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hello !! usually i dissapear for like three months and come back, but iām gonna try to stay active lol :) iām ingrid, and i had SEVEREEE sexual orientation for two years, and itās been a year or so of post-recovery !! i used exposure and response therapy, so if anyone would like to ask anything i would LOVE to answer !
I canāt do this anymore Iām done fighting
The ROCD advice in a recent video was to decide what you want and do it - without determining what is right or wrong. This was helpful but then I started thinking how I want to do both options so ended up being triggered thinking how if I donāt know what I want how could I have made any correct choices. I want to leave and I want to stay. What if you are married and falling back into the worst of ROCD? Obviously itās not an easy decision with that much commitment. Last night I told my partner that if I could just let myself I could be happy, almost if I could turn off a part of my brain. However itās like Iām triggered by some annoyance or other multiple times a day. And itās getting really intense in my head. I question everything including my decision to marry. Iām scared and exhausted and only a few months into marriage. Has anyone overcome ROCD in marriage? Or even broken up and has experience? Iām trying to avoid reassurance/checking but I donāt how to not feel so alone and awful of a person.
Has anyone experienced rocd in relation to the intelligence of their partner? I am very frustrated as I feel like Iām watching my partnerās every move and when they do or say something that isnāt intelligent my anxiety and fear grows stronger and tells me that I should break up with them and I canāt handle it. I pay such close attention and feel like Iām waiting for my partner to do or say something wrong. For instance we were at a Christmas event the other day and he didnāt know what a āspikedā drink meant and my brain took it as how could you not know what that means, you are 34 years old. And while watching a football game he didnāt realize they cover the field due to snow and he has watched and played football his whole life. Anytime things happen like this I get so triggered and feel like there is no way I can be with a person that isnāt āintelligentā . Please help. He is super sweet and amazing and is reading books on OCD to try to help me and he knows that I am struggling though this. I have been told Iām smarter than him by others and now Iām so stuck on that comment and his intelligence. Anyone else experience this ?
Has anyone ever had a misdiagnosis interact with their OCD? I currently have an official diagnosis of schizophrenia, which Iāve had since 2007. My current doctor thinks I may only have mild autism or OCD. I have done my research and Iām pretty sure I have both of theseā¦ in fact it is only the schizophrenia that Iām unsure of. I am delusional for sure but I do not hallucinate technically. All this has got me thinking that for all these years Iāve been diagnosed was it just the diagnosis feeding the health OCD? Any stories relating to anything about this would be a great help.
I believe I donāt love him anymoreā¦ That I am lying to himā¦ using himā¦ I believe I actually wanna break upā¦ š¢ Watching law and order.. I know itās a show but I can see how you can convince yourself of anythingā¦ I am scared what if I convinced myself I donāt love himā¦ I donāt love anyone right now.. I donāt feel numbā¦ I love my family but not that much.. I donāt wanna break up with my partner šššš
18+ I don't really share this with much people but when I do they're usually understand, but don't know what its like. I'm glad they don't. I don't want any of them to struggle with what I go through, that being porn. This makes 10 years that this has been a problem for me. Porn is the only thing that keeps my POCD afloat because I'm constantly questioning the age of people involved. Whenever I'm aroused and I unexpectedly see the visual of someone I know is a lot younger than me it just messes me up everytime. I then ruminate about all the possible instances where this has happened and when this has definitely happened when I was very young. This has never been a good thing for me. Porn is what's causing my low self confidence and my low self esteem. It's what makes me shameful and guilty of myself. Porn is what keeps me in my intrusive thoughts and stuck in my head. Porn is what holds me back from being worry free and overall happy. Porn was a big contributor in how horrible high school went for me. What makes it worse is that there's triggers everywhere and the people around me don't seem to really see the triggers and negatives that I do, which is why I don't share it outside my support group and this app. The amount of guilt and shame that is felt whenever I get trapped into this again is immeasurable. Just don't know what to do right now
Im 21 now. Iāve showed signs of ocd as early as 5 years old. From Obsessively fearing touching things cuz of germs, washing my hands till I got rashes, to crying obsessively every night to my mother because I the same bad words or bad things keep repeating in my head, to fearing I was going to go to hell, and so much more my mother just told me to pray it away or that I was crazy :) I was convinced all my life that I was a psycho evil person all my life to the point where I wanted to end my life multiple times. My ocd worsened to harm, relationship, POCD, somatic, and just about everything you could imagine. I wish my mother would have taken this seriously because all of my childhood was violently miserable until I sought out help at 20 years old.
Absolutely nothing. My HOCD and real events OCD is rampant and just triggeringā¦ I have no one who cares or just blocks me. Iām done.
Dear Brothers and Sisters, how are you? Let's put anxiety aside, how are you? Let's make believe ocd isn't affecting your lives right now, how are you? I once heard someone say that intrusive thoughts didn't have physical arms to stop you from doing things, tha k God that's true. We can't let anxiety and ocd stop us from doing what we want. This is hard to do yes, and some of this might sound tough but let's be real how many times have we used the excuse of ocd and anxiety to justify not doing something or avoiding people? Ocd can be crippling some days, but I'm not talking about those moments, I'm talking about the days when we are fine but we just decide to use our behaviors to get in the way of love, of charity. We know the game ocd plays, we know how to not play that game then why aren't we doing it? Let's shake off our comfort my beloved, let's lean on our Lord Jesus to help us shake our fears and face them in therapy, let's ask our Father in Heaven to give us the graces we need to fight ocd and to live to the fullest as He wants us to. We are loved by Love Himself.
It's my 28 birthday and my intrusions have been getting the worst of me today. I feel like I'm losing my mind and for what, another year around the globe losing my mind? Today was supposed to be a good day and I can't help but fester on my intrusive thoughts. I honestly hate life right now and it feels like I was born just to feel this pain that won't go away. I'm sorry is so depressing of a post I just need to let it out.
i have never had actual sex before. but my period is late and iām scared iām pregnant. i feel like my period is trying to start but iām so stressed that iām pregnant that it wonāt.
The three of the NOCD therapists who've license in India don't have a schedule. What am I supposed to do?
Soo twitches sorry really triggered me!!! Now I just keep trying to avoid any post about him, idk if thatās the best thing though, maybe thatās whatās making it worse? I know I just have to accept the thoughts but itās soo scary
Today my OCD has latched onto one of my real events where I havenāt apologized since I very recently remembered this incident from probably about 13 years ago when I was about 8/9. The person involved and I have been on great terms our whole lives and Iām not sure if she even remembers, but I feel like my actions were wrong and I am desperate to apologize or check if sheās okay or if she remembers. Ever since this became an obsession, seeing a message from her or her IG story pop up has been scaring me and Iām so afraid of how to act the next time I see her. Should I reach out and apologize? I donāt want to bring up something now Ans affect her for something she wasnāt initially affected by, I feel like apologizing right now would be more for my sake than hers. But also is the right thing to do apologize when you realize you might have hurt someone? I donāt know the right thing to do and I donāt know if this is OCD, or genuinely the right/wrong thing to do.
itās almost hard to explain how i feel. i feel like iāve been more distant, causing a toll on our relationship. i DONT want to lose him and refuse to think about the fact that we may not end up together. weāve been having more disagreements lately, but i love him. however, rocd convinces me that i donāt and chooses not to see the good in him. lately iāve only been seeing the bad and telling him how he needs to improve, which isnāt fair. i need help. i want to feel natural and in love again. iām afraid because i donāt think about him all day like i used to. itās been 4 years of this relationship and i donāt ever plan on leaving. itās so hard with rocd. i am always thinking about something bad
Does it ever feel like the thing youāre afraid of is unquestionably real? And if you tried to think otherwise itās just you being in denial? How real can OCD feel? Is there even a limit?
(Pseudonyms used to protect identities) (This will only make sense if you understand the BeReal app sry) This girl Tara at work has targeted me ever since I had a casual conversation with her boyfriend at a work party. Tara is also good friends with this other guy Wyatt who I have a crush on. Tara recently had her last day at work, and Wyatt went out of state to see his family for Christmas. I have both Tara and Wyatt on snapchat, but the day after Wyatt left to see his family he suddenly added me on two social media apps (BeReal and Instagram) in the same day. I got really really excited thinking this would be the start of something: Maybe he wouldnāt see me for a while and he wanted to stay in closer contact? Maybe he has some feelings for me? He posted on BeReal today and I reacted to his post. Then all of the sudden Tara tries to add me on BeReal. I denied her request because sheās awful to meā¦but now Iām terrified of what will happen with Wyatt. Did Tara only find me because she could view my profile after I reacted to Wyattās BeReal? ā¦Or did she put Wyatt up to this from the beginning? I already had her on insta long before Wyatt added me. But I only recently had them try to add me on BeReal. Iām afraid of so many things like: what if he only added me to help her stalk me? Even if not: What if she tells him I denied her request and he cuts me off on everything? I feel pre-betrayedā¦. I feel like every time a guy seems to like me Iām either being used or tricked, and it makes me feel so uglyā¦
does anyone else with suicidal OCD take normal life situations and your brain immediately turns them into an intrusive thought related to suicide / harm? for example- say iām going downstairs to get water late at night, my mind will immediately go āi bet your parents hear you and are up worrying about you and think you are going downstairs to get a knife and hurt yourselfā or āyouāre making a loud nose in your room i bet your boyfriend is worried youāre doing something to hurt yourselfā. itās so upsetting and exhausting that my brain relates every single thing to suicide causing me anxiety almost 24/7.
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