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When you wake up do you really feel like you don’t love your partner anymore....every day it like that..

Today was the worst day. I finally got tired of fighting with the anxiety and said I'm just not going to try and figure this out anymore. I worry I'm not handling this the right way. I feel like I gave myself reassurance earlier because it got so bad. Before I was able to tolerate uncertainty better, today feels like not at all 😥

If thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings, why do we do anything? Or how can I tell what I really want?

Really nervous and getting intrusive thoughts from talking to this one guy on the internet So there’s this internet friend that I’ve had for a while now. I always thought that I had a lot in common with him, so automatically my HOCD gives me the thought “you might make a good couple”. Today, he messaged me, and though I was already nervous, my heart starting pounding when I found out that not only do we have similar interests, he has high-functioning autism just like me. Now there was even more to reinforce that idea about us making a good couple, and it was making me freak out. I honestly don’t know why talking to this guy in particular makes me so anxious. Maybe it’s because of the thought exercise above, and because this isn’t an ugly dude either. I am aware that trying to prove that it’s not because I actually have a crush on him or whatever is counterproductive. Just wanted to vent about this.

Anyone with emetophobia on here right now? (Fear of throwing up)

⚠️TW: PORN⚠️ someone please give me tips on stopping to watch porn. it makes my intrusive thoughts worse and also makes me insecure about my body🥲

I took an “am i bisexual quiz?” about 6 weeks ago, 2 weeks before my HOCD relapse. was me taking that quiz a compulsion? (i got straight as my answer) for background, I have suffered from this theme on and off for 7 years, since I was 12. not looking for reassurance, trying to weed out the compulsive behavior the remains after an episode.

Do you think social media (Instagram specifically) can be harmful when in a crisis or in a period of time where OCD is particularly strong and present? I deleted Instagram from my phone because it felt like it implied exposure to too many triggers.

Could anyone help?? Basically I kinda see everyone as just humans. And this is hard with my OCD because firstly, when it comes to gender, a lot of non-binary people see things similarly and that’s how they realised they were non-binary. And the fact that I see logic in their perspective on how we’re all just people is really scary to me. Secondly, it’s hard with sexual orientation OCD as I worry I could fall inlove with anyone, for their brain and personality not gender. And I think this is good, but it’s hard with OCD. I do feel more attracted to men physically (though I often doubt this). On the whole, I always thought it was kinda cool how I saw people as people, labelled by society and stuff. But now I’m scared that this means my own identity is compromised. I don’t know what to do. It feels like I just have to accept I’m no -binary and pan sexual!!!

Any tips for taking care of yourself when you're very fucking depressed? My habits are really bad these days, I don't exercise, I eat like shit, I don't sleep well, I'm just on screens all day long. I don't know how to stop because I don't see any point but at the same it's just making me feel worse about myself..

I had a hard session. I told my therapist I think how I imagine sex is weird. She said I should do some exposures and whatever I think or feel about sex or whatever I feel towards a man or a woman is ok. Just be accepting without analysis and sit with the feelings. I know it will be helpful, but I'm massively triggered! I'm scared to do the exposure because (I'm a woman) and I feel like I feel alot of sexual feeling towards women and I'm afraid to face them. I feel so afraid it will be true by doing this. My OCD is like this is the biggest proof and how could you have ignored this the whole time?! I feel like an idiot! When I think of sex I'll usually be triggered by women or a feeling of arousal that I have and then I think of sex. It gets confusing because I don't know if I want to think of a woman, but I don't feel much towards guys. I don't have alot of fantasies about men and I rarely feel arousal towards them. Or if I do think of sex with a guy I'm having thoughts about womens boobs and feeling like I'm aroused. I never really think of doing to a guy. [No offense to any men] But, I have felt disgust and even uninterested in their bodies. I have felt aroused by the act of sex with a guy but I have alot of confusing feelings. I just feel like a crazy person right now and I feel really triggered. How could I think I'm straight if I'm feeling this way? I just feel like I've pushed all this aside for along time and haven't examined it at all. I just needed to vent and get this out.

About to give up no one understands me

any tips on how to recognize compulsions? those mental compulsions lists you can find on the internet are great indicators for sure but they're kinda too vague in my opinion. like what does "mental rumination" truly look like. i don't even think that all people have the same compulsions. so im asking, is there a way to know what counts as compulsive behavior? i hope this isn't too confusing

everyone says I’m the only one who can know my sexuality, but I feel like I KNOW i’m bisexual. I can’t do this. please kill me.

HOW IT BEGAN. please tell me if you think I’m bi/gay I’m begging for honesty. i went to the mall with my friend and my mom and all day, i had this weird feeling in my vagina, like just there was a feeling like an ache, and it was literally to every single woman i saw- old, fat, ugly- it didn’t matter. then we were in line at the food court and i remember thinking, “this means you’re a lesbian” and I was like “no, i dont look at girls like that!” but then I was like “oh jesus do I??”. then it went away for like, 2 weeks, but as i spent time alone watching movies over christmas break, i just kept getting these thoughts that i might be gay, like creeping into my head like "you need to think about this" and id be watching movies and feel like a single pulse to completely non sexual stuff of women. and so i did think about it and it was all i was thinking about, but I wasn't having like terrible anxiety, it was more like I just was thinking about it so much and felt removed from myself. but there were also groinal responses right away, like before it was a full blown obsession. like id be looking at a conventionally pretty actress in a movie, and i would feel ****sorry this is NSFW***** a single pulse down there? it was so weird, and nothing I had ever felt before but I didn't like it. I don't know if those were groinals though, or if that was just me getting turned on? I dont know and I've agonized over it for years. anyways, i went to school after break for one day and i was still thinking about it, and so I said "if this is still happening, then I'm going to talk to mom about this"and so I told my mom, she told me it was perfectly normal to be thinking about this because i was going through puberty, and she told me it didn'[t mean i was gay or bi. then she said, even if you turn out to be a lesbian, we will love you no matter what. and I felt so happy that I wasn't a lesbian! I was so relieved. I went to school on cloud 9 and was my old self. Then, the doubts crept back in, and then thats how it started.

Anyone have any tips for stopping ocd related anxiety attacks, before they escalate?

Can OCD make you feel scared just in general without being able to pinpoint a specific cause? Also, do you ever get a super irrational thought that's so stupid yet you can't shake the feeling it could be true? Like you can question the ever living crap out of it because you know it's silly but you just can't shake it?

I was doing fine for a couple of days now I’m super anxious. I have a lot of school work to catch up on and I just want to be able to focus on that instead of my thoughts :(.

So im at the stage where this is telling me what i want. And im starting to believe this. I just dont know whats reality anymore. I feel like im just going to live in pain and misery for the rest of my life 😥

I’m trying to fantasize about women and me being romantic with women but I get intrusive thoughts of men and women with male body parts. I feel like I’m losing it.