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I kept putting off some pretty important paperwork and now I'm beyond stressed because now it's a mess and I dont want to get in trouble or not be able to get what I need. I know that I just didnt do the paperwork for any malicious reasons, there was absolutely no benefit from me just not doing it, but I waited so long that I'm horrified of something messing up. I hate how my OCD prevented me from doing it and is now keeping me scared and I'm beating myself over for it.

I came across a video of multiple women explaining what they felt with men and how they knew they were lesbian, explaining their experiences on dates and stuff. I truly don’t know if my memory is just distorted now or I actually felt/feel the same way that they did, but it seriously feels like I’m not attracted to men at all anymore. If I ever was. This is breaking my heart and I’m crying now because what does this mean for my relationship? I’m doubting entirely now if I ever was actually happy to be dating him and if I actually want to be with him. I was with him just now and I felt safe and comfortable, but the doubts were running in my head and all I could think about was if this is comphet. 7 months ago I had no doubt that I wanted to marry him and now I’m doubting EVERYTHING. I feel like there’s no going back.

I've used the NOOCD app for quite a while now, and the community is okay, by far not perfect, but ok. I have had 3 different therapists 4 times, and the first one, his name was John, and the first time had gone to this app to get a therapist, he didn't show up to our session twice, so we gave up on him and went to a different person, her name was Kathy, and she's more of an action taker which I respected at first, however, because she takes more action than listening what i have to say, she ignores my opinion of her ways of ERP. and because of her, it caused my Meta ocd, which made my life way times worse. So I went to a different business and took a break from therapy, but I went back, and for some reason, they thought it would be a good idea to give me back John. And I trusted the company and gave the benefit of the doubt, but guess what, he didn't show up again, and when finally the company and I got a hold of him and we finally got a session with him, and when we started. He seemed very mad at me, like very irritated because god for big I wanted him to be in our session, and while i was trying to tell him about my HOCD, he seemed to be more in outer space than in the room. the other named David made it worse. I had a problem with Kathy not listening, David is more of a listener than action action-taker. However, David is very negative and likes to ramble on and on. And when I mean negative in our first session he basically told me, "listen, I can't promise we can fix this, but we can try our best." you wouldn't think that's bad but when his other problem, rambling, he likes to repeat himself saying, "AND I mean i can't promise you we'll fix this right?" So yeah that's not very great. and I question if they are a legit and credible company, is there a way I can report this company or something because they can't keep getting away with it? and they like to use the excuse of,” Well don’t worry our clinical team will definitely get to the bottom of this.” Spoiler alert nothing happens actually I saw a review a month later in the NOOCD app and it’s the same problem, the same therapist John who didn’t show up for me, didn’t show up for the kid either!! So im at a point where i cant trust the member advocates, the "licenced therapist" or the clinical support team.

I've never ever thought out this (besides literally the the thing that triggered it) have gotten a groinal during this whole hocd thing which tbh now thinking about it is kind of weird I've gotten weird feelings like I was about to get one but I say through it and would you look at that It never happened I did have a very very bad case of low libido during my first case of hocd (if it even is hocd) Then now since I've kind of relapsed ive had normal libido What's mainly killing me in the romatical part of this and thoughts Ive always wanted to fall in love with a girl But it makes me disgusted even thinking of doing it with a dude but hey Im slowly recovering again I can't wait to get my life back together and for everyone else to as well

So today my boyfriend asked me what my ring size is and said not to think into it to much. And then my sister in law keeps HINTING that something big is happening sometime soon. Maybe I’m over thinking but I think my boyfriend is going to propose to me soon. I have wanted to marry him forever. We talk about marriage and babies all the time. Our six year anniversary is on the 20th. Why is ocd trying to scare me. Like it’s latching onto an exciting thought. I had a real bad ocd spiral yesterday and I’m a bit fragile right now. I think I just need to get back into ERP. But ugh I hate the little sparks of like anxiety or fear that Is trying to grab me.

Ok, so this is a really strange trait of mine, that I have done all of my life, but without ever thinking about it. Now that I have come to the realization of it, I am stuck in absolute ocd over it because Im afraid its so out there, so weird and that I have an unexplainable thing about me. It scares me because if its unexplainable in my mind, that means Im the only one out there with this and that feels scary. It also feels scary to think I view the world so differently. because my whole life I assumed people did this too. That, thats just how we related to people sometimes. Im not going to take the time to write out all the ins & outs as to why this scares me about myself but more so just share what Im talking about to see if anyone can relate to me. Pleeease be nice to me. Ok so since I was a little bitty kid, maybe as young as 4, music has been something that touches me in my soul. I know lots & lots of people are the same way. However, I can hear a song which is mostly classic rock which is what I grew up on, but also pop, soft rock, & sometimes classical. While I hear the song (it has to be a song I really like) I think of a person that I really really like (male or female) and almost romanticize this person (not in a sexual way,) to the music. I’ll get thoughts of them either listening to this song themselves, or thoughts of seeing them while the song plays, or it’s almost like I put them in a video montage in my head while I hear the song. If Im with a person that I like a lot and maybe get fixated on, if my favorite song comes on while Im with them I get really happy feelings. You know that feeling when you visit a place that maybe your favorite actor/singer has been before, lets just say their old highschool or something and you know that you’re walking the same halls that did or you’re touching the same door knob they touched. Sometimes it’s that same feeling of just being with the person when you hear a major banger that you love. It’s like a similar kind of feeling that you’re hearing the music at the same time they are and you’re almost imagining them with the same feelings from the song. (😩😩😩 I fell like this is just getting weirder & weirder and no one is going to understand.) The lyrics don’t have to relate to the person. It’s more so me, loving a song and really being fixated on another person and I can some how combine the two. Even just talking about the song or lyrics with them can also bring up these almost unexplainable feelings/thoughts. Basically, to sum it up, it’s like I will attach deep thoughts/feelings to a person through songs. There is more to it, but I cant find the words to describe the feelings. Is this in deed as far out as I think it is, or is this more a common thing like I grew up assuming it is? Thanks for your input.

I tried my hardest to not post on here. For the last 2 days I’ve tried maybe maybe not. Everyday when I wake up for the first time 10-15 minutes it’s like I’m myself again. I fight off these thoughts and I can think happily. But now it’s getting worse. I hardly feel anxiety but these thoughts still feel very real. It’s like I’m living a life of gay and I can’t think of straight things at all. I feel so much discomfort in Everyrhjng. I don’t see a light out. I can’t even cry anymore.. it makes me forget all those days that I cried for this to go away. I’m still doing maybe maybe not and even sometimes jus saying “Yh I’m gay” it’s jus not helping. I don’t wanna get stuck in the cycle again. Any advice?

My life is awful I just want to be alone everyone at school is just rude to me for no reason and it's hard for me to learn because I have ASP And my Dad doesn't understand and my mom used to abuse me she has my little brother and they are sad because they miss me and my mom wants me to live with her but I can't because I know it'll be bad for them I'm 17 I just want to go to college and live my own and be happy The only people that 100% love me are my teachers at school and my sister but she moved I'm all alone sometimes I feel like I'm better off dead I want to keep on living but it's so hard I know it won't all stop tomorrow or next week want some advice how to be happy it's just not fair

I've been cut off from my OCD therapy because of my eating disorder despite the fact that my OCD is the reason I have one. Today is hard because I'm struggling with ZOCD thoughts again surrounding a character I like. I think I know deep down theyre unreasonable, but my OCD keeps making me doubt myself. I avoid eating to punish myself for the guilt of these thoughts. I cant get OCD treatment until my ED is treated, and on top of that im afraid to tell my mom I have Anorexia, because she has OCD too and I know she'll stress bad if I tell her. My brother has ADHD and she's always worrying about him and other stresses in her life and I feel like I have to be the least concerning one in the family. Things are hard and my meds don't really work. I hate not having support for this disorder.

Hello, I’m 22F. I have always had crushes on men and have dated men. I never really CARED for sex much but I would still do it. I watch lesbian porn or anything that stimulates the girl more/ what I would enjoy. I fantasize about getting with a girl/ wanting to do things with a girl because of how good it would feel. However, I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years. Before him, I used to really like another guy. I can’t differentiate between whether I am lesbian, BI, or just straight with normal fantasies. I can’t think/ imagine myself in a relationship with a girl but I guess it wouldn’t be bad to get with a girl at the same time. Sex is just sex. However, I started having obsessive thoughts about my sexuality 2 years ago since then I’ve been diagnosed with health anxiety also. I don’t know, could it be that I’m just not that into my current boyfriend that it makes me question my sexuality? Is it it possible that he might not be so attractive to me that it makes me feel / think what if I am not straight? How can you differentiate between intrusive OCE or the reality / truth of something?? I don’t recall ever having a crush on a girl but I still see certain men and acknowledge how good looking they are and imagine being with them.

someone pls help. i’ve been dealing with pocd for two months now. it’s very exhausting and is feeling more and more real. it started with images, then a fear of searching something bad and now it’s merged. my brain is telling me to search cp or images so i can prove i’m not a p. what do i do??? i know i’m not and that i don’t want to but sometimes it feels like i want to so i can prove i’m not and stop this feeling. i feel like it’s only a matter of time till i do it, i’ve lost all my emotions and don’t know how to deal with this anymore. this isn’t who i am at all though.

Does anyone get random thoughts of stupid drunken nights and cringe and worry that more happened or that you did something you shouldn’t have? I randomly got a flashback of this night where I was drinking and I remember talking to someone and now I’m worried “what if I inappropriately touched them?” And now I’m spiraling.

Has anyone ever had symptoms of chronic health issues but struggling to get a diagnose? If so, how can you balance the anxiety and the perfectionism of needing to know with also the real normal anxiety of needing to know.

I'm wearing a sweatshirt and after I got to class, I noticed it smells a little sweaty. I just washed it and I think my dryer is making my clothes smell like this, but idk why and some people say it might be bc of mildew, but my clothes were dry before i put them away. now, i'm just scared that my clothes from that load were all contaminated and i already put all those clothes away in my closet/drawers, so idk which clothes are contaminated and which ones are not, but i don't think all of them smell bad. i'm panicking :(

guys, I have a few questions. OCD is such an interesting thing because it is so simple yet so sneaky. The OCD I've been going through recently is (resistance to feelings) "I better not get feelings for anyone because I might lose control and be abandoned" my therapist has got me doing an exposure which is "I will get feelings, fall in love and be rejected" 5 minutes a day, 5 times a day. I noticed the anxiety subsiding but then I do move towards getting feelings and the fears return. Any advice here?

I understand seeking reassurance is not going to help. But I truly feel like I’m just in denial of being lesbian and it’s the most overwhelming and frustrating thing ever. I keep doubting my feelings in the past towards men and I feel things now that I didn’t feel towards women before. Now I find it hard to even imagine being with a man, imagining being with a women feels like what what I’m wanting but I DONT KNOW. My loss of attraction to men is so bad at this point I feel like it’s all true

Is there any online support groups specifically for harm ocd? I have been to some in general OCD support groups, but when people had time to share their story I felt like I couldn’t relate. I feel like if there were more people in 1 group talking about their harm ocd experience I would feel more comfortable and less worried to share my experience. Any suggestions?

Hi everyone! I used to suffer from Harm OCD and now it has changed gears to Health OCD. Long story short: I felt a pea sized lump on the back of my neck, which I’m presuming is a lymph node. I googled it and google said I had lymphoma. That’s probably the worst thing I could have done. Anyway, I’ve been in mental turmoil ever since and I honestly don’t know how I’m making it through each day. I scheduled an appt with a doctor but that’s not until 3 weeks. Do any of you guys suffer from health OCD? Do you guys have any tips? How do you keep yourself from reeling about this? Thank you so much!!!

Hey everyone! Hope your week started well! :) For people taking Sertraline (Zoloft*), I was wondering if anyone else was taking 50mg/day? And what your experiences are/were, if you don't mind sharing please? (When did you start feeling better, did you end up needing more, etc?)