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Has anyone’s OCD effect their sex life at all? I have SO OCD and it really have effected the intimacy with my bf because I get in my head to much. I think I need to work on that the most :(

I have recently started to have more frequent bouts of sexual dysfunction with my girlfriend, used to happen once in a blue moon but now seems to be unpredictable (one day yes one day no) and has been causing lots of stress which leads to increase in dysfunction i think (vicious cycle). I take clomipramine, increased dosage 3 ish months ago and this begun about a month ago, also unfortunately began using nicotine again around same time but plan to stop next week(dont know if this is relevant). I have been quite stressed about this and other things and when it comes time to perform, i cant even focus and am just worrying things wont work or something is wrong. I just want to go back to normal and not have one more (large, personally) thing to worry about. Any tips? Im a healthy young male who excercises regularly.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what my sexual orientation is. I love being with the opposite sex. I want to be with the opposite sex but what if I’m suppressing my true feelings? My intrusive thoughts and unwanted urges of the same sex are getting worse and I ruminate day and night. I don’t know if I should be with a man or a girl. And if I was gay, I’ve tried to accept it but yet I still like men. This is TEARING me apart.

Personally ive never wanted to date someone younger then me. Ive always wanted to date someone my exact age or older (not too old) because thats just how ive been. (This post has become triggering and a bit of a vent :( But-since my real event happened. Ive been constantly googling and reading comments on other social medias about age gaps. Specifically two year age gaps. Without going into too much detail i had a a group of online friends and we were in this age range (16-18.) because of the things that happened my pocd is extremely bad and even though i never had any desire to date any of my younger friends or any of my friends in general my ocd has latched onto this specific obsession with age gaps and it makes me sick because of what happened specifically with one of my younger friends, even though i never dated or ever wanted to date them. They were always just a friend. But this obsession is still there and im really struggling with it. And i feel gross and nasty for even being friends in the first place which isn’t right because they and my other younger friends i knew at the time were nice people. Now that im writing it all out i just keep comparing myself to my cocsa event that happened to me when i was a kid. I wont go into detail obviously but the kid that hurt me then was also two years older than me (i was 8 he was 10 :( And maybe this obsession is also because of that? Ik when my real event happened i kept comparing myself to him and how im like him now-my brain is telling me im just asking or sympathy ot worse as excuse as i mention this but i dont want to believe that-i dont even know what im talking about anymore im just very triggered right now. I just feel like what happened lumps me in with that kid now. I feel like a few people on here can relate to this obsession with age gaps? If you do how do you deal with it so you can stop? Because it seems that even telling my brain and reminding myself that i never want to be in that kind of relationship-it still doesn’t matter. Has anyone had experiences like this i hate feeling like im the only one

I use self pleasure as a coping method…temporarily release/relief. I can become hyperactive within a day that can lead to days… tbh I’ve done this since I was a child and well to unknowingly but feeling wise … temporarily cope with feeling lonely. Inexperience with another human… that sort of “regular relationship “… romantic ~friendship kind if it even exists or I created and still yearn for. I realize I don’t want to response in this way even overworking my self doing other activities outside of sex. Reality is I’m not perfect… I try to create new ways to cope, still use some old things as well but… sometimes nothing works. I also know It’s not meant to fulfill this part of me. I don’t want them to b/c well there passions first & coping methods 2 if you understand what I mean. I get sad just saddens… frustrates me at times both because what else am I suppose to do? act? or say?. I’m in an ever-changing relationship with myself … I’ve made some profound growth for the best of me…welp this is just something I can’t control nor change, I just deal with daily. Dating/spiritually is just too … 😶 no words. Falling in love with someone, they feel the same but there’s long distance and other factors… both wanting to do anything to support the other but one understands burnout/burdens just self-health is important (me). I love them more to not want them to work even harder if anything choose them self … b/c that’s love too 😩… ugh jeez… This is my first entry here b/c why not in the moment … I feel comfortable using this space as another outlet I guess. If any one else feels this way, learning about yourself through relationships or not being in one either way I’m not perfect and well you’re not alone. I get lonely too. Note: this kinda all over the place … if you understand well thank you. 🪞🫶🏽

Has anyone ever acted on their thought. I used to make them pop up out of self destruction and now I feel they’re not intrusive but a part of me now and I acted on a thought and now ocd is telling me I’m gay and I can’t be with my bf even though I know even though I don’t feel it I don’t like women.

I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?

Hello everyone. As i’m sure some of you have seen i have intrusive thoughts about school shootings and im wondering what i need to do in this particular situation. when i go with my mom to pick up my family members from school i get really anxious and the intrusive thoughts get worse such as how i would do that and where in the schools because i went to these schools as well and its absolutely terrifying. i know that i need to be exposed to going around schools and such to over come this but its really hard, is that what ERP feels like and you just sit with that discomfort? im kind of confused on the concept of ERP and what i need to do in this particular situation. i dont know anything about guns or ever have an intention to act on these thoughts or follow through with them in any way but it seems like they keep popping up and making things 10x worse then the day before.

I’ve been suffering with SO OCD for a while now and the thought of late in life lesbians really scary me like what if this is all real and that’s going to happen to me. My boyfriend and I are about to hit 2 years and I’m scared for the future. :(

I (15M) want to get help but I’m scared of punishment. I live in Arizona and I think I have ocd and it’s making me go insane. First off I hurt so many people in my freshman year of highschool I was overly sexual and went too far over texts being way too open with myself and the reason I was probably overly sexual was maybe because when I was 8 or 9 I was shown explicit content by my older brother and I think that gave me compulsive sexual behavior disorder cause I got addicted to it but idk if I deserve sympathy cause my little brother was also shown it at the same time I was and is not a bad person from what I can tell. But yea when I got into highschool idk why I thought I could be so sexual and not see an issue with it and I hurt 3 people because of it 2 of them said they don’t care about it anymore and just found it annoying (I still feel guilty what if they are lying to me to make me feel better) and the third one doesn’t want to talk to me ever again and I deserve it I scarred him for life. And before highschool I begged a 16 yr old for pictures and this is when I was like 13 or 14 and I was so persistent with it and honestly kinda Manipulative (my friend says not to feel bad cause he was grooming her kind of but I still feel bad) and then in highschool I begged a 17 yr old for pictures this was when I was 14 and I gave him my friends ass pics because I wanted pics from him and he agreed ( my friend was 15/14) and I lied saying it was my friends little sisters and my friend told me she could get his pictures for me and I agreed and we later stopped cause she felt uncomfy and we both thought it was honestly gross I think and then he got upset and said he was gonna send her sisters pics to her to make her upset or blackmail her and I got scared and told her what I did and she felt sick and I told the guy what I did and told him I was gonna cut myself and he told my friend what I said and she told me not too and that she forgives me and I feel so bad cause that’s so wrong she felt she had to forgive me. After that the guy said he was manipulating me the whole time so I would feel guilty about what I did later. And now I feel so much guilt from everything and how I hurt so many people I hurt my little brother I was so rude and mean to him and yet he still loves me and I’m having thoughts on what if I’m a child predator or what if I sa’d my baby cousins or sa’d my little brother (besides the time I did cocsa when I was 9 or 8 and he was 6/7) or what if I sa’d someone at my school and these thoughts keep repeating over and over and it feels so real cause I think I’m honestly a monster and it’s not fair how I can keep walking the earth with innocent people

Tomorrow is my bday I don’t feel like celebrating because every year I m still struggling with my mental health no changes whatsoever I tried so hard and still stuck with health ocd and other issue is like a never ending cycle right now I m having some health issue which made my ocd even worse why I can’t just be happy and normal and I nipt life without ocd why I m no living I m surviving and is so exhausting

Has anyone ever struggled with ROCD & then went through a legitimate troubled period in their relationship? (Where the ROCD may have been a factor) I know all relationships have their ups and downs, but personally the downs for me are much harder than I would assume the average girl because I obsess over whether it means we aren’t good for eachother, if it makes us a toxic relationship, etc

It’s not tinnitus. It goes away immediately as soon as I wake back up. Kinda sounds like windshield wipers on slushy window, steady waves of that sound, and only gets louder and louder the more I drift off to sleep. The second I realize the sound is “pulling me in” I wake up and it’s completely gone. So it’s my brain producing it, but my ears hear it, if that makes any sense. It’s not just a noise getting louder that you can ignore if you want, it’s like it overtakes your whole head and it’s freaky. Very unsettling. Can anyone relate? I assume it’s just a brain having a hard time shutting down to sleep (?) Thanks all Kinda scared to sleep now

My biggest fear is developing a depressed mindset. I associate depression with suicide so I’m terrified of both. So many of my friends are depressed and want to end their life so the possibility that I could be like that to bothers me. I’m scared of not knowing myself and my own capabilities. Like what if one day I am sad and hate my life?! Not knowing is truly a scary thing for me. I’m scared of rope, and balconies. Because I’m scared of harming myself. My intrusive thought is more like what if I am depressed and I don’t know it and I snap and hurt myself. My imagination takes over, and I can almost replicate the feeling of depression. Like a warning that I don’t need. I think I have empathy for others then the empathy becomes self fear. Because there is always a “what if” or “do I want to” or a “am I”. Even though I know I love my life, find joy in so many things, look forward to the future, my depressed fear comes on and I feel like someone I’m not, which leads me to the fear of hurting myself! Anyone else relate? Or have tips they used to overcome suicidal/fear of depression OCD?!

Around this time last August, I had a terrible OCD relapse. It got to the point where I didn’t see the point in living anymore. I had everything I had dreamed of a house, a lovely fiancé, a good job and a decent amount of money coming in, so why was i feeling like I didn’t deserve or needed to leave my life? I have suffered from intrusive thoughts all my life but I have particularly struggled since the age of 19 when I started to have sexual intrusive thoughts. I didn’t understand what was happening, the more I tried to make these thoughts go away, the more aggressively they came. I would stay awake Googling all night and not sleeping. I carried on with life but was doing mental compulsions constantly. Every 6 months I’d have a big relapse where I would be so anxious that I couldn’t eat, sleep or take care of myself. I had never been open about my intrusive thoughts with anyone. I had therapy and didn’t tell the therapist the extent of my intrusive thoughts as I thought I would be sectioned or that my thoughts would be confirmed as truth. So I talked about generic things like checking doors, the gas and my hair straighteners. Where really I was worried that my whole life was a lie that I wasn’t attracted to my partner, that I could be gay, that I could be an evil person etc. Anyway, my big relapse happened a year ago, I was trying to plan my wedding but felt like a fraud. It got to a point where I couldn’t keep it in and broke down to my fiancé, I told him all my intrusive thoughts, my worries that I didn’t love him, I gave him permission to leave me when that was the last thing I wanted. I now know what true love is, he was amazing he told me he wouldn’t leave unless that’s really what I wanted. He supported me, I sought out therapy again, although it was hard I opened up, my GP diagnosed me with OCD. It didn’t get better over night, I still struggled for months on end, trying to put in to practice what I had learnt from therapy, there were many dark days. The support system that I had once I opened up was the best thing I could of hoped for my mum was incredible as was my partner. I am getting married next May, I am planning my wedding, I have bought my wedding dress, I feel like me again. I can be at peace alone without constant thoughts running through my head. Today I went for a walk alone and read a book on a bench, something I could never of done a year ago. I’m retraining as a counsellor as I hope to help people in the way I was helped! I want to raise more awareness to ocd as before my diagnosis I had no idea people had the same scary thoughts that I did. It gets better, keep pushing, do your ERP it won’t get better over night but trust the process give it time!

They haven't said anything to me or about me in two days even though I've been gone for two days, I coube dead and they still haven't said a word about me. I don't understand why they won't even ask, I know I'm overreacting but shouldn't they know by now that this isn't normal behavior? I can't help but overreact because I showed many signs and even said that I was having a really bad time but they don't care, they didn't even say anything when I talked about it a little in the voice chat. I just want them to ask if I'm okay because then I'd know that they'd wanna hear but they haven't asked so that must mean they don't wanna hear me and they don't care about me I've gone a month without my Prozac, I can't do this anymore, I wanna be gone

My ROCD got very bad a few weeks ago when my husband had to go the hospital and had lied about drinking alcohol. Right after that, and old colleague of mine started texting and flirting with me. I didn’t stop it right away. I used him as a potential scapegoat in my mind if anything went wrong with my husband. I didn’t cheat, but even after my husband has forgiven me I’m still stuck in a cycle of going over everything that happened and checking if I lied or trying to remember if I lied. Has anything like this happened to you? My anxiety won’t go away when I think about the situation, which has been constant.

I had a very bad what if this morning questioning weather I believe in my heart that God raised Jesus from the dead, and now I'm questioning everything my faith and everything about it and I hate this thing, I was so certain 1 hr ago and now I'm scared I never had faith in the first place. If anyone has had similar experiences pls give me some advice on what to do.

I know reassurance is bad but can someone please walk me through and help me with this specific situation because it's so bad and im so scared something bad did actually happen to me but I don't know. is this real event ocd?? is this denial about being sa'd??? I can't tell what is happening.

I need help I feel so bad I'm thinking about situations with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do and if they were really bad situations or not.