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Hello! As someone with obsessive thoughts who hasn't been officially diagnosed with OCD or anything yet (I primarily have obsessive thoughts that I can't get rid of that have been causing me anxiety for about 3 1/2 months now) what has everyone found to be helpful with these thoughts regarding self help? I'm going to counseling, but she doesn't specialize in OCD, and I'd love to know what ways I can work on my own.

I'm feeling awful. This simply can't be true. If I was in fact bi I'd feel good because of it, but I don't. I actually feel dread by this thought. I don't have any will in being with a woman. Today my childhood friend that I lost contact with told me she's bi. This triggered me so much, got all these images on my mind. I just want to be free from these thoughts, I don't want to keep wondering if I want to be with women, this messes me up so much. I don't want to keep asking myself if this is really hocd or denial or internalized homophobia. I can't deal with this anymore.

I said something out of spite during an argument with my boyfriend and it was really bad and untrue and I’m ashamed with myself because I really hurt him and myself too. I immediately apologised when I realised how stupid I was and he was still upset but he said he forgives me and I need to stop talking about it and move on but I can’t. I can’t get over it and I hate myself and I ruined everything and I wanna go back and I feel like I’ll never be happy again. And it’s so annoying because we were finally in a good place after my rocd and now I’ve ruined it again.

RELIGIOUS I’m scared of God and I’m keeping a safe distance. I’m not leaving him completely I’m just talking to him from far away. If I get too close to him I’ll end up getting hurt. Just because I’m scared of him doesn’t mean I don’t love him either. I want to talk to him but ocd is saying I can’t because I’ve done too many problematic things and he’s judging me for it. So I’m avoiding praying as much as I can. This is painful. I really wish I would’ve come to find God when I was older and I wouldn’t have to question everything he did. I’d just go along with it because I would understand that I have to. Ocd really just fucks Up the idea of God. Completely. It says he’s sending me to hell anyway despite me believing he died and is coming back. It says hes sending me to hell because I’m too problematic. And it says he’s ignoring my prayers because he’s pissed with me. I want Gods attention but not that much attention because then he will see it as a chance to hurt me and call it “ a test of faith.” I even prayed to Mary and asked her to tell God what I need to tell him. Idk how praying to Mary works but I just trusted she told him. I sound so stupid but I’m lost and I just want to leave this alone until I need it. Because this isn’t healthy but I’m scared to make it healthy

Anyone else find it hard to trust their memory? I literally JUST spoke to a nurse who confirmed my old test for trichomonos/trichomoniasis was negative and I’m still like “did you hear her right? Was she talking about the same thing you were? Are you sure you can relax?” My brain can’t accept I’m fine I dunno why

I can’t stop worrying about one day I’ll become schizophrenic...help

I put a trigger warning even though I don't consider this triggering, some people might get upset if they don't agree or can't take on the same outlook because of personality differences. Has anyone ever tried to laugh at their OCD? Or laughed when explaining it? When I was in therapy, my therapist always told me it's a great thing that I laugh when describing my compulsions and obsessions. I didn't laugh on purpose, I just sometimes would find my rituals funny once I spoke them out loud. I realized how ridiculous it sounded. It showed that my rational mind didn't want to take my ocd seriously. A major internal conflict was going on between my logic/reasoning skills and my ocd. I would often say things like "i was worried about (obsession here) but I know it's just nonsense." I would usually chuckle when I rwalized I did something I considered nonsense for hours. This type of realistic outlook and rhetoric really helped me get to a better place. I'll usually call my dad when I need to laugh about my ocd. I used to call him for reassurance, but I found laughing off the fact that I'm worried about "nonsense" helped me heal. My compulsions tend to be external, like worrying about contamination and getting diseases. I'm not so sure laughing off suicidal thoughts, self harm, or anything like that will be applicable but most ocd is kinda funny if you speak it out loud. It kind of helps me dissociate myself with the ocd. It helps me consider my ocd almost a seperate entity than my actual rational mind. I've always seperate the two, they say when you have internal conflict it's like 2 dogs fighting. Which ever one you feed the most wins. The saying goes something like that. I turned a conrer when I stopped feeding my ocd and started feeding my rational mind and challenging myself.

(help please) Guys I’m living a total nightmare, I need your help I cannot Stop stalking my boyfriends most recent ex. I hate that I know that she loved him more than anything and that really really really bothers me. They were together for a year and he broke up with her but like ... I still can’t get over her. Recently she even changed her cover photo on Facebook to my boyfriend’s dogs!!!!!! And she’s with someone else. And I KNOW FOR A FACT she still loves my boyfriend. It’s driving me insane I just want to go punch her in the face!! I want to completely forget about her but I have no idea how!!!!

Hi all - so over a period of nearly eight years, I have experienced intense ROCD (relationship OCD) with my partner. Last week we got engaged, this wasn't a huge surprise as we were talking about it for months in advance. My intrusive thoughts tend to flare up really badly in times of change, even positive change. When we graduated university, when we moved to our flat, and when I started my job are all times I've had flare ups so the fact that I'm having another flare up now shouldn't have come as a shock - but I'm finding it so hard to cope with. The night of our engagement, after about five mins of initial anxiety from the shock, I was on cloud nine and couldn't wait to tell friends and family and begin planning our wedding. However, the next day, the rumination began. "Have I made a terrible mistake, do I really love him, am I just settling, everyone is so happy for us but I'm faking my emotions, if we're supposed to spend the rest of our lives together I should be happy, not anxious, etc." this has totally ruined our first week of what should be the happiest time of our lives. There are zero red flags in our relationship, in fact, the night before we got engaged I remember thinking to myself that I had honestly never been happier. I'm super lucky in that my partner knows about my anxiety, is so thoughtful, and has been constantly reassuring me that all will be well, we've been here before countless times and have always come through. My parents and best friends have also been super supportive as they know what my triggers are, and I've had some lovely messages from them. I'm looking for good coping mechanisms for how to deal with the thoughts and stop putting pressure on myself, as I'm currently stuck in that horrid cycle of endless reassurance and spikes and it's doing me no good at all. Can anyone who has ever been in a similar situation help? X

My friend said I had lesbian energy and I’m not sure why that makes me so anxious

Does anyone with HOCD worry about the times they were homophobic? Like today in my Women’s study class, we were doing the heterosexual questionnaire and then my teacher asked us to fill the blanks in our head. I filled it with homophobic responses because I thought about what my parents or what others might say. But now I’m convinced that I’ve been faking being accepting the whole time and I’m really as bad as my parents.

I have a problem that I'm scared to catch a serious illness like hiv or aids from kissing people or becoming to close to them. It makes me get away from people and I have problems in relationships because I cant trust them if they are clean and I'm too freak... this Sunday I kissed a girl I met on tinder and she made me an scar on my mouth... and now I feel terrible cause if her blood got into my scar I may have caught hiv. I have been 3 days on terrible distress and this sucks... I dont know how to not think about it and I really dont talk to this girl anymore, I checked her mouth 2 or 3 times for injuries or blood (she didn't had any and I dont know if she has hiv or not) but I'm in terrible distress just for the fact that I had an open cut while kissing her and thst kiss could have made me sick with hiv. I really hate this and I hate myself and my decisions of kissing her. And this combines qith my religious compulsions... I'm really hating myself, OCD and illness right now... I'm in big distress and just want to vent a little bit. I just hope I didn't caught hiv from kissing this girl that made me an open cut as I said before but I cant be sure and this makes me crazy.... I just hate it... and hate this thoughts

If you have any questions about ROCD, leave it here! ❤️ I will do my best to answer each one and avoid reassuring you! Thank you

Why does my ocd keep coming back and latching onto to different subjects now it’s a game character, who I thought was cool and it had a love story in the game that was very controversial , but game characters never do this to me

Hey guys this might be a little bit of a long post BUT. I thought maybe we should all try to do something to benefit everyone on here. We should create a list of OCD resources for each other to learn more about how we can manage our OCD. The Idea is to make this one long continuous thread of resources so people who come on here can find infonration they need to take the first step towards successfull management of OCD. I'll be posting first on a separate reply but the Idea is to divide it into such categories as: Websites Books Youtube Channels Apps Podcasts And Ect.. So if you guys would like to join me in this, I strongly encourage you guys to post your rescources here!:)

I can't have one moment of peace without my brain digging up a mistake I've made whether I made it today or 10 years ago. My OCD leaves me completely heartbroken. I have 0 self esteem because it makes me feel like I'm horrible and evil. I know I've done truly awful things but I was a kid. Now all I do is fumble and hurt over every decision. I've become extremely paranoid - I feel the need to delete all social media and photos and traces of myself, for instance. I regret every text message I send. I'm struggling so much you guys. I don't want to post too much but I'm really really struggling.

Hey everyone.... What's your favorite hobby? :) I like to draw, write, animate, and sing. How about you guys?

Okay so having a lil anxiety attack right now because the thought of being gay aint scaring me anymore and now i feel like i truuuly am gay and like i have to come out to my parents and like im pressured by myself and not accepting myself and it feels just too real and idkkk its crazy how i can go from okay to this stage again. I feel like i try not to fall in love with woman and im holding myself back but if i truly was gay wouldnt it just liked the same sex earlier in my life. Like it just happens right? So ive never had that but i feel like im blocking myself from likjng woman but jve never liked them in my whole life so idk what im tryna convince myself. I cant lie, This generation is rlly hard on me when it comes to my hocd. Evergwhere around me people are comjng out and it makes it look like being gay is a huge posibility and that i could easily be gay when u look at how many people are gay. That it wouldnt be a weird case like so many girls are lesbian why wouldnt i be. What would make me straight and them gay? The thing is all these questjoms once were never in my head and all the answers were so clear i didnt even had to ask the questions to myself. But why do i now? Makes me feel like im gay because straight ppl would never ask themselves these questions...

i have been feeling like the ideia of being makes me happy, like my mind says that i want to be gay, but deep down it feels like i don’t. but when i tell myself i don’t, my mind says that i do. it is possible to have hocd and become gay after that ? my mind also says that i always knew that i would be gay, which is a lie because i know i never doubted me being heterosexual

i am confused with how to deal with intrusive thoughts. i think that i have suicidal ocd btw. do i ignore the thoughts, or think that they are not true, etc? i HATE intrusive thoughts soo much. i just never know if they are real or not. i don’t know if I am actually suicidal or if these are fake thoughts. i know that i don’t have the symptoms for people with actual suicidal thoughts, but that’s reassurance which doesn’t really help me!! idk i’m confused, i am always confused. i don’t really know what to trust. so, if anyone knows what to do when you have intrusive thoughts, please let me know!