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A bit hopeless. I feel like my efforts to overcome ocd are mostly in vain.

So I recently got a bf and we were hanging out. And then I had to leave and I think he wanted to kiss) make out and I was like well I have to dip, so I think he said maybe like "it'll be quick/like a quick kiss." or something like that and then I was like "dang I have to get back" (I acc did) and he was like "just one kiss? " and I pecked him on the lip. My ocd is like oh that's sexual assault or coercion. I didn't mind kissing him and didn't feel harassed or anything. I don't remember the encounter very well and feel like my ocd is distorting my memory . he mightve just asked once after I said I was late instead of twice. I can't really remember. My ocd is like oh this is sexual coercion and assault. I don't feel that way at all. I didn't feel forced to kiss him whatsoever. I've been coerced before and he's nothing like that. Idk how to tackle this.

Does anyone else struggle with sexual orientation OCD? I am a male who identifies as straight but for awhile Thought that I was bi sexual cuz I thought I was experiencing same sex attraction, but now that I’ve become aware that sexual orientation OCD is a thing and has a name, I can see that that is what I was struggling with. Yet, I’ve still had people say to me that I am gay and this n that, and I don’t know why. Maybe it’s cuz I am not as masculine as other men? Maybe cuz I have a higher voice? Maybe cuz i don’t have that strong alpha male posture? I overthink this. Just cuz someone told me that they think i am gay, doesn’t mean I am. This is where my Sexual orientation OCD kicks in, & I start thinking oh my gosh well if this person n that person n that person thinks im gay, then maybe i am! But the thing is is IM NOT! I am attracted to women and I wanna be married and have kids, & I can see how I have been obsessing about my orientation because of what others have said about me. Anyone else dealt with this?

Hi everyone, I recently went on vacation and had dinner at the hotel's buffet. I selected some seafood and placed it on my plate. After that, I used another spoon to add some fruits to my plate, I think the spoon accidentally touched the seafood on my plate. I'm now overwhelmed with anxiety over the possibility that someone allergic to seafood might use that same spoon for fruits and have a reaction. How do you handle these intrusive thoughts? Thank you.

I wish there was a meet up local to me where I could make friends with people who know/ experienced ocd that I could be friends with? Not for reassurance but just so I can message like ‘you ever think about what faeries do when it’s raining’. I also have adhd so I have intrusive and random impulsive thoughts 😂

The other day I was in the kitchen and the children I work with were in a rush and I was trying to push them out of the kitchen. When that happened, I was nudging them out with my hands and legs. When I was nudging a child forward, I noticed a sensation in my leg near my crotch area that I was pushing, but it wasn’t gratification and it wasn’t sexual. But I feel awful because I recognized the sensation but didn’t move my body. I continued to push forward. Now I feel like I’ve committed a heinous crime. When it happened it was very subconscious and unaware. I was not imploring myself to do anything else or really anything at all. It was just that weird feeling in my leg but I still feel awful that for 2 seconds I continued to push them forward. It’s driving me insane that I feel like I tried to continue to push forward. Now that I’m writing this, I can recognize that I was not trying to be weird or anything and I think my mind is tricking me. But it still SUCKS!!!!!!! I hate having OCD!!!!! I know I didn’t do anything and I’m a good person. But I don’t know how to be comfortable with this one.

i hate the way my eyebrows look and i can’t get them to look right. on the tops of both i keep slightly trimming it because i keep seeing one looking higher than the other and i’m trying to get certain pieces of my eyebrows to be the same height. one looks much more shabbier than the other. I have nobody with me right now. I started a little more than an hour ago and i’m scared it’s going to go on all night. This is so stressful and i’m scared i’m going to ruin something in my eyebrows. Everytime i see my eyebrows I feel they’re uneven and ones thicker than the other. for the past few days i’ve been avoiding even looking at them and i even put a headband over my eyebrows while brushing my teeth. The urge was getting to me because i kept feeling them with my hands without looking at them and i felt something to be wrong. additionally i saw them accidentally a few times and i didn’t like how it looked. eventually i gave in and fully saw them bc i couldn’t stand the feeling of walking around with uneven eyebrows. i need help correcting them, i’ve asked family and nobody can help rn. I’m still standing in front of the mirror trying to make them perfect but i’m scared to ruin something. pls help what can i do to make myself feel it’s correct

Does anyone else’s have like at least one false memory every day? And do anyone else ruminates about something that just happened because at the time the event happened you had an intrusive image and you don’t really know what happened at the moment ? I’m not diagnosed and I’m working really hard but this is super scary and I worry I’m just in denial or being a really bad person

I’m struggling to understand how ERP will work for me, I’m new to this. I’m 2 weeks into therapy and this session we start my first ERP steps and I feel like I can’t seem to grasp the concept because often times I understand my obsessions are illogical but then again I think I ruminate often with it so in a way it’s also self reassurance. For example, my one goal is for POCD and to sit with the discomfort of maybe seeing a kid on social media and immediately panicking over what people may think if I like the video or if I shouldn’t find the kid cute, etc. Well, I feel like sometimes (which I’m not in a super bad depressive state) I sort of stop myself and remind myself things logically to sort of push that stress away… I can’t tell if maybe this is just another compulsion. Writing it down sort of makes me feel like maybe it’s leaning toward compulsion and I just thought it was logic… whoops? Ah idk.

I’ve been with my partner since I was 20. I had one relationship prior to him and little dating experience because I was religious/ covid happened. I’m having extreme OCD that I haven’t dated enough people to see who is truly out there for me/ everyone else has more experience than I do. On top of this, I believe I am bisexual and have never been with a girl (but I have sexual orientation OCD as well so who knows.) What is the best way to go about this that aligns with ERP? Would breaking up my perfectly healthy relationship be giving into my compulsions just to go date others?

Anyone deal with sexual thoughts regarding family members? Makes me sick. I know it’s OCD and I’m constantly trying to remind myself I’ve been here with other content before but it’s so disturbing. Also has anyone had past themes resurface again? Thank you in advance to whoever shares.

I talked to me therapist today and we talked about how my depression is causing my ocd self harm thoughts . I am able to quickly finish my exposure but can not shake off the fear I secretly what to die. I am devastated as I made progress with my ocd in the past but have ever really made progress with my depression. I have had depression since high school and I am in my mid twenties. I will continue to work on my depression but I am worried I will not be able to get relief form my ocd if it is caused by depression. I have tried a lot of meds and therapy’s for depression in the past. If anyone with ocd and depression has good experiences or recommendations. Please let me know.

Today my anxiety is really high. I suffer from hit and run OCD and harm OCD. I started my first session today I’m excited to work on getting better I have been feeling alone for quite some time Is anyone out there from Philadelphia or near Philadelphia?

I get so scared when I confess that I didn’t confess enough. I have to stop. This is good motivation to get out of this loop. Does this happen to anyone else?

Over half a year ago, This girl wanted me to rp a CNC scene with her and to not ask the next time we chatted online. When we started doing that the next time we met, she suddenly left the chat. So Im scared on if consent wasnt given. I remember her saying that she got booted the next time I talked to her, and asking if she wanted to continue where we left off, but im not too sure and I cant recollect it... as a part of the roleplay, she would say "stop" and I think she roleplayed her movements but I dont remember if this was a part of the roleplay, or her genuinely telling me to stop... my friend on the explicit chat site says that since its been over 6 months, that I most likely didnt do anything to hurt her and that I should move on, but my intrusive thoughts keep saying that I violated this womans consent, when a womans consent is the most important thing to me..:

I cannot stop thinking about and judging my girlfriend (almost 23) for sleeping with a 34 year old before we met. She said she didn’t know his age and thought he was younger (I made her find out his age for my own ocd purposes) its ruining our relationship and my view of her. Please someone give me some sort of advice. I thought I was going to break up with her when she told me, but I just am devastated and have no clue what I’m feeling.

Does anyone think ERP therapy costs are really unreasonable? I stopped NOCD because I had BDD concerns, too and now go to another Telehealth therapist who is $225 per session. TWO HUNDRED AND TWENTY FIVE DOLLARS!!! 😡 I got an email about NOCD going to $210 per 1 hour session. It was $170 when I did it, which was already ridiculous and I felt taken advantage of for sure. Am I the only one who thinks this is just ripping off people when they're down and suffering and desperate for help? Doesn't it seem predatory and exploitative? That is a lot of money . . . and I'm now about $8,500 into getting help for my ROCD and BDDBP. The way I see it, $80 a session would be unreasonably high but $225?!?! $210??!? It’s just Insulting and a scam, especially when people (like me) were suffering so much they couldn’t hold down a job and can already barely afford food and rent. Do you agree?

I m scared I have more than just depression I been depressed for too long been trying to fix it but go back and forth with it I m scared I may need in medicine but I m no on it and I m terrific right now :( maybe I have bipolar or who knows

was hugging my cat and she got annoyed and meowed and i got sad and thought how could anyone hurt any animals then i start getting thoughts like u want to hurt one u want to really hurt one even ur own cats and it made me scared but i have little anxiety it made me sad tho. when i was little i had kicked my dog and that came up in my memories and now im scared i will hurt my pets. when i was younger i was weird and i have memories spaced out of me doing weird/bad stuff that i would never do now but it makes my ocd worse. I hate this :(

Has anyone tried N-Acetyl Cysteine for their OCD? My psychiatrist told me to buy it from the store and try it. Wondering if anyone’s had any experience and what’s it like?