‘ I flirted with this guy or flirtatiously smiled at him. Constant doubts about this situation and the amount of anxiety this brought to me. My boyfriend said if there was any flirtation at all he’s leaving. So that left me in the trenches because as a person with OCD, there’s a 0 tolerance for uncertainty especially with a memory. Although it brought me days of not eating because I was so fixated on I have to know every detail of this encounter. Recently, I started to think to myself. Life is not always gonna be 100% certainty. But there is such thing called logic. For people going through FALSE MEMORY. Listen to me right now, if you did something bad, you just know. There’s no doubt or anything. Unless you have very short term memory like actually diagnosed. I started to think about it and told myself, you know what; if I flirted with this guy, I WOULD HAVE REMEMBERED. If I would have smiled in a flirtatious way towards this guys I WOULD HAVE REMEMBERED. Any aspect that would have made me uncomfortable, I WOULD HAVE REMEMBERED. That is logic. You can ask any person right now and ask them hey do you remember this memory by detail and they will say NO. But if you ask them, in this case, did you smile in a flirty way or flirt with them they’ll say no. But how if you don’t remember the details, and I promise there answer would be well I wouldn’t do that and ontop of that if I would have I would’ve known that since it happened and would’ve recalled. So please anyone going through false memory, listen up, if it begins with ‘ what if ‘ shut that off right then and there. You remember big details, as humans we are prone to that. Move forward and drop whatever you are going through and live your life!!!! Stop torturing yourself.

I make friends online and I like to make sure they are above 18- mostly cause the art I create is mature and I generally don’t like minors and don’t want to be near them. Lately my severe OCD has forced me to cut off all these friends cause even after they showed me ID, and birth certificates that it still was too much of a risk. I kept thinking it was never worth the risk. Well I kept one friend and I’m still terrified that they are lying. Sometimes I talk to them and I just feel sick then I feel guilty. They asked me to please not let them go too and now I feel like an awful person. I just look at their texts and I feel like “what if?” Or “what if I’ve always known they were a minor?” Or “I used to be comfortable talking to them- they could’ve been a minor!” And it drags me down so far I just really REALLY want to cut them off. I feel so miserable.

i got a thought of “why are you fighting against the “urge” so much? just give in” and it’s scaring me. it’s like i now i don’t know why i’m fighting against it. but i know why i have been, i don’t want to hurt my family. but now this thought makes me think i actually do. i don’t know what’s going on truly, sometimes i feel like i’m able to tell it’s all ocd and then sometimes it feels so real.

Does anyone else get very nervous/afraid/anxious after experiencing an OCD spiral? Over the last 2 days I’ve had my worst ocd episode in years and even though I think and hope I’m through the worst of it I find myself nervous that anything could re-trigger it. Just feeling really vulnerable and fragile and wondering if anyone else gets “ocd hangovers” like this.

I'm worried that I'm going to die in my sleep every single night I try to sleep. I'm worried about my sexual health because of my horrible bad habits. I'm worried about having diabetes because of things I looked up surrounding cracked heels in the foot along with tingling that I've felt in the past. I'm worried that my addictive actions are going to hurt me someday and I'm always worried about my health one way or another. I can't seem to fully stop worrying about it.

I feel like hocd happened to woman not man because every time I’m on this app it always girl talking about hocd and not guy

It feels like I’m going round in circles with my ocd and struggling to find things to help I’ve been in therapy but felt like they didn’t understand my ocd properly as they weren’t specialised in ocd I’ve been told “I’m doing the right things to help” and that there’s nothing more to offer me? but none of the therapy sessions even done things like cbt or exposure therapy It’s making me worried that there’s no way to help it or that no one else experiences the same thing as me Just makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me :( Worried I’m making it up and that it’s not ocd Has anyone done the therapy on here and has it helped? Please tell me your experience 💕

How do I know I definitely have ocd I feel like I’m making it all up and using it as excuse to my boyfriend and that I’m a bad person towards him I don’t want to hurt him I want to share my thoughts with someone :(

Everytime i try, my attraction to men is always just constantly underminded by constant intrusive thoughts. I just feel like what excuse do i have at this point. Im so unstable i cant tell up from down. Id feel like myself one day, and the next im convinced i have 0 attraction to men anymore, so what choice do i have but be straight, just to have a crush on a dude the next day. Being thrown through the ringer just kills me. It feels like my personality is being rewritten day by day, and I cant tell which thoughts are real anymore.

Does anyone else get this almost “out of body” sensation where they feel almost drugged during and after a flare up? My brain feels stuffed and fuzzy. I don’t quite even know how to describe it! But it’s always after my OCD is triggered, and it can last for awhile.

I'm feeling a lot of guilt and shame because of my bad habit and I don't know how to get passed it. I'm really afraid I've messed up my physical health because of this addiction aside from my mental health. Sometimes I just browse forums under the same topic to try and see if I find someone that's going through the same thing I am 100%. This usually never works and I just end up finding things that are worse than my situation and it doesn't help. Worse, I'll get groinals that ruin everything about this because I get thoughts that I'm only reading things for Attraction. I just don't know how I can accept my decisions without shame attached to it. I completed a therapy session and it did help, but I just need to find a way to change my mindset. It's really hard. I hate thinking about all of the pain I've been through with porn. I hate that I'm so hooked on this and I hate that I've acted out so badly at times. I had that on some occasions I've harmed myself when this, whether it'd be crying because it's so awful to deal with, physically hurting myself by accident or doing something so impulsive, stupid, and risky just to get the stupid high.

And making it worse? I sometimes feel like I over complicate it and make it worse by feeling like I need the answers to all of the questions that I have in my mind before everything will be okay and I can move forward I also strongly feel that going to talk therapy at the start of 2020 made it a lot worse like it made me feel in my mind that okay I am going to get all of the answers now when of course it doesn't work like that