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I have a big fear of dying and death. Is there anyone out there that isn’t afraid of this? If so, can you please give me your perspective on it?

Eight months ago, I went to dinner with my boyfriend at the time, his teenage daughter, and my friend. I drank way too much to say the least. Anyway, when I woke up in the morning I was mortified and I remembered I was cut off by the waitress. I was so embarrassed that I was that drunk in front of my boyfriend’s daughter. But then my mind started to go all over. I started worrying “what if I did something inappropriate to his daughter.” I ended up staying the whole weekend and spending time with my boyfriend and his daughter. They all assured me I had done nothing wrong but I still had the feeling like I did do something. Then a few days later, I was talking to my friend and she told me I went to the bathroom with the daughter by myself while at the restaurant. This of course convinced me that I must have done something wrong and that my initial fear had to be right! Of course I was reassured again by my boyfriend and his daughter that I didn’t do anything bad. My boyfriend and I are no longer together (was amicable). I am still feeling like something bad happened. I cannot shake it. I keep thinking I did something inappropriate which is completely contrary to who I am. I am worried to be happy because I feel at any minute it will be taken away and I’ll be arrested. I can’t get over this. I try to accept uncertainty but I just can’t seem to get there.

I keep having unwanted sexual thoughts or images in my mind and its really stressing me and my compulsion is to avoid and block the tought the thing is that i am a believer i dont and if do erp i am supposed to facd my thought and let myself think abt it but my rocd male me feel that i will have sins and that i can not let myself think such things so idk what to do abt this sexual thoughts

does anyone have any tips on managing and controlling this? especially if you have said questionable things in the past or as a kid. A long 13 yr friendship of mine is ending and the ex friend really despises me.I can’t help but obsess and ruminate over what I could have possible done wrong even though they’re the one who said hateful things to me. I can’t help but wonder about all past friendships and ex friendships and whether it’s tied to me being a good/bad person. Does anyone have any advice on managing this? I try to reflect on different friendships and why it ended but still end up ruminating on my morality and self. Thank you ❤️

Does anyone else get moments of feeling like they are not normal or like they can’t connect with anyone socially? It’s a little hard to explain but I’ll be fine and suddenly the world feels so far out of reach. I hope it’s not just me. Knowing this is something that does happen to people with ocd would help me change the way i handle this. 😥

Trans OCD is so isolating and even more so as a nonbinary person. Just because I like some masculine terms/pronouns, I know that doesn't mean I'm a boy but it just triggers me into thinking I'm a trans man, and that scares me. My compulsions don't even bring me relief. I was having an alright day but the anxiety got to me. I wish I could have the answers. I know I can't, but ... yeah. It almost feels like a joke that I'm nonbinary and going through trans ocd.

I just recently got into a new relationship. While we were still getting to know each other and before we started dating, I still had different guys adding me on snapchat. I added one guy back, went to open his snap, and it was an inappropriate picture. I immediately unadded him and stopped adding anyone else back. Now that me and my current boyfriend are dating, I feel like I “cheated” even though I didn’t and did not choose to see that image. My OCD is telling me I don’t deserve to be with him and to break up with him. The guilt is weighing on me and I want it to go away. Will this get better?

Is it normal my ocd's been switching so aggressively last week Like almost every day it switches I accept a thought and learn to cope with it and a new more horrific one appears I for the first time in twelve years decided to go see a psychiatrist to treat my ocd since it first manifested Do you think this is normal?? It was usually pretty moderate, only switching around 2 themes and wasn't so aggressive since I managed to keep it quiet ir ignored it for almost all my life But it feels like just as I decided to treat it it got a lot worse Also intrusive thoughts feel much more repulsive now, like they are now more scary to me and they're triggered by almost anything This is hell

A few weeks ago I put up a post asking about what I suspect is depersonalisation after a really bad OCD episode, the main advice I got was to wear the depersonalisation and be okay and happy about it being there and it’ll go away. I tried that and it didn’t work, every time I try to act like it’s not there it just gets worse and worsens the worst part about it that I have been experiencing which is a loss of my identity, it makes me feel even more distant from my identity. I feel like I have really bad brain fog that’s preventing me from being able to process and understand those emotions I was experiencing during that bad OCD episode that made me go into what I suspect is depersonalisation. And just a quick note, I feel like what’s preventing me from going out of this whole depersonalisation is the fact that I feel like my bad OCD episode hasn’t been resolved and processed, I feel like I’m mentally still in that bad episode but physically I’m here right now. Any advice? :) thanks so much in advance.

Has anyone overcame this theme? Or been thought this theme? I have a fear of schizo and now I’m just constantly scanning to see if I hear things. It’s so bad I constantly pay attention to every single noise and can hear everything now because of this theme. I’m constantly scanning and even my inner voice/ imagination has scared me because I think “what if this is schizo” I’m so scared of everything due to this theme

How do I overcome false memory pocd. The thoughts make me sick to my stomach, cause me distress and a lot of anxiety. I know we are supposed to practice acceptance of uncertainty but the thoughts or actions are too evil to deal with if it were true. Its not who I am.

About 4-5 months ago, I was walking to the grocery store and I noticed a tiny newborn pink runt mouse or maybe rat right on the curb. Eyes closed, must’ve just been born, but no mother in sight (which is why I assume it was the runt). There were a bunch of cars making the right turn for freshman move-in day at the college I live near. I had a dilemma — should I take this rat out of harm’s way and put it on the sidewalk? But then what if someone steps on it? Since it’s a runt and its mother is nowhere to be found, wouldn’t it just starve to death if I move it and it doesn’t get hit by a car? The only ethical choice was I have to pick it up and adopt it, but then I was like I don’t know how to even care for it and I may just cause more harm by doing that. Also being the stupid people pleaser I am, I didn’t want to “inconvenience” the oncoming traffic of stressed out parents moving in their kids. So I made a split-second decision and I just kept walking. I didn’t pick up the runt. I had a feeling it would get run over, and I almost turned around but I didn’t want people to look at me like what is this weird girl doing (if you can’t tell, I care way too much about what other ppl think of me). Anyways, I was walking back from the store, and of course, the runt had been run over and was completely dead. I feel like it was completely my fault for not picking it up and adopting it and I feel like I manifested the car to run it over too bc I had the thought that it would. I still think about this every few weeks or so, and I feel like a murderer. The guilt I feel about this event weighs so heavily on me. I have considered adopting a pet rat to “undo” my immoral behavior, but I know the regret and guilt would keep coming back even if I compulsively rescued a rat and it wouldn’t even be enough. What do I do?

I just recently started Zoloft and all of the sudden it’s like all my OCD is gone… which is a good thing, but it makes me feel like I made my OCD up in my head? Im not sure if that makes sense, but I’m just not getting triggered by the things I used to get triggered by. I’ve only been on it for a week, I am just curious if anyone else has experienced this?

What can I say to my 30 something daughter when she says she won’t go in my car because my bag touched the floor near where a ladybug died and I put my bag on the passenger seat. Now the seat is contaminated. She is living with me right now and not driving.

What is the difference between the two? For our mental health we have to be aware of our feelings but then theres the compulsion that we checking how we feel, what emotions we have, and i do that alot but i do it to be aware of my emotional state and to not become numb or to just be aware how i feel cause its bad if you dont understand your emotions. But i feel like it might me checking and not normal awareness but im afraid of stoping it cause then i will stop being aware of how i feel and i will avoid my emotions(cause it happened when i tried to ignore fear)

So I’m going through a little bit of a rough patch. I did an ERP exercise yesterday and it went good but I still feel like my mind is everywhere all at once, all these awful thoughts nagging at me but sometimes especially today it’s like there just noise in my head so I’m letting the anxiety be there but as soon as I have an intrusive thought I’m like ya no I’m not listening to that or thinking about that today and I continue on with my day, I’m not sure if that’s ok or if that’s avoidance because I’m not thinking about the thought if that makes sense but then in the same breath if I’m thinking on it and be like ok I’ll let the thought be there and see how I feel in my body is that not checking and rumination? Almost like I’m checking to see if that topic still makes me anxious?

Do you ever not give into a compulsion then feel extremely guilt like you did something bad? I was working at my desk and my child wanted my attention. They were putting their toys on my knee and thigh. I was trying to multitask and not worry so i didnt move. Then the anxiety increased and i meant to say please stop. At first i said please and then moved her hand and toys if i recall then said stop. Again i was reading emails and trying to multi task. So i worry by not moving initially. And then by saying please… pausing and then moving and saying stop instead of all together was that inappropriate? My ocd makes me feel like i was saying please with bad intent but i dont think so i was trying to multi task. It sounds silly i know. Anyone else out there with these same issues.

I recently got a little puppy and I lover her so much! I often am feeling "dog mom guilt" because she wants to play ALL. THE. TIME. and I just feel bad because I need to work and get things done around the house. I hate hearing her cry.

I’ve been doing better and have gained my attraction back to men. It was never gone to begin with, but feel like HOCD is creeping back in. I had a heavy meal and sugary drink before bed and I got hit with a wave a thoughts to be bisexual. I don’t want to be bisexual, I know I’m not. I know it’s OCD, but the way it just feels real. Like the thoughts pop in “I” and it’s freaking me out. I hate this, but I will cope. I have to remind myself I’m not alone. I’m not alone in this battle. I hate how real it feels at times. I know I’m not in denial.

Firstly, no, I do not want to harm myself in any way shape or form. I feel very uncomfortable with these thoughts and I’m not sure how to let them stay without interacting with them. I’ve been really sad lately with some non ocd stuff and it doesn’t help. Feeling sad and that depressive feeling almost reinforces the ocd thoughts and makes it appear more real