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Mornings are terrible. During night i feel awful. I have intrusive thoughts during night. And when I wake up i had quite stranger feelings.

My mind keeps going in circles and it’s so much to think about and I don’t know how to stop it and I’m all alone. I don’t have anyone I can go to and it’s hard for me to feel like anyone cares about me. Maybe my head is spiraling right now? It feels like it is 😭😭😭 I just want it to stoppppp it’s putting me in a fog and I’m so scared ):

Does anyone else get really anxious at night and have a bunch of compulsive habits at night to try and feel calm about being safe at night? For me this includes pushing repeatedly on door bolts and locks and also touching random items over and over again, as well as other random motions I do. Even with these things I can’t seem to relax and feel like I have a constant irrational fear about having my home being broken into, especially at night, and a fear of me or someone in my family being hurt. I don’t know what to do because we have an alarm system and I just feel like I am somehow always thinking of the possibilities and subconsciously listening for noises and I just wish I could calm down:(

Im scared of what’s gonna happen when I die like im so uncertain and I get BAD panic attacks about what’s gonna happen to me like I get these thoughts like if my gonna live forever, like is just a forever loop or is just gonna be nothing. Im catholic and I believe in heaven or hell but im really not sure. I’ve struggled with my faith since I’ve been 13 and it’s getting worse, I’ve heard about all these theories about what’s gonna happen after we die and I always get so scared about them. One time my aunt told me that we are souls, spirits that we are energy and just being in our body having an experience but our souls are immortal so im scared about the thought of living forever that scares me so much because at the same time I want to have peace. There’s other things that really really give me panic attacks about that subject but I can’t list them all here if you want to help me out then I’ll tell you more.

I am looking for some insight to support my 8 year old autistic daughter. She has developed health concern OCD after a bout of norovirus that hit the whole family right around Christmas (the discomfort of the nausea seemed amplified by the fact that it affected the holiday, to which she is strongly attached). She has been struggling significantly with emetophobia since then, seeking constant reassurance. We have trialed an SSRI for the past two months. While the health anxiety reassurance seeking has diminished (from maybe 70% of her day being taken up by it to more like 5%), a new kind of behavior has cropped up that we, her parents, have never seen before. It goes like this: she is doing some very minor, everyday, benign activity like picking up a stuffed animal or putting on a seatbelt. She "sets a goal" for herself (her words) to do xyz in a certain way, such as pick up the stuffed animal by its fabric tag only, not touching any of the stuffed animal's fur, or putting her seatbelt on herself without touching her skin/body with her fingers while she's doing it. If she then "fails" this "goal," such as accidentally touching the fur or herself, then she starts crying, screaming, flailing, and begging us to "get this feeling out of my body." She will hit and scratch her arms and legs, because she says this "failure" leaves her limbs feeling like they are weak, fuzzy, wobbly, numb, or "wrapped in a numbing net." It takes quite awhile for her to calm down from these episodes, and we have tried a lot of things to do so: going for a car ride, me lying on top of her, taking a walk, etc. She has a lot of patterns that she makes walking on the floor (hopping and stepping in certain ways according to lines, scratches, or shapes on the floor), but none of those patterns seem to result in these same kinds of "failures" and subsequent distress. Is this OCD-- specifically Perfectionism OCD? The element of failure really stands out to her. I have been having a hard time even figuring out what is going. Any help would be so deeply appreciated-- this has been so rough on our family.

Hey guys so I just got broken up with in the last week. I’ve always had really bad ocd and self harm thoughts. When my bf and I moved into together I was so happy and he understood how to help me with my ocd. I didn’t have bad thoughts for the full 8 months we were together! And then we broke up bc I found out a lot of things he was lying about. I’m living back home again, single and all of my bad thoughts and urges are back again, I don’t know how to make it stop. Living with him is the FIRST time I’ve had these thoughts go away. Now everything is bad once again. If anyone has any advice that could help I’d appreciate it.

Hey guys! So I’m suffering with this subtype. I feel like I developed a crush on someone of the same sex and I have always identified as a straight woman. I’ve always been attracted to men. I feel like I get the feelings of a crush but it’s always followed by intense anxiety. “What if this crush is real?” “Am I now Bi?” I just can’t shake the feeling that the feelings are real and I need to accept them but then what if it’s false attraction or OCD? “What if I’m in denial?” I’m in a relationship with a man who I really love and want to be with. I only want feelings for him. I don’t want to like women or be attracted to a woman. What do I do?

Hello, I am fairly new to this app. I wanted to speak about the way I dream. I have dreams like I am hurt physically usually bloody either self inflicted or by some random person in my dream. Then I get saved by people I care about like friends or even people that I have a crush on. Or sometimes I have dreams that I speak about tramuatic events that I went through as a child to a crush and the feel bad for me and want to help me. I dont fear these dreams at all but I notice every time I sleep I ball my fists and when I dont I cant sleep.I clench my fists so hard in the morning they are sore. Also these dreams are almost every night.I am also very sensitive to how people talk to me if I am yelled at I shut down and have chest palpitations that radiate to my heart to my arms numbing it. Does anyone else experience any of these? Ive been researching and found myself here. For reference I have been tested for ADHD and I dont have it but I was told I might have OCD from the other symptoms I experience like heavy Intrusive thoughts, anxiety attacks/episodes, depression,dissociation ( like I am not real and even my emotions are like frozen and more) , bothered all day if something is moved by someone else when I put it a certain way, rituals ( blinking, and looking away from something multiple times mostly in number of twos etc), contamination ( washing my hands many times in between getting dressed after eacb task to feel clean), hating certain textures of fabrics or objects(more of a werid one ive had for a long time),procrastination, reassurance on all my action causing me to not think for myself, poor memory or false memory,and more.Any response would be helpful.

18+ I remember a few years ago I was still getting dressed and my gf opened the door to her younger brother without noticing I was still changing and he’s like a little over 3 years younger than me. he must’ve been 14-15 at the time. But I had my bra on I was just putting on my shirt and I can’t remember why but I didn’t say anything even though I noticed. I’m scared I traumatized him. It took my girlfriend like 10 seconds to realize I was still getting dressed. I was kind of off to the side but it looked like he saw me so yeah.

How’s every one doing? I’ve been working on myself a lot lately. OCD therapy, regular therapy, breathwork, Pilates, all the things. Overall I’m feeling stronger every day, but still have triggers and sometimes the OCD rages. I just want everyone to know I’m rooting for you all. OCD is so hard, and I’m so proud of each and every one of you for fighting it. Sending you all lots of love 💖 Pic is a photo I took at the lake this weekend. It was so peaceful.

I have a phobia of a specific sickness, and although I’ve come to realize that the actual experience of it isn’t so bad, the anticipation is what really destroys me. Always wondering if and when. I just can’t stop :( does anyone know how to deal with this? I do my ERP but sometimes it’s like I go mad with the realization that my fear could really happen. I know that if it weren’t this, it would be something else. I mean, it has been, over and over again. And it’s always the same fear of anticipation. Any support or tips? Thanks.

I was in a rush brushing my teeth, I opened the drawer to get toothpaste and I got the water of my brush inside the things in the drawer. I got thoughts that I could contaminate them and that my parents would get harmed. I ignored them and I'm not sure if I responded with "I don't care." I had to reapply toothpaste and it happened again (the water falling) Afterwards, I said "There's germs everywhere I highly doubt that anything will happen" But I got a bit worried, so I wiped them down. I fear that I did something wrong and that I'm evil for this.

should I feel guilty for being in a relationship while struggling with my sexual identity and the soocd that comes along with it? what if I'm not actually attracted to men AND women/non binary people, but just women??? am I wasting mine and his time by trying to work through this while being with him? I've talked to him about this and he says he doesn't want to leave me and supports me no matter what conclusion I could come to, but I'm terrified that I'll come to a conclusion that means I have to leave him. I'm so scared, I want to be with him and have a life with him, but what if this is comp het and saying I'm unlabeled is denial or an excuse??? I love pride month but it just seems like the reason why this subtype has come back full force. any advice would be great 🧡

Not sure if I'm experiencing OCD or actual relationship problems. I was intimate with my fiance one night and shortly after had this immediate feeling of "I don't want to be with you anymore" out of what felt like nowhere. I know all relationships have issues and take work, but all I can think about now is "is this OCD or do I not love him". For context, there are things that bothered me about him and that I did sometimes wish I could change, but I never felt this gut-wrenching panicky feeling before the past week and a half about him, at least not for a while. I'd had similar feelings before but moved past it, all while having other OCD themes show up, so I thought it was all encompassing and felt better after a while. He's a good person, and there are still moments where I settle down in my head and feel like I can do this, but then it all starts up again where I feel like I'm searching for the answer to whether I should or shouldn't try. Different people say I should do different things, and I don't know how to feel as I've only ever had this happen with one other person and I broke it off with them. With them, it was a good thing, but I'm not 100% sure if it would be with this person because he treats me so well and I know I used to love being with him all the time. So like, how do I know the difference, and if I want to get back to the way we were, or have our relationship get better, does that mean we are not facing the end?

Does anyone else believe there is a tie between toxic overbearing mothers and OCD?? Ive had some therapists tell me this in the past. I love my mother but she is insane and gives me so much anxiety. If I am around her for more than 10 minutes my brain and obsessions start spiraling. Its great because I live with her 🫠

I don’t even think this is OCD I’m just looking for advice on this: I fancy females but the thought of sex with them makes me anxious, nervous, guilty and sick why is that, also I’m a male.

Hi I’m looking to connect with people who are experiencing harm/suicidal and pure ocd. I’ve had these themes for a while. The compulsive behaviors have always been in my head (ruminating,catastrophes,what ifs, intrusive commands “do it”, “you want to”, “you will”, “you’re suicidal “). I’ve had other themes in between but these specific ones aren’t letting go. I’m in ERP therapy through NOCD for the last few months, my therapist is great but I’m just having a hard time. I’m just wondering if anyone has overcome these themes? What exposures have you done and how did you get through it? How long did it take you? Etc … any shared experience is greatly appreciated thanks

My entire life anytime I saw something on the news or heard about someone hurting a child sexually or beating/killing them, I would get so angry and sick over it. I still do but ever since developing ocd, my ocd tells me i’m just like those people and really tries to make me believe it and question myself. This theme also latches onto my own family and my children. It’s the hardest and worst theme i’ve had. It makes me not want to live and is so unbearable😩😢

Can intrusive thoughts make you feel crazy? What are yours like I need help mine are so bad . They pop up random when im talking to someone while someone's talking ..... it feels like they are getting worse by the minute .

Someone called me “your brain is not working properly ”.. I was not able to understand their directions due to my OCD condition and feeling brain fog. I was pretending to be fine but I actually cried a lot on my pillow. I have been this way since my entire childhood to many comments and bullying I received from people, and in recovery my old sensitive self came back again… how do I deal with this? I have understood that human beings are practical and that they are self contained to not be affected. But this is destroying my self esteem like a house of cards and I’m sobbing like anything. But it breaks me down too much. I feel completely destroyed lost and alone and tears flow down my face. I realised the world is different in the face of death and pain But I can’t handle the ruthlessness of how this world works. I can’t let go the part of me that is devastated by the facts of cruelty or loss, and gets completely destroyed by its manifestation in world. This incident completely transports me to my childhood self.