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Is anyone's pocd so severe thst being around children of sny age gives you groinal response. Not only that but extremely sexual intrusive thoughts and phrases that are foul. Like there's no way this is just ocd.

So i have pure O ocd, with rocd. And recently on my 75mg of zoloft, the thoughts have started to spike so bad again. Like in the beginning. Does anyone know what dosage of zoloft has a therapeutic effect. Because my zoloft was working so good on 75 mg, to the point I completely forgot about my thoughts. Then i started talking to a guy i super like. And worried the thoughts would come back./ missed a dose/ so they did. Please all advice!!!

All sorts of things bother me. I can’t even name them. I feel so alone, and I don’t really have many hocd thoughts. But I keep thinking about what’s wrong with me. I really wouldn’t want to be asexual or aromantic — I feel like there is a desire inside me to be close to someone, more intimately, safely. Of course I often think about sex too. I’m 21, and it honestly hurts that even people younger than me experience love, relationships, closeness. And I feel like I can’t, like I’ll never fall in love. And at the same time I hope I’m not a lesbian :( I hope I’m not just forcing myself to be straight, like what if I’m only imagining that I’m straight. I feel like I can’t talk about the topic of men with anyone — I feel anxiety and start getting uncomfortable because I feel like I’m lying to myself, that I’m not straight. And I’m scared that this is a sign that I’m not into men. Because if I were straight, I probably wouldn’t have these feelings, right? But then I imagine a man’s hands caressing me, hugging me… and I actually tend to imagine intimate things with a man. But in real life I don’t like anyone. And if someone would told me to try to find someone, to download a dating app for example, to reach out to someone — suddenly I feel like I don’t want to, like I want to run away, and I start feeling sick. But at the same time I have no desire to date women either, I’ve never wanted a relationship with a woman. I’d rather not even think about it. I keep testing it in my head. Whenever love or relationships are mentioned, I feel like running away. But why do I feel some kind of longing inside, or want to not be left out of that feeling? To also have the chance to love, to experience a relationship, maybe even s*x if I felt trust and closeness. But I really don’t understand any of this anymore. Maybe I’m just too emotional today and it hurts me inside. I really wouldn’t want to find out that I’m a lesbian. Because I’m not even interested in looking for women. I never have been. I never had a reason to. I only admired women and wanted to be like them and yea i like my friends but that’s it. It troubles me. I guess I don’t know what love is. At the same time, why did I have that thought recently about that one man, a long time ago — just the image of him giving me a kiss on my forehead, and then later the idea that he gave me flowers, and it made me cry. I felt it in my chest. And even when I remembered it later during the day, I didn’t feel uncomfortable. It felt good. Like it warmed my heart a little. But I’m scared that it’s fake. And what if men actually disgust me. 💔

Need to hear the success stories of people who actually conquered their fears, who can actually sit in discomfort and bear the uncertainty without trying to researching for the triggers or outcomes of their assumed fears.Has anyone in this group had actually done that ?? The tips to get over OCD are everywhere available but am looking for someone actually done that successfully.Coz I have almost lost Hope that i can ever recover am fighting with OCD for the past 18 years.

Hey, everyone! I wanted to see if anyone else has experience or advice for this sort of thing. Sometimes I become extremely paranoid that my best friends of about a decade secretly hate me, and that they're all talking behind my back. I know this might not necessarily be OCD, since I hear that a lot of young people go through this. However, I know that my OCD only makes it worse with the rumination and fear. Does anyone have any advice on how to go about this? Thanks for reading!

like the title says, i don’t want reassurance i just desperately need some guidance but my posts keep getting blocked even though i’ve posted like 3 times just now :/ if someone could hear me out that would be really appreciated!!!!

Whenever I see cute social media posts about relationships and romance, I feel like I shut off emotionally and go numb immediately. I start thinking "Why don't I want that" or "Why don't I feel that way" when I actually do feel that way at times. It's so upsetting and makes me think I need to break up with my boyfriend :( The "maybe, maybe not" strategy is really difficult for me because I'm too hyperaware of the circumstances of my feelings. Is there something I can do to ease into accepting my doubts and thoughts?

I don’t want to stop talking to him but I also enjoy flirting / conversing with other men . I feel guilty about this and don’t know how to handle this situation. We’ve been on and off for over a year partly due to my ocd and partly due to his own issues . I feel like I keep sabotaging it but I also feel like my needs haven’t been met lately and it’s like at his convenience but I get so anxious ab him moving on w someone new im so possessive of him but I also don’t want to commit it’s so horrible

I feel like some days im doing amazing then I fall and I’m not getting better. Just now I was resting my mind you I’m on my lady days and I suddenly was resting my eyes and felt like an adrenaline rush and was awaken scared and my heart started to go fast but physically felt light and a lost of energy like almost slightly numb. My heart was fast and I’m wearing a heart monitor (instructed my the doctor) for 7 days and everytime I have a symptom of a fast heart rate I’m supposed to tap it. And record my bp. I struggle with low bp. And it’s been a long time since I’ve actually been scared. I’ve tapped on it multiple times and what is that supposed to do save me? I feel like there’s something wrong and idk if us girls whenever we have our lady days our hearts get upset I know mine does. My bp right now is 105/69 and 88 palpitations idk if it’s normal.

Hi all! Looking for tips or advice on managing ROCD while working through real relationship difficulties. While deciding to stay or split, the daily stress is compounded by ROCD waves, which are constantly triggered by long difficult talks and therapy w/partner. This is a normal part of the process…but ROCD makes the push and pull feel waaay bigger, sometimes for days at a time. There’s so much thinking about the relationship that can easily dip into mental rumination if I’m not careful—but there is also a lot of real thinking to be done here! Anybody been in a similar situation? What kept you grounded? What did you learn?

Hi, everyone. Having a rough go of things today and am in need of some support from members undergoing ERP while also having an ADHD/ADD diagnosis. Can anyone provide some insights on how to effectively do ERP when I have ADHD? It seems like the two disorders love to use my brain as a battle zone when I’m trying to practice an exposure, and it makes it difficult to sit and focus on what I need to do. Recently, it’s been the case where I start an exposure & OCD is like “Are you sure you’re even doing this right? Stop the exposure, read about how to do it the right way just to make sure you’re getting the most out of this & don’t come back until you’ve done so.” Meanwhile, ADHD is spiraling out of control and won’t let me sit down to focus on the exposure. It’s like I’ll plum forget I’m even doing one in the first place and will move on to something else! It’s frustrating because it’s almost as if I draw a blank on what I should be doing despite having it in writing directly in front of me, but searching up the “how” has almost become compulsive.

Anyone else here that has autism, inattentive adhd, and experiences pure O? I think this is me. I’m diagnosed with autism and OCD and am in the process of taking medication for what could be adhd. What’s it been like for you guys living with all of these? For much of my life what I do is driven by emotion. When I’m feeling great, it’s easier for me to feel up to completing a task or doing something that interests me. When something gives me anxiety and causes me to overthink, it can become overwhelming, I’m kind of shut down and in survival mode. I’m more reserved, less talkative, really stressed, and my mind is just racing. I don’t feel in control of my mind. It’s hard for me to think clearly and feel like I’m able to process my emotions and thoughts. I feel like if I’m to go and do something, I need my emotions and values to be in sync. Otherwise, I overthink, I can’t focus, I’m anxious, and it feels like I’m not being genuine. I want my life to be fulfilling. It took me an hour just to write all of this. This was very difficult for me to do. Lots of deleting and overthinking because I wanted to get it right, along with feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed because I didn’t know exactly what and how I was going to write for this post. At times, it felt like I was scatterbrained and my brain just went blank. I guess it just feels like I got a lot of background noise in my head right now. I wish that I could’ve written this message in such a way where I could’ve felt like it had a clear beginning, middle, and end (since I like to do things with intention). I’m just going to send it as is though because my anxiety would spike and I would overthink a lot more. I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this ❤️.

I can’t afford any therapy or NOCD. I can’t work due to my ocd and I have no insurance. I have no monthly income. My family who I live with say I don’t need therapy so they don’t want to pay. Plus they can’t afford it either. Im stuck.

Just two months ago, I had been in a relationship where I thought she was my forever. I still sit here hoping she is, but I can’t assign it certainty. My OCD is a big part of us not being together anymore. Confessions tore her down as I was seeking reassurance. So why do I love the OCD? I am on a journey to be my purest self. If I didn’t truly care about the things and people around me, I probably wouldn’t have a lick of OCD. Having this diagnosis confirms that I do truly care about the world around me. I hate it because it pushed me away from a beautiful woman who I yearn for to this day. Maybe the right woman will know how to understand my OCD, maybe the perfect woman doesn’t have to understand it. Who knows? What I do know is that I’m not alone. To the ones reading this, we aren’t alone. You have the privilege to be able to read, write, perceive, we are living. We are alive and I hope we can say that for plenty of decades. I hope to find what’s meant for me. Until then, we’re on an unknown path that we must be comfortable in exploring.

2 weeks ago a guy I’ve been on and off with for a long time we spent time in an air b and b together. I was excited we were exchanging gifts for fall. We got there and we ate and watched tv and around 7 pm his mom called I was instantly upset. I know it’s a bad habit but I go silent when I’m upset or bothered it’s a coping mechanism even for a long part of my life I was mute because of depression and childhood trauma. I was upset because his mom is overprotective of him and she just thinks that I am a bad person and thinks I’m competing with her. She assumes every time we hang out we are having s*x which makes me angry all the time because it shows she has low standards. And he agrees with her because his mother’s love is more than for any woman he will ever date. Point of the story we were watching a movie then I was bored of it then we watched TikTok and then I was cracking jokes with him. At some point we were wrestling and then we were kissing but I was pulling away from him saying no. I am the same height as him but he is stronger than me so even when I’m pulling away I can’t.He had my arms pinned down. I eventually give in to the kiss and we make out then at some point he pulls away and says we can’t do that and then he says he feels like he assaulted me. I denied it but I was mad because at that point I wanted to continue so I went to bed mad. Then in the morning I initiated the kissing but then it was like he was kissing me back then pushed away immediately I stopped. Why do I experience this with him? He has always done this with me especially when he wanted to be on the receiving end never the initiating end for my pleasure. I also have just become mute with him because he doesn’t understand me I have autism and it’s hard for me to let my guard down I am constantly masking. He has manipulative behaviors towards others but a part of me thinks he will change the other part has given up. He cares about me but it’s like sometimes a switch turns on and he changes.

Has anyone ended a relationship because of ROCD, almost preemptively, out of fear of hurting the other person or because of obsessive fears that they might be cheating, and then regretted it afterward? We have gotten back in touch and I have already changed the dynamic. I am no longer seeking reassurance, I am sitting with the discomfort, and I am handling the anxiety in a healthier way. My question is: for those who have been in this situation, how did you handle the night before the first date after reconnecting? Specifically, the obsessive thoughts about how to act normal, not seem over eager, not chase, and not slip back into reassurance seeking.

i’m scared if i’m dying or if i have a tumor my side head hurts on my left and it feels like something is crawling on my head and my eye kinda hurts idk what to do help.

Guys I need help issues I've been going through and I honestly need help because if I was masturbating earlier today and it's felt like I purposely thought of my father why it's just I don't know why I just did and I feel so weirded out by it it's just like my thought just starting you know I don't know how to explain it it was just that was doing it and then my brain just focused on that instead my for some reason like it felt like I chose to think it's I am sorry if I'm not explaining it well but I feel like a weirdo and I don't want to be near my family anymore like I've been going through a lot and this is just horrible it's just like I chose to thank the thought and it felt like I wanted it and I feel so weird at all if someone had the same issue please let me know I just want to know I'm not alone in this it's not even that I also had sexuality issues because recently I've been down a spiral of looking at transgender and feminine men content and it's just like confusing for me I think it's just because my brain makes association of men that just made me think of my dad because I'm 18 and young and I'm on explorer myself so after I do it to be so types I honestly just feel shame and regret I don't think I am gay at least not that I know because afterwards I don't really like it but I just feel shame when I do it but also I feel so horrible because it felt like I thotght it on purpose like it's just I don't know how to explain it I just thought it and now I'm afraid

I want to know whats the worst thoughts / content you ever got and how you got through it , and what about your relationship? Because I’m currently having thoughts that go like “imagine xyz act “ (sexual ocd) and it can throw in things like my bf friends names or even continue the statement like that and it bothers me so much . I feel like I’m going numb yet at the same time I feel really sad and depressed about it

Tw: intimacy I’ve had bad ROCD, especially around intimacy and sex. It was actually manageable for a little while but now it’s gotten bad again. Sometimes when I’m half-asleep or not paying attention I get subconscious thoughts or little flashes of wanting/imagining intimacy. The second I snap back to reality I feel instantly disgusted and sick to my stomach. There’s kind of an opportunity to date someone right now but the whole idea terrifies me. I have literally zero experience (and I’m not that young), so people are always surprised and it makes me feel weird and alienated, like I can’t just be “normal” about it. On top of that my retroactive jealousy is awful. I can’t get over the other person’s history or body count, especially if anything was casual, because it goes against everything I actually want. Logically I don’t even care that much about sex or pleasure, but my brain is completely latched onto it. I can’t feel comfortable being touched by someone who’s touched other people that way. I hate the idea of being someone they just settle with. I hate the idea of them teaching me anything because all I can think about is how they learned it with someone else. Yet I want love so, so badly. I just want to feel safe and comfortable with someone while my mind is finally quiet instead of screaming “they’ve slept with other people, you’re not special, they won’t find it as special with you because you’re not the first.” It’s so frustrating and exhausting. I want a perfect relationship while knowing no one is perfect and has a past. :< Anyone else stuck in this exact mess? I could really use some hope. I know I keep posting this but I'm just feeling hopeless and scared. I know it'll get better but right now it's very bad.