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Can ocd give u a completely false memory out of no where that u think is real like can it be completely made up all of it? Bc i had one and it felt real but it didn’t seem like a memory logically what do i do?

Im so depressed... and I feel alone... theres no hope... My pocd keeps saying that my worst fear of unknowingly cybering with a minor has actually happened and it's really triggering the hell out of me... I feel so horrible...My pocd keeps saying I "unknowingly erotically role played with a minor" when idek if this actually happened or not... this was nearly three years ago... (september of 2021) for context we were erotically role playing on an 18+ discord server, (she wasnt verified, but I assumed she was 18+ because we were on an 18+ place) and then she suddenly stopped responding, before leaving the server shortly after an unknown time... im so freaking anxious and scared... her grammar was fine at first, but then as we were going on, she kept making errors like "boxer" or "then" instead of "than"... my pocd keeps saying that I "UNKNOWINGLY EROTICALLY ROLEPLAYED WITH A MINOR" when idek if this happened or not... some people told me she sounds like/is a young adult... chatGPT tells me she sounded like a teenager... I genuinely dont know what to believe anymore... (these two photos are from her account, and the beginning of our ERP... I hope she wasnt a teenager... I really hope she wasnt...)

Hey guys lol So the longer I’ve been in OCD therapy, the more my meds have helped quiet my mind: I realize how many things I have been doing that was compulsive that I didn’t realize was compulsive. And for some reason I felt like those compulsions helped me to feel closer to God. Like felt closer to my values. And now that I’m recognizing what I’m was doing and now that my medicine has helped create space between my thoughts and what to do next, I feel like fear was what helped me be close my values? Can anyone else relate? Or does anyone have tips on how to still feel close to your values with the absence of so much fear and paranoia caused from OCD?

If your also feeling this or your positive and don't want to ruin the mood I would not advise reading this I just hate how I'm always the one with an issue always unhappy stressed angry etc while everyone else seems so happy I wish for once I could feel what they are feeling instead I feel like complete this everyday My OCD has caused SO MUCH problems in my life conflicts and chaos with other people I hate how they are always successful and I am always failing and recently I’ve hated people in general and I have enjoyed human suffering because nobody has ever had empathy for me or cared the slightest when I had ocd Those lucky dipshits just made everything worse thinking I was doing it for no reason when I only did it for ocd If I ever saw someone suffering and in need I would never help because I never got help I’m going to University in a year I don’t know how on fucking earth will I manage it ERP keeps failing and. My ocd is going stronger and stronger consuming me If there was a way to end it all I really would do it I don’t like my life Might as well fail in life because this ocd is never going to go away If I had a friend with ocd maybe I could have helped them or they could have helped me All I know is I need help right now My ocd is one of the most extreme cases probably on earth this Inst an overstatement just meet me and get to know me and you will find and ocd worse than other In my logic and perspective us vs them mentally makes sence And I hate to say it but until ocd has a real cure I don’t think life is worth living

I just saw this notification pop up on my phone, that I was awarded the “OCD Conqueror” badge around 6 months ago. I just wanted to share some advice and support to anyone who is currently struggling, feeling lost, or even feeling better! OCD is honestly a very serious mental disorder. It is known as the “Doubting Disorder”, which I am sure many of you know. It can make you doubt your own character, value, intentions, beliefs, morals and so so much more. I am someone who has lived with OCD for around 10 years now, and honestly, the best advice I could give you guys is to see a therapist specialised in ERP. I was someone who was constantly doing compulsions, avoiding my triggers, trying to neutralise my unwanted negative thoughts. I always believed that these thoughts must have meant something about me. I always believed that I would never be able to live a normal life. I always believed that I would never get better. I have experienced every single sub-type under the sun, whether it has been False Memory OCD or Harm-OCD or whatever it may be, I have pretty much been through it all. I know how difficult it is, and honestly, I know how easy it is to get consumed into your themes. Here’s a little secret: the theme and content is actually IRRELEVANT. (OCD targets the things you love in life, it targets your values, your beliefs, your intentions, and your fears. So the theme and content is IRRELEVANT, because what really is the problem, is our reaction to these thoughts and feelings!) Everyone in the world has unwanted intrusive thoughts, whether they have OCD or not. The difference for those of us with OCD is that we have a much higher intolerance of being able to handle and accept doubt and uncertainty in our life. We have all probably been in this position here: “OMG, why does my brain keep coming up with these thoughts. I hate them. It must mean something terrible about me if it keeps popping up. I need to try and stop them”. At the end of the day, a thought is just a thought. Nothing else. It is literally a stream of words in your mind. Thoughts are not facts. Thoughts are not predictions. Thoughts are not indicators of anything. Thoughts have no influence on real world events. The best advice I can give you guys is this: Fighting with your thoughts and feelings gets you nowhere. Performing compulsions to reduce anxiety and distress gets you nowhere. Avoiding things that you feel will trigger you gets you nowhere. Mentally going over past events or scenarios to try and “figure” something out gets you nowhere. Honestly, coming from someone who has tried all of the above for multiple years, I can confirm that they feel like they are helping you, but truly, they are just making this worse. I got better when I figured out the goal is to just be able to co-exist with the likes of unwanted intrusive thoughts and anxiety. The goal is NOT to banish them. Once you learn that acceptance is the way forward, you will start to realise that your thoughts and feelings and urges or whatever it may be, are not actually dangerous at all. They may make you feel scared, anxious, on edge, and this is okay! Feelings are just feelings, again, they do not mean anything! Just allow everything to be there. At first, this does not feel natural at all. Most likely because your brains have adapted to the “OCD Way Of Life”, such as performing compulsions to banish the feelings of distress and anxiety. But over time, and with support from the community and your therapist, you will be so so glad you made this step and you will start to live your life under your own terms! You all got this! 😎🫶🏾

How can I tell the difference between suicidal ocd and suicidal thoughts?

Has anyone seen improvement from lifestyle changes? If so, what changes did you make?

Hello all. I (20 y/o female) have an intrusive thought that popped up about four months ago and has not been able to leave my head ever since and it is ruining my life. I have a memory (?) of when I was about 7-9 years old (although I really have no idea and my brain has told me varying ages even going up a few years) when I was in the shower and turned around to see my dad popping his head in the curtain to (realistically) either check on me or try to scare me as a prank. He is the most wonderful father and has never done anything inappropriate aside from this “incident” but my brain cannot let this go and is trying to convince me that this was sexual. I have always been a “daddy’s girl” but some days I cannot even speak to him on the phone because this fear that I was somehow abused is so deep in my brain. I’ll have days where I can reasonably tell myself that even if this did happen, he did not see it as inappropriate because I am his little girl, but other days it will disgust me to no end. I’ve brought it up with him once when my thoughts were at their worst but he said he didn’t even remember it happening. My brain will randomly go “hey, think about this–you’re a victim” through out the day and it’s like my whole body will shut down, my face gets hot and my heart starts beating faster and I just feel like all of the joy has physically been sucked out of my body. It often leaves me in a depressive episode. I can’t even fathom going to therapy out of the fear of my therapist telling me that this really was concerning behavior on behalf of my dad and I don’t think I could handle that. A little while back I posted this on a subreddit and someone in the comments said “this doesn’t give me a good feeling…. But it could have been innocent if you say so” and I haven’t been able to forget this. It send me into a total tailspin, if someone from an outside perspective says it’s weird then it must be??? Ever since this thought has popped up I can’t act normally. I sometimes can’t even watch movies that have dads in them because it makes me think of it, any time I hear a sex joke my skin crawls and god forbid anyone make a “sweet home Alabama” joke around me. I’ve never seen anything online about people who have experienced this too which just makes my worry so much worse. I’ve experienced OCD symptoms since early childhood however never anything like this which makes me even more scared that it is real. I truly don’t know what to do with myself anymore, every day just feels like the precious minutes I have between the times this thought pops up.

Does anyone think we are Selfish for worrying so much about our problems. Or is this jus my ocd?

Any tips on how to stop SH?

My symptoms have been getting worse the last few days and it flat out feels now like I’ve become this person and want to cause harm to my loved ones. Like I’m just resisting it. My brain is giving me sensations like I like that and makes me sad at the same time. I can’t tell if it’s anxiety or what or if this is what I want. When this started I knew I never wanted to hurt anyone and these thoughts were intrusive. Now they feel like they’ve become me. Please help.

Does anyone also suffer from emetophobia? Am I alone in this? It feels like I am and like no one truly understands me.

How do you know the difference between OCD thoughts and Intellectual conflicts that anybody could go through? especially if you're someone who loves philosophy and morality delimmas? and also as a young adult who experience a quarter life crisis and/or identity crisis and struggle with changing and growing up, How do you know if what hitting you OCD or something of those?

i can’t stop obsessing over how i look and thinking about how ugly i look i feel like i’m going insane i keep looking at pictures of myself and i just feel so disgusting my lips are so small and without makeup i literally look like a man and i just compare myself to my friends and people i see online all day i literally cant take it anymore like i just feel so worthless all the time bc of my appearance i would literally do anything to feel beautiful

before you read please don’t if you’re not in a good headspace or struggle with ocd doubt!! does anyone else get like this with repetitive things in your head. like i have a confession compulsion and randomly literally all the fucking time i remember random stuff that i feel like guilty for then get the urge to confess then have to stop and wait for it to pass bc it will but then i feel so guilty and like a liar and a bad person for not confessing then i literally go bat shit crazy like hello. idk what’s real or what to feel bad for idk who i am or what im doing or like if im a bad person who’s acting like im not or if im not and im obsessing over random things, and even if they aren’t random and maybe something i wouldn’t do again should i confess to every thing ever, btw when i say this i dont mean things like i entertained someone else or anything.

When my intrusive thoughts get bad and I try my hardest to push them out it feels like I’m physically straining my head, like it legitimately hurts really bad and I feel like I get dizzy and can’t think and I can’t stop focusing and then my ocd causes me to think that there’s something wrong with my brain and that I need surgery or to be lobotomized or something crazy like that, does this happen to anyone else?

i had intrusive thoughts about suicide and wonder why i am like this when i truly dont want it i have fear of death etc suicide health anything i see about suicide or someone harming themselves. it triggers and i reflect it on my self at first it was images and urges now it commands and now it making me second guess if its really ocd i did recently get diagnosed with ocd and im in the process of starting CBT ERP and im scared that its gunna make it worse and i see my ocd it’s affecting my rlsp with my partner i took a break from work i dont go outside much now or do the things i enjoy bc im scared of having a panic attack and i look at everyone enjoying life and laughing and im stuck in my head about things i dont wanna think about ive been on this app for a while and it does help but i find myself excessively looking at people stories and comparing if its what im going through i would spend hours an hours on google comparing suicidal ideation and ocd and if i read something my mind starts getting stuck on that making me feel like thats what i have several times i felt i needed to go to hospital but ik im not suicidal and i dont want them to treat me crazy and now it sounds like i want reassurance lol but i guess i want some advice to get myself out of the thought loop so ican be more present ive tried meditation ive tried grounding techniques maybe im not being paitent with myself i have had obessions in the past and i was good for about 10 yrs and noticed these thoughts back in 2022 but was able to brush em off and at the time i was stressed about looking for a job then my dad passed away in nov andi got real bad urges especially if i had dreams about him but inwoukd be about to get myself together an was confused on what this was and then i watched a tv show and someone hurt them selves and i opened up to my partner about what ive been feeling and then i saw someone brother on facebook commit suicide and its been a crazy spiral from there. i guess my episodes have always been something about ive seen or heard or fears.

So yesterday at night I was okay I just had a mini headache and I was stressing all morning and worrying due to other reasons plus I’m on my menstrual cycle I don’t know if that helps any better. I was watching some videos and I started thinking about what’s my purpose here in life like why do we live if we are gonna die and what is my purpose and I don’t wanna die so I turned around to my safe space my husband he was sleeping already and I hugged him to feel better and all of the sudden it felt like I provoked it or like I made myself think it to harm him and I started freaking out because I was like what no I don’t wanna do that do I actually that’s the love of my life he’s my safe space I love him what would be my life without him and I started getting really bad BUT BAD urges to do it and like my mind was running like to 1,000x I started crying I was having a mini silent panic attack I wanted to stand up and run or do something to get out of my head I wanted to wake him up to reassure me I just felt like I was really gonna snap and like I was gonna stand up and do something like I felt it in my heart and I pressed the SOS button and after I was still kind of freaking because I was like well if I do it everyone is gonna hate me im gonna go to jail and I started freaking out because I felt like I couldn’t control myself cause the urges felt so real and writing it right now I feel it again and I’m really scared I go to a physc because I can’t control myself which yesterday I managed to do on my own but I feels so horrible to think that and I feel like a truly horrible person because they’re thoughts but the actions could be so real and I can’t I was doing a lot better :( I really was I don’t know what happened I want this all to go away and like I try to tell myself it isn’t real why would I act on them and I don’t know if my ocd gets mad and like tries to tell me they are and that I could do them and I really don’t want to I don’t want to do them that’s the truth.

For some reason. The thoughts don’t give me anxiety anymore, wondering if I’m attracted to something doesn’t worry me anymore, I don’t even feel attracted to anything anymore, I always feel a sense of doom whenever I see a picture of a kid, don’t ever try to purposely find any of it attractive, but now my brain make me feel like I don’t care anymore, like I accepted the fact I’m a bad person, that I like these things, and would be into these things, but I don’t want to be. I don’t want to be these things. But why does it feel like I don’t care anymore? Why does it feel like I don’t care that I’ll turn into this person? Like I don’t have an anxiety anymore I asked myself if I found these things. I actually attractive, responded with yes and it felt like a yes, and it doesn’t give me an anxiety anymore??? Like it makes me feel like I accepted it and that I am a bad person, but I don’t wanna be a bad person??? Like it accepted the fact that I’m going to be attracted these things, I’m not attracted to these things??? it’s so complicated. I don’t understand. Why does it feel like I don’t care anymore? I feel like the only person who cares in my body right now? Like I’m not worried I’ll be a bad person anymore inside I’m not, but outside I do care to be a bad person??? I’m so scared. This means I’m gonna turn into a bad person. I know I’m not, and I will never be one. But why Is this happening? Is it a positive reason? negative reason? It just makes me feel like I wouldn’t mind him to be a bad person. But I would, but I just isn’t making me feel that way??? I can’t tell what it means anymore? I don’t wanna be a bad person. I don’t want to be. But every time I get a picture it’s just like I don’t know what to think anymore. Please help me.

For two years, I didn't have ocd symptoms and I was practicing mindfulness, no avoidance and occasional exposures on my own related to the theme and my intrusive thoughts and feelings got way lesser and I didn't have the symptoms for two years and I was doing compulsions related to meta ocd now and then, now my ocd is back again and I'm doubting the recovery process, if I can recover and fear of ocd taking over my life. So now my ocd wants to compulsively check if I'm getting better, if I'm doing the recovery right, if recovery is possible and if I even recovered from real event theme as I was only feeling better and ther was no doing better and it was just time when my ocd was gone. But if you ask me, I would say I can live with my real event theme thoughts and I don't have any triggers regarding it. I know this is my ocd speaking, but did I actually recover from my real event theme ocd or not?