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Can I talk to someone on here about a situation? I'm willing to give advice or listen but my brain is on loop

I don’t think this has much to do with obsessions but I would like some help :( I’m 17 years old, very good in school I have a 3.9 GPA. I took the SAT earlier this month and got a score of 980 :/ I also got a 13/24 on the essay and writing is my passion. I’ve been feeling very dumb and useless and I do not want to continue leaving. Any advice?

It’s so hard to feel like this theme is really ocd and not just denial. I’m so scared :( and I feel like me not being in a. Relationship / having little experience romantically and sexually is proof

I’m constantly enjoying my intrusive thoughts, the anxiety isn’t even there anymore idk what to do. I can’t take it anymore

I was sitting and got the random intrusive thought "Go smear soap all over your TV and yourself." It was a thought. It's my understanding that we aren't supposed to do anything with intrusive thoughts. My therapist, who works with OCD, said "In the grand scheme of things, it wouldn't matter whether you smeared soap all over your TV or yourself." I don't understand what they meant by that. I thought the whole point was to allow the random, weird, intrusive thought to be there without doing compulsions. I'm not sure what the purpose of digging into the content is. With OCD out of the picture, it'd still bother me to to smear soap everywhere. Basically why did my therapist say "In the grand scheme of things."? It's causing me a lot of distress and throwing me off in what I'm supposed to be doing therapy wise. I thought we accepted the thought itself, not the content inside of the thought.

If you’ve experienced several ocd themes, has one theme felt different than the rest? Have some themes really felt like ocd to you and even though the thoughts were distressing, you understood it was ocd as opposed to maybe one theme that really didn’t feel like ocd? If that makes sense? While most themes I’ve experienced were highly distressing, I feel like they don’t get under my skin quite as much because I truly feel they are ocd thoughts.

even when i’m not actively obsessing, I do things so that people don’t think i’m gay. THAT IS DENIAL. THAT IS SOMETHING ONLY A GAY PERSON IN DENIAL WOULD DO. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP.

someone please help! I've been showing pure o symptoms for about a month now. terrible intrusive thoughts, rumination, shame, guilt, doubt.. i feel like shit. i decided to open up about this to my mom (I'm 15) so that i could seek help and she doesn't understand. She thinks that I'm just being dramatic, that this is just a phase, that i just need some fresh air and a distraction like doing chores blah blah.. i told her that i could have ocd but she started saying that ocd is obsessing over organizing, cleanliness and other stereotypical shit... i even showed her articles explaining my situation and she seemed to get uncomfy and tried to change the subject. whenever i bring it up she either makes jokes about it to make me "laugh it off" or mutter something like "yeah yeah" and it's so annoying. today she even told me that she's "depressed" and that if she can pull through then so can I (she's isn't clinically depressed she's never seen a therapist in her life). she doesn't understand the severity of my situation. im afraid my intrusive thoughts will start getting worse if im left untreated. she really made me think that maybe im just making this up and that im just a dramatic little b*tch. ive always loved my mom and she's always been supportive but i feel so betrayed rn. i feel helpless

Im struggling with my faith! Any Bible believing Christians here to talk?

My OCD makes me physically sick, I can't function. My mom was watching the show Big Sky and it's about sex trafficking and the question popped in my head "do I think sex trafficking is hot?" but OF COURSE I DON'T but why why does this have to torture me I want it to be done!

Omg my real life ocd is just unbearable :( For all you who have this, how long do your "episodes" normally last?? I have lost all appetite and I'm so drained ☹️

How do you explain ocd to your family? They don’t seem to understand how my brain works differently no matter how many articles I send. I have contamination ocd which they kind of get but tend to say I’m normal and it’s not a bad thing I’m worried because I’m being safe but they don’t understand how irrational it is. They think bc I’m a smart person i wouldn’t have irrational mental and physical compulsions but I can’t get them to understand it’s not about intelligence. Even I don’t really understand how I can logically know something but still feel this way. What’s worse is I struggle mostly with POCD and wish I could explain it to them but feel like they would either be scared of me or think it’s silly and I’m stupid. Do any of you have tips/relate?

18+ I was such a horrible boyfriend. I was friendly and flirty with other girls and I would always justify it by saying that I wasn’t cheating (which I never did). I also got super drunk during a family vacation and I don’t remember anything but I fear i may have kissed someone, even though my family has to me that I didn’t because they were with me 99% of the time. I realize however that it doesn’t take a physical act to hurt your partner. Flirting is just as bad. I don’t know why I was that way. I was always an attention seeking idiot. My guilty conscience led me to develop OCD. Now all I do is obsess over every day of my life trying to figure out if I did anything wrong so I can confess it to my partner. I wonder if I’ll ever be enough for her again. I feel so unworthy of her love. She is hurting so much and I can’t believe I caused her that pain. She tells me to let it go but I feel like she deserves to know who I was. She says she forgives me because I am no longer that person but I can fucking forgive myself. I’ve tried meditating and doing affirmations but it’s been months and I feel like I am tainted forever. I led her to believe that I was someone that I wasn’t. I told her I only had eyes for her but I still found other girls attractive and watched porn behind her back. I don’t know what to do. I don’t eat or sleep or do anything but be in my bed crying. I love her so much and I can’t believe I was such a piece of shit. I want to move forward but I don’t know how to. We’ve been together for over 5 years and I can’t believe I am just now realizing all this. I wonder if it’s too late. I’ve been an atheist for years and I’m even praying out of desperation. I hate myself

I don't know how to put this but... I'll try my best... The pain that I'm suffering now is too deep. I'm struggling to catch my breath every second. I can't sleep, I can't be awake... I can't do anything. I'm freezed in this stage of endless pain that has teared my soul apart. There's nothing left now... I can't see things work for me. I'm too tired of this... I can't take any step further. There's no end to this. My soul is dead from inside...

Please help!!! Right now I am having major spike, I have always been a curious kid and I watched stuff on internet as a very young child but I have always been a boy crazy person and i was never attracted to girls but ever since I have started with these thoughts that what if I might be bisexual or lesbian. My mind keeps telling me that what if I watched those thing because I might be bi or lesbian. I don't want to be bisexual or lesbian but my mind keeps running back to this thought of what I did as curious child. I feel bad about myself and feel wretched that why did I do it. I am so scared.

I’m having a really hard time resisting my suicidal thoughts right now. I keep declining more and more and I just want to be put out of my misery at this point. I’m feeling like there’s no hope for my future, and I also can’t even make it through the present. I don’t know what to do because I don’t WANT to die but I feel like it’s the only thing that can make things better

i feel like i won’t get a diagnosis if i went in and tried. that’s my biggest fear. i would feel so much shame and sadness if i didn’t, i don’t want people to think i’m gay and if i don’t get diagnosed with ocd that’s what the ppl i told will think (which is just my mind but still). it safer almost for me not to get diagnosed because if i don’t have it i don’t know what i would to. everything would get so much worse

Does anyone else who’s 20+ and never seriously dated before afraid that this messed up your love life forever? Because I used to look forward to getting to know a guy romantically one day and feeling comfortable enough to let them be around me in that way and now I’m just afraid that if I ever get into a relationship I’m not going to like it and it’s just gonna confirm everything I’m afraid of :/

Hey guys!! Thank you to the other people who commented on my last post and liked it. It helped me feel a lot less alone. But I am struggling with something really weird. I think right now I'm dealing with a bunch of subtypes of OCD but my main obsession is that "what if my boyfriend is a rapist/pedo?" And it's really really getting to me because I KNOW that he's not, he's literally the sweetest person in the world. But my brain is turning every good thought I have about him into something terrible. It's latching onto everything, making me check my feelings constantly, latching onto how I feel about gifts he given me, latching onto to even certain words he's said to me. And my brain always has something negative to say about him. It's driving me nuts. Because I sincerely love him and I do not want our relationship to end. And I'm scared I'm in denial or something, what if I don't have OCD what if this is all an excuse to hide something that you truly feel about him? And the thought of that sends me into a state of depression. It feels like there's an evil voice in my head all the time that is not mine. Telling me to do things that I never want to do. Saying I have to do them or my boyfriend will die, and if I don't do it I will die, or I'll lose control and kill him because deep down that's how I truly feel or something. That I want to kill him??? I feel like because I'm pushing away these thoughts, it's making me feel like I need to confess to something that I don't think actually happened to me. But everytime I let them just try to pass, it's an automatic for me to respond to them and ruminate. I just don't know what to do. I really really really don't want to ruin my relationship. I just want to feel happy and normal again and content. I'm scared I won't feel that away again unless I leave him or do the terrible things that my intrusive thoughts want me to do. That scares me so much. I really do someone who can relate. I know this is long and I don't think anyone will read this. But if you do, thank you it means a lot.

How can I stop relying on snacks and staying up late for making me feel better? So I’ve gotten into the habit of eating snacks and watching tv with my brother before bed. We will usually start at around 12:30-1am and finish by 2am, to which I’ll watch something on my own until 4-ish am. While I’m watching with my brother I’ll snack on something, most of the time being hot Cheetos. A couple years ago I was addicted to eating them because they taste amazing and back then I think I was kinda depressed since I was living away from home at the time so they were my comfort food. I stopped eating them for a while because I had eaten so much it messed up my stomach and gave me horrible acid for a while. I picked the snack back up a few months ago after over a year and a half and while they’re just as addictive as before, I limit myself to eating some most nights instead of throughout the day in binges. Anyways, with my late eating and staying up so late (which results in me waking up between 12-2pm), I’ve started gaining weight. I’m female, 24, 5’7, and I used to weigh about 145-150 but now I’m hitting 165. This is the heaviest I’ve ever been and it’s making me panic. I used to go out a lot and walk around all day before as well which I think kept me somewhat in shape but with the pandemic having us stay home it’s taken that away from me. I know this isn’t a great excuse though because I could work out at home, but walking has always been my thing. Another thing as well is I feel I’m relying too much on my staying up and snack consumption to make me feel better. Most of the time I look forward to that time because it keeps me at peace and my OCD/anxiety feels at bay. I think I’ve been using this as a crutch and forming an unhealthy habit in order to avoid dealing with scary feelings. Now of course I’ve gained weight and I’m starting to look it as well and it’s taking hits at my self-esteem. Not to mention I deal with hormonal acne so my lower face is constantly broken out. How can I learn to drop these bad habits and adopt new ones without fear of my comfort food/time?