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Does anyone think we are Selfish for worrying so much about our problems. Or is this jus my ocd?

How do you know the difference between OCD thoughts and Intellectual conflicts that anybody could go through? especially if you're someone who loves philosophy and morality delimmas? and also as a young adult who experience a quarter life crisis and/or identity crisis and struggle with changing and growing up, How do you know if what hitting you OCD or something of those?

before you read please don’t if you’re not in a good headspace or struggle with ocd doubt!! does anyone else get like this with repetitive things in your head. like i have a confession compulsion and randomly literally all the fucking time i remember random stuff that i feel like guilty for then get the urge to confess then have to stop and wait for it to pass bc it will but then i feel so guilty and like a liar and a bad person for not confessing then i literally go bat shit crazy like hello. idk what’s real or what to feel bad for idk who i am or what im doing or like if im a bad person who’s acting like im not or if im not and im obsessing over random things, and even if they aren’t random and maybe something i wouldn’t do again should i confess to every thing ever, btw when i say this i dont mean things like i entertained someone else or anything.

When my intrusive thoughts get bad and I try my hardest to push them out it feels like I’m physically straining my head, like it legitimately hurts really bad and I feel like I get dizzy and can’t think and I can’t stop focusing and then my ocd causes me to think that there’s something wrong with my brain and that I need surgery or to be lobotomized or something crazy like that, does this happen to anyone else?

i had intrusive thoughts about suicide and wonder why i am like this when i truly dont want it i have fear of death etc suicide health anything i see about suicide or someone harming themselves. it triggers and i reflect it on my self at first it was images and urges now it commands and now it making me second guess if its really ocd i did recently get diagnosed with ocd and im in the process of starting CBT ERP and im scared that its gunna make it worse and i see my ocd it’s affecting my rlsp with my partner i took a break from work i dont go outside much now or do the things i enjoy bc im scared of having a panic attack and i look at everyone enjoying life and laughing and im stuck in my head about things i dont wanna think about ive been on this app for a while and it does help but i find myself excessively looking at people stories and comparing if its what im going through i would spend hours an hours on google comparing suicidal ideation and ocd and if i read something my mind starts getting stuck on that making me feel like thats what i have several times i felt i needed to go to hospital but ik im not suicidal and i dont want them to treat me crazy and now it sounds like i want reassurance lol but i guess i want some advice to get myself out of the thought loop so ican be more present ive tried meditation ive tried grounding techniques maybe im not being paitent with myself i have had obessions in the past and i was good for about 10 yrs and noticed these thoughts back in 2022 but was able to brush em off and at the time i was stressed about looking for a job then my dad passed away in nov andi got real bad urges especially if i had dreams about him but inwoukd be about to get myself together an was confused on what this was and then i watched a tv show and someone hurt them selves and i opened up to my partner about what ive been feeling and then i saw someone brother on facebook commit suicide and its been a crazy spiral from there. i guess my episodes have always been something about ive seen or heard or fears.

So yesterday at night I was okay I just had a mini headache and I was stressing all morning and worrying due to other reasons plus I’m on my menstrual cycle I don’t know if that helps any better. I was watching some videos and I started thinking about what’s my purpose here in life like why do we live if we are gonna die and what is my purpose and I don’t wanna die so I turned around to my safe space my husband he was sleeping already and I hugged him to feel better and all of the sudden it felt like I provoked it or like I made myself think it to harm him and I started freaking out because I was like what no I don’t wanna do that do I actually that’s the love of my life he’s my safe space I love him what would be my life without him and I started getting really bad BUT BAD urges to do it and like my mind was running like to 1,000x I started crying I was having a mini silent panic attack I wanted to stand up and run or do something to get out of my head I wanted to wake him up to reassure me I just felt like I was really gonna snap and like I was gonna stand up and do something like I felt it in my heart and I pressed the SOS button and after I was still kind of freaking because I was like well if I do it everyone is gonna hate me im gonna go to jail and I started freaking out because I felt like I couldn’t control myself cause the urges felt so real and writing it right now I feel it again and I’m really scared I go to a physc because I can’t control myself which yesterday I managed to do on my own but I feels so horrible to think that and I feel like a truly horrible person because they’re thoughts but the actions could be so real and I can’t I was doing a lot better :( I really was I don’t know what happened I want this all to go away and like I try to tell myself it isn’t real why would I act on them and I don’t know if my ocd gets mad and like tries to tell me they are and that I could do them and I really don’t want to I don’t want to do them that’s the truth.

For some reason. The thoughts don’t give me anxiety anymore, wondering if I’m attracted to something doesn’t worry me anymore, I don’t even feel attracted to anything anymore, I always feel a sense of doom whenever I see a picture of a kid, don’t ever try to purposely find any of it attractive, but now my brain make me feel like I don’t care anymore, like I accepted the fact I’m a bad person, that I like these things, and would be into these things, but I don’t want to be. I don’t want to be these things. But why does it feel like I don’t care anymore? Why does it feel like I don’t care that I’ll turn into this person? Like I don’t have an anxiety anymore I asked myself if I found these things. I actually attractive, responded with yes and it felt like a yes, and it doesn’t give me an anxiety anymore??? Like it makes me feel like I accepted it and that I am a bad person, but I don’t wanna be a bad person??? Like it accepted the fact that I’m going to be attracted these things, I’m not attracted to these things??? it’s so complicated. I don’t understand. Why does it feel like I don’t care anymore? I feel like the only person who cares in my body right now? Like I’m not worried I’ll be a bad person anymore inside I’m not, but outside I do care to be a bad person??? I’m so scared. This means I’m gonna turn into a bad person. I know I’m not, and I will never be one. But why Is this happening? Is it a positive reason? negative reason? It just makes me feel like I wouldn’t mind him to be a bad person. But I would, but I just isn’t making me feel that way??? I can’t tell what it means anymore? I don’t wanna be a bad person. I don’t want to be. But every time I get a picture it’s just like I don’t know what to think anymore. Please help me.

For two years, I didn't have ocd symptoms and I was practicing mindfulness, no avoidance and occasional exposures on my own related to the theme and my intrusive thoughts and feelings got way lesser and I didn't have the symptoms for two years and I was doing compulsions related to meta ocd now and then, now my ocd is back again and I'm doubting the recovery process, if I can recover and fear of ocd taking over my life. So now my ocd wants to compulsively check if I'm getting better, if I'm doing the recovery right, if recovery is possible and if I even recovered from real event theme as I was only feeling better and ther was no doing better and it was just time when my ocd was gone. But if you ask me, I would say I can live with my real event theme thoughts and I don't have any triggers regarding it. I know this is my ocd speaking, but did I actually recover from my real event theme ocd or not?

So I’m new to this platform and my ocd is getting extremely bad and out of control to the point where I can’t stop my mind and I just go to sleep crying night after night. I can’t get help because it’s super embarrassing to admit and my mom wouldn’t believe me and what if the doctors don’t believe me? What if nobody believes me and they think I’m stupid or crazy? How do I tell them I need help? I’m 14 years old and I’m scared and I don’t know what to do, I’m on this platform because I feel like somebody on here might know something and I urge you to please help a girl out

I have had soocd for 5 years and it impacts me all day everyday every minute. I’ve read that some people only have it 1-2 times a month or for like two seconds a day and it scares me that I don’t have ocd. Because mine is legit constant and so scary

Why is my brain telling me that I wouldn’t mind being a p, that I could live with it and be fine with it, and I am really a p because my situation is too unique…. I didn’t agree with it but I allowed myself to think about this, and it just made me feel like I did agree to it. I’m worried that I’m lying to myself, I really don’t want to turn to into this person, my WHOLE LIFE i was attracted to older people and never ever felt this way until now (false attraction) it makes me so convinced and it puts me in a dark space. It’s hard to think right now.

So I’ll be watching callout videos and I’ll get these sorta intrusive thoughts and feelings as if I’m defending or sorta wishing the allegations weren’t real… why? I don’t know…. Is this an effect of ocd? I don’t actually agree with a single action these losers do and like this has to be a new intrusion cause before my reaction was pure hatred and frustration… Honestly I’m extremely uncomfortable with the way my brain views these callouts…. I don’t agree with my brain but it feels like my own thoughts….

+18 TRIGGER WARNING I’ve been trying not to post as much on here, but it’s been a rough time facing these thoughts on my own. I’ve been trying to force myself to move on and not take my thoughts so seriously but it’s hard not to sit with them. Basically, to try to cope, I’ve been watching expose videos on internet drama and those who have been “cancelled”. Sometimes, though, it can just get to be too overwhelming as I start comparing myself with the people in these videos and I just want to cry because I’m just so disgusted with myself. I’m starting to question what’s real or not, if I’ve hurt people in the past or not, and separating my thoughts from my actions. I don’t trust myself anymore. I can’t find happiness in anything. I just keep pushing my friends and family away because every little thing triggers me. Sleep is the only time that I can find peace. Because then, I know that I’m not hurting anyone—including myself.

So I started using tampons but I don’t know how to insert right yesterday I was wearing one and it felt super uncomfortable so I took it off like 2 hours later and today I did it again and but took it off by the like the 5 minutes or 10 max because I seen that if you wear it wrong you could get TSS and I took it off and now I’m worrying because I seen that you could get TSS from taking out dry tampons so from that I was so worried and stressing I always take Magnesuim glycinate at night 400mg and today thinking I was gonna take another one I don’t know why I took that one I took it again at 12 pm and last night I took it like at 10pm now I’m scared something is gonna happen to me or I’m gonna die or od of it which it’s possible and I’m feeling cramps from the Magnesuim but I’m also on my period which makes it 10x worst ugh I’m very stressed I don’t know what to even worry about because I know you could also get cramps for TSS and back pain and I’m getting it ugh guys idk what to do I’m so overwhelmed

How do I not allow my ocd to steal the joy out of all of my most joyful moments right now. I know I should pray more for God to help me see the good and peace these amazing situations bring, but I just can’t get this pit out of my stomach. I get angry easily and have a short temper, I hate it. My boyfriend has been so patient with me but although he says it’s okay and he understands it’s still something I don’t want him to be on the receiving end of… Please help. Any and all advice is appreciated, please be nice💕

Hey everyone! I just wanted to share this because I thought some people may find it helpful. Compulsions are what many of us do/have done to try and banish feelings such as distress, anxiety, guilt etc… following obsessions such as unwanted intrusive thoughts. Compulsions tend to feel very urgent, am I right? You feel like you won’t be able to move on without doing it, or you might fear that something terrible will happen. So many of us fall for this trick that OCD always wants us to do. This is how it works: 1. An obsession pops up. 2. We feel anxious/scared/guilty etc etc.. 3. We feel like we need to do a compulsion to get rid of that unwanted feeling of discomfort. 4. Our anxiety and stress levels decline for a short amount of time. 5. Another obsession pops up… Then the cycle continuously repeats…. Being someone who has suffered from OCD for 10+ years, and only in the last 6 months being able to stop doing compulsions. I will let you in on a fact, COMPULSIONS DO NOT HELP YOU. Compulsions only adds to the strength of OCD. They do not prevent anything bad from happening! They do not benefit us! They do not make us feel better, they actually make you feel worse in the long term. They are declining the quality of your life! Honestly, I understand how hard it is to stop doing them. The feeling that you need to just do a compulsion “one more time”. I honestly get it, but when you genuinely think about it, what does a compulsion solve? Does flicking the light switch on and off 7 times really have any impact on a loved one being hurt? NO Does thinking a thought really make you a bad person? NO Does mentally/physically checking that thing over and over again help you gain clarity? NO (it actually makes you more confused). I just wanted to share this with you guys, because sometimes it can be really difficult to stop doing compulsions. At first, you might not be able to stop doing them completely and that is okay! You might just want to delay doing a compulsions. Instead of doing a compulsions as soon as possible, try and give it 5 minutes. Try and mess up the compulsions, do it in a different order at first. The main thing we have to do here is teach your brains that compulsions DO NOT keep you safe, they are stopping you from living the life you want to live. Compulsions are like impostors, they try to convince you they are genuinely there to help you, but in fact, all they do is make you feel worse. If anyone is struggling with compulsions whether they are mental or physical, just know you are not alone! You have the strength to choose not to do a compulsion, and you will see how empowering it is once you realise that nothing happens! We are not perfect! Do not feel like you have to be perfect! I still engage in compulsions here and there, especially when I have a bad day. But majority of the time? I am pretty much compulsion free😁 Always strive for progress over perfection!

Please help me. I feel like it’s one thing after another I just recently discovered that I may have OCD which have explained a lot of my excessive behaviors. When I used to be with people I used to obsess completely over them where my mood depended on everything they do, but I have found myself in a relationship where I’ve seen this behavior destroy my other ones and my mind is not obsessed the way it has before. This is good because for the first time I am in a healthy and loving relationship but I just had a OCD flare up, it went from fear of losing attraction, to fear of me cheating, to fear of me finding others attractive, to me having straight thoughts as a gay woman (and I’ve always been homosexual) and then switching to POCD. I’ve noticed that in my past I’ve always had to be obsessed with something, even in this relationship I was obsessed over my partners past relationships. How do I brake what feels like a never ending cycle of obsession so that I can live in the moment with my partner and have my mind only belong to her and my life but in a healthy manner. How do I stop spiraling and be the partner she deserves? My mind is my worst enemy and goes against all my values and the things important to me and her. How do I just live in the moment and stay loyal to her in thought? Please help me get a healthy mind for our sake.

On my last post a couple of people said I should do ERP because of the many clear signs of my OCD, but what type of ERP can or should I do for mental compulsions? Because I'm not sure what exactly triggers my thoughts and also how to not respond, and I feel like the "trigger" is anxiety and not actually by anything in particular, it was be helpful if someone could help with this, somebody who knows a lot about ERP too and how to stop doing mental compulsions and having anxiety of even thinking about them. Thank you if anyone can help 🩷

So anxiety wise I had been doing so well. I wasn’t as bad as I had been in the past. My ocd stems from the fear of going crazy or developing schizophrenia. About 2 weeks ago I had something odd happen where I woke up and was getting ready for work and I had been seeing this zig zag thing in my eyes and then I couldn’t talk or type anything everything was jumbled. My boyfriend realized and I was able to tell him we need to go to the hospital. In the car on the way to the hospital I started feeling tingling in my right arm that spread to my fingertips. The whole time this has been happening I have a headache that I would score 2/10 nothing crazy. At the time I wasn’t sure if I had insurance or not but was under the impression I didn’t because I had just quit my part time job and was working PRN, I got stroke alerted at the hospital and they did a CTA and EKG and everything came back negative. The doctors told me they recommended an MRI to rule out a TIA but they didn’t think that it was one due to my age etc. due to the fact that I thought I didn’t have insurance I turned it down. The following day I was able to get my PCP to order me one and figured out my insurance situation and got the MRI done which also came back negative. My anxiety now is that what if I did have a TIA (mini stroke) and it’s just not showing on a scan because they self resolve so sometimes they don’t show up. What is worrying me is I’m not taking anything because they don’t think it was a TIA and they believe it was a complex migraine. I’m so anxious all the time hyper aware of every symptom I have. It’s been almost 2 weeks and I’m just so scared all the time.

Does anyone else feel like they have to video/have constant surveillance on what they're doing every second of every day so they can review it later if they need to? Ever since December, whenever I'm not in my room, I feel like I have to video everything to review later just so that I have proof for myself that I didn't do anything bad/touch something contaminated/miss a step in one of my routines. I almost never look at the videos again afterwards but I feel like I can't delete them so now I have thousands of videos on my phone of whenever I'm not in my room and I'm running out of space and concerned about what to do next :(